I love him.. What do I do?

My best friend and the man I love is going to iraq in October. I want to tell him how I feel, but I know he has a girlfriend. They arent serious and I know she is not going to wait for him to get back, and she will not be faithful to him. I love him with my whole heart and I know that sometimes you have to let go of someone if you really love them, but should I tell him I love him before he goes to Iraq? I already told him that I would be here when he gets back, and that I will send him letters and care packages... Im just so confused and so scared. I know he loves me cause he has told me that he loves me, but because he is with this other girl I dont know what bounderies there are when it comes to talking about different things. Im scared for him, and I want to tell him what I am feeling... he is my best friend and I have always been able to talk to him about anything... would I be wrong to tell him that I love him?

I love him.. What do I do?
Don't panic...


You can tell him you love him...





And do you want to know the best news...?





Write him daily.





Talk about what you do, what you learn, what you see, and how you feel about things.





Keep the letters going.





Those mean so much to us when we are away...we long for letters...especially through the times when we can't write back.





Send packages when you can...they are so appreciated...





And when he does come home...he will be so appreciative of the love and support you sent everyday.





If she bails on him like you say she will...


trust me...


He won't forget what you meant to him while he was out there in the dust.





The woman that wrote me every day was my lifesaver...and if she wasn't already married...I would have been more than happy to thank her in so many ways for never giving up and always writing.





If it's meant to be - you will be there for him.
Reply:then tell him, that you love him


Coming from a guy who has seen my fair share of let downs, this may be the best thing...HOWEVER....this may be a bad thing...he may take it bad, or the current girlfriend might get weirded out....who knows...just do what your heart tells you...it will never leave you astray
Reply:Just saying I love you is enough. Trust me, men and women alike just want to hear it from you.





And it wouldnt be wrong if you mean it when you say it
Reply:Ok so i see you dont love him as a good friend only.. You seem to really love this guy.. and since you know that his relationship is not serious and that the girl wont wait for him and all.. then i think you should let him know.. You never know whats gonna happen and maybe u guys end up together after he returns.. but do tell him because maybe u will regret later if you dont..


Good luck =)
Reply:Well dear the best thing is to be cool just relax coz the moment you will tell him that you love him its like giving him a go ahead.be strong cont being good to him and be a good friend things will work by themselves.cheerz
Reply:Stay his best friend for now. he doesn't need extra baggage right now. When he gets back maybe he will be on the same page as you. There are many kinds of love and as long as he has another girlfriend you are professing different kinds to each other.
Reply:If he tells you he loves you but he is with another girl, the love he feels may be more brotherly than what you are feeling. Since he is in the turmoil and uncertainty of going to a war zone, this may not be the best time to try to take your relationship to a different level. Going to war will also change him. Continue to be his friend and support him, then see where he is at when he returns. There is no guarantee this man will ever love you the way you want, but if he is your friend, let him know you have his back. Do not burden him with a sense of responsibility for your feelings. He needs to concentrate on the mission ahead. In the meantime, do not put your whole life on hold and blind yourself to other potential relationships.
Reply:wow


this is tough since he is going to iraq


i wouldnt tell him before he left unless he told me first, though


but


one question


if he says he loves you than why is he still with his girlfriend?


continue to send him care packages and letters


be there for him as much as you can


because war is hard and can change people in many ways


but little things like letters and packages can let him know that you are thinking about him and care for him


so


if he says he loves you in the same way as you feel - than go ahead and tell him


but if its only as a friend than i would wait because i wouldnt want him to have to worry about all of the relationship drama while he is off protecting his country


but do whatever you feel is best


best of luck!!!
Reply:i think u should tell him in case u don't get another chance to....at least he will know
Reply:Actually its not wrong to tell him that you love him, for nobody knows what will happen for tomorrow, it's not to late to tell him that you love him, if he really loves you then he will find a way for his love to be with you, remember that in love there are no boundaries in it, for love always finds a way in order to be given to the person you love. You don't need to be afraid, and as you tell it, his your bestfriend, right? So no worries he will understand you no matter what your going to say, that's what bestfriends are for, right?





hope this helps,,,.......
Reply:i think u should tell him that you love him with your feeling.whatever u feel about him.because i dont think that people understand that without say feelings
Reply:u should tell
Reply:You lost him yourself. You could have told him the first time he was single. On the other hand, the fact that he now has a girl friend simply proves that he wasn't for you if at all he knew all along that you love him. He could have approached you if you were in his mind then. I would suggest he is just being friendly if he behaves all that positively towards you this time around. Otherwise let him go and he might be back for you if there is indeed anything in his mind for you!
Reply:go girl,just tell him what you feel coz he's you're bestfriend right?and you will tell him anything.just give time to talk to him about his girlfriend.if he loves you too he will leave that girl for you if not maybe there's something wrong with that guy.huh?love is a sacrifice but if it's time to let go of the fight..let go and find someone else that will fight for you too!

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