Does love last, and yes how do i tell if it is that kind of love?

Guess i just realized, im afraid to be with people who love me, cause im afraid theyr love may disppear in any second, whitout no reason whatsoever. This is because as a child i heard a lot from a person that love is not everlastying, and if a person tells another that ill love u forever, thats a ly, cuse love may end at any moment. It always seemed stupid to me, but somehow i fear this might happen, cause i cant find a reason for it not to happen. So what im asking for, is that reason that makes love last.... If u know it, pls answer this question. If u want to ironize or mock me, pls dont answer.

Does love last, and yes how do i tell if it is that kind of love?
This is a great question and no it's not silly, I totally feel the same way. Like all of a sudden love will end. I know my love for someone wont end however I always feel that theirs will. There's only one way to get through it and that is like the person said above me; Take a chance. I finally after a really long decided to open myself up to it and it will be 2 years in November and still seems to be going strong. I still think to myself everyday when he'll stop loving me but I know I can't think like that because I need to cherish the love we have now and not dwell on what might happen tomorrow because your only live your life half full and not to the fullest.





Good luck and remember take the chance and also know true love never ends... you may realize later that the relationship didn't work because you and your partner were not able to put more into it than just that "the LOVE" Sometime love is not all you need and thats the stuff that can end all of a sudden but its not the love. Because even if you seperate your still gonna love them and their still gonna love you too.
Reply:Love?





Everlasting?





When you meet the right person at first there is a connection.


Then you need to learn to give, take, compromise .....


This is a lot of work. Love is something that takes years to build. Respect, family, holidays .,....... It can happen





Find the person you can connect with and make it work, and make a future!





Good Luck!
Reply:The only way to find true love is to know and love yourself. If you don't truly love yourself, you'll spend all your life trying to fit into someone elses mold of what love is. That kind of love will never be right for you because it's coming from them. True love, the kind that never ends, must always begin in your own heart. Love that starts there is never wrong and therefore never ends


This is not to say that the people you decide to love will always be there. But the love you have for those people will always continue. I know it sounds selfish for me to say you must love yourself first and best. It's not. If you try it any other way, you're ripping off those people,but, more importantly, you're ripping yourself off. You'll be denying yourself the most beautiful of Gods gifts.
Reply:Yes it does, I didnt fall in love with my husband (boyfriend at the time) until 6 months after we were dating so we've been in love for almost 6 years now. You never stop loving them if its true love, you would jump out infront of a car and risk your life for them, you look at them and think they are the most incredible thing on the planet and would do anything as long as she is happy..love it not selfish.
Reply:Love takes effort to make it last. You only get out of something what you put into it.





The rewards outweigh the risks when it comes to love. Take a chance. You might get burned, but you might not either.
Reply:Hi Julia,


How are you doing today?


Love is one of the most confusing and wonderful parts of life.


But take heart, do not live in the fear that all the people who love you will at some point of time abandon you.


Love can never disappear, and you need to learn how relationships are built and nurtured over time, because nothing can happen overnight.


Who is this person you have mentioned , who told you that love is not everlasting...was it your friend? Anyway who ever it was , has portrayed a hazy picture to you about love.


Let us put it this way,


There sure is no guarantee in life, but the way we live it, the maturity we show in overcoming obstacles through its course and our honest thoughts go a long way in defining the kind of life we will live.


I read somewhere that


"People who are insecure for whatever reason will either subconsciously or consciously overcompensate in another way. They act as if they are greater than they are, for example, more intelligent or more broad-minded. It should not be necessary for them to appear different from who they really are, but nevertheless, they cannot help it. Any person who experiences insecurity usually offsets it in some way; perhaps he will not seem to tire as fast as others, may appear more serious, or not laugh or relate as much as others. But when a person does not seem open, others usually detect such behavior as arrogance or pride. In reality, it may be a mask for insecurity."


So Julia, know that this kind of feeling within you is not healthy in any way.


Coming to the second part of your question as to what actually makes love last,


*For one, the reason you love someone goes a long way in deciding its validity. Do not get into a relationship just for the sake of it, or for the wrong reasons altogether.


*Basic values like transparency, kindness, care and being true understanding goes a long way in building a lasting relationship


*One of the most important thing you need to realize is that, life is not a bed of roses. In an unpretentious relationship you will come across a lot of instances ,situations that can be very demanding, it can test your patience to its limit. These are the times which could leave an indelible imprint in both your lives, because one day you look back, these will be the first things that crop up , and if have handled them with grace aeons ago, you will be strengthened by the very realization of it.





Above all believe that As long as God is in Heaven , all goes right on Earth.


Knowing you are loved gives you insurance. But insecurity can seep in once you believe nobody loves you. You may feel that you are misunderstood. You might think that you do not live up to the standard or that you are inferior-so many unfounded fears can float through your mind. But in reality, it is not so. These fabrications which your mind creates unceasingly are enough to make you doubt and this gives way to the chill of fear that pervades throughout your entire body. But if you chip away the wall of fear that surrounds your heart, the heart of God will melt away with His love the lock that keeps it prisoner. When you allow God to dwell within you, your fears should disappear.


I hope this helped.


Take care.
Reply:Does your heart race when you are near this person. Do your palms sweat and you feel like you are floating when you are around him or her?





This won't last.





Is this person's bad side tolerable to you? Do you have no desire to try to change this person? Do you have a similar or complimentary outlook on life?





This kind of love should last.





However, there are no guarantees. Living requires taking risks. Many people who live in California are afraid of earthquakes, but that doesn't prevent over population in the state.





Quoting my favorite line in the movie Moonstuck, "Get over it!"