I am in love with someone who has no love for me. We are close friends often seeing each other.?

I (38) am madly in love with X (20). We have been seeing each other for over a year, and my feelings for X are even stronger now. X knows about my feelings; yet X has clearly told me "I do not love you." X is not attracted to me and is still in love with someone from X''s past. X wants us to be just friends, but I cannot look at X just as a friend. I tried to leave X and move on but I could not; I became miserable. I started drinking, was arrested for DUI and became epressed. I am in therapy for that! Although I know X has no love for me, I still love X so much. My love for X is the strongest love I have ever had. I know there is no hope for me, but I cannot change my feelings. How can I ignore my love? We now see each other once a week for dinner. I am trying to deal with the pain, but it is hard! Even if I can manage the pain, what should I do with


the sadness that is in me now, the sadness of feeling like a loser. I am desperate. Help me people! What should I do?

I am in love with someone who has no love for me. We are close friends often seeing each other.?
Hello FNB,





Quite a lot of people happen to arrive in a likewise situation during their lifetime - but the age-difference between you and your friend is quite remarkable.





Nevertheless, I think you've given us your own answer!





In a nut-shell:


1 - you're in love with a man who's in love with another woman


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2 - this man is not attracted to you


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3 - you can not look at him as a good friend.





The solution:


You need to change your feelings and cognitive behavior therapy might give you some usefull tools (= mind work) to change this heart-breaking situation:





http://www.handresearch.com/hand/therapy...





you can focuss on 2 things:


You can chose to stop the contact with your friend, or ... you can decide to change your feelings.





PS. R.E.T. (rational emotive therapy) might provide you some likewise usefull tools.





Good luck!
Reply:Your not a loser just because of a failed relationship. Around the corner there's a girl wanting to be loved. Hey there are more fishs in the sea waiting to be caught. So start fishing again. Maybe it was not meant to be. The right girl is out there some where. Don't be so hard on yourself, and just move on.
Reply:move on. you're only prolonging the pain.
Reply:actually, i'm in a quite similar circumstances as you..i understand what are your feelings right now...maybe you just to accept him as a friend of yours and try to make him happy instead with you even as a friend. I think he might find something which he likes about you...slowly moves to even serious relationship. SLOWLY!!!


True love will only comes if you love somebody sincerely and accept him as what he is...eventhough he still loves his ex-girlfriend. try to help him forget about that girl gently...
Reply:i would just give up and try to see her as little as posible becaus when ever you see her you will have the feelings that you do,if it is hard to stay away from her i don't know what you should do...i hope this helped you a little
Reply:Hi guys, if a girl told you that she doesn't love you, what you can do is to forget her right now by staying away from that immature teenager. I had your experience as well, if you choose to pull her back, it will not solve your problem.





Even at first, you said you are MADLY in love with someone who is 18 years younger than you, and that gap is so big, plus she is not mature for the marriage!!! In general, loving for the marriage is a big deal, no space for the "madly".





What i did before is to keep her, my old love, away from my mind, and trust me, the time will help resolve everything.