Doesn't believe in love?

I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months now. We live together and are pretty happy together. Its kinda the opposite attracts kind of thing. I'm 21 and he's 24. The problem is he was hurt really bad by a ex girlfriend and no longer belives in love. I on the other hand Love Love. I believe thats love makes life so much better. Its not that I fall in love alot of strive for love but when I do love someone Its a big deal to me. I love him but he doesn't believe in love anymore. I know I can't force him to change his mind or anything because that will only push him away but I want him to know that love is still real. What should I do or is our realtionship worth pursuing?

Doesn't believe in love?
If he doesn't believe in love then you are in a one sided relationship. You have to ask yourself if you are receiving as much as you are giving. If you are not getting your needs met then it is time to cut your losses and move on
Reply:Give him time...I'm sure somewhere deep down, he does believe or at least hope that love is real.


After someone has been hurt, they want to detach themselves from the thing that caused the original injury.


If you love him, be patient. Just show him how much you love him and how great it can be to put down his guard, open his heart, and give love another try.





Putting yourself out on the ledge and hoping no one pushes you over is HARD! That's what love can be like sometimes. Hopefully, one day someone comes along and helps you off the ledge or at least chills out there with you. That's when you know!


Good luck with your guy and don't worry, he'll remember.
Reply:I don't believe in love anymore either, so I'm going to tell you what people tell me: he just needs time to work through the pain. If you can't be supportive and give him time, then you need to get away before he hurts you and makes you all bitter and cynical too. Only you can decide if you still want to try and have a relationship with him, but until the pain goes away for him, it will not be easy. Good luck!
Reply:I have sypmathy for you. You have a need to feel loved. You want the person you are with to love you the way you love them. I have sypmathy for your boyfriend. He was hurt. More than likely he is too afraid to love again. He probably thinks that if he opens his heart up to you, he'll be hurt again, and he doesnt want to risk the chance. You need to talk to him. Tell him that you are not his ex, and that you are not going to hurt him. Tell him that the things that his ex did/said has nothign to do you with you two. Make sure he knows that you would never hurt him (intentionally) and that you love him. And above all, support him. Make sure he knows that you care for him. That he is (one of or is ) the most imporant person in your life. If you just talk to him, and get him to open up to you about his pain and hurting, and other things, he will soon begin to heal. Things like this take time. And do not get mad at him. Just be there for him.
Reply:I don't buy it. That is the stupidest thing I have heard. IF he has been in love before then really he can't say that he doesn't believe in it. I think he's either still missing his ex, seeing someone else, is not ready for a serious relationship or is just really stupid. These are the things that I could think of that may be his problem. I say lose him, only because he couldn't come up with a better lie. Once a cheater. ALWAYS a cheater. OR MAYBE... he doesn't feel the same way about you that you feel about him. But he could later in the relationship. If you are willing to stick around for a cheater to make up his mind then I say go for it. If not. Find someone worth your time, energy and love.
Reply:How can someone who has already invested the amount of time that you have continue to invest in someone who readily admits he doesn't believe in love? It seems to me that would be painful to hear. By not believing in love, how can he love you back? I cna understand you wanting to be able to prove to him that it is real and does exist, however if he isn't open to it, you are only opening yourself up for more heartache.
Reply:Ask him does the feeling he have for you is simply a relationship with nothing to it or an emotiom,a deep emotion that makes him what to see you everyday that everytime he sees you it makes him smile or happy.... Love is a feeling that each relatiuonship possessess without love there is no raletionship and if doesnt believe on that feeling then what do your being togather means? just for nothing, you being togather for 10 monthes is useless and have no value to him he making you as an idiot...A girl fallingn in love to a man that don't love her, its a waste of time...If you want to help him to believe in that love....Show him what love is--care,affection, patient, understanding and supportive...Andkost of all pray to God,nothing is impossible to Him....
Reply:I would be insulted and wouldn't have taken the step of living together if he said he didn't believe in love. Why should his ex still control the way he thinks? What does she have to do with you? You are a different person with different feelings and different priorities. I really don't know what to tell you, I just know if it were me, I wouldn't waste my time loving someone that is too stubborn to love me back.
Reply:tell him that u would never do anything to hurt him.
Reply:Well obviously he is still hurting and going through a phase right now. It will take alot of time for him to realize that there is love out there for him. love is the most beautiful and rare thing anybody may come across in life but sometimes you have to endure a little pain just to reach it. Eventually he will wake up and sorry to say this but it may not be with you but he will believe in love again.

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