I love my bf but I still like the first one I loved?

Basically I've been wit my bf from 2 years ago, and I really love him!! But the funny thing is that I still remember the first guy I loved when I was on high school!! I loved this guy for like 4 years, and I never went out with him but we were kind of friends!! And like anyone else, I met my bf and I really love him, but from time to time, I have this flashback about this guy!! I am still in contact with him, like I talk to him from time to time on the phone!! I dont know if I still like him? Love him? Or what? Maybe because he was the first one I love??

I love my bf but I still like the first one I loved?
The other Sara (Sara E) is absolutely right: you will ALWAYS remember your first love and there is nothing wrong about that. Your boyfriend is not different from you; you should not be jealous of HIS first love as he should not be of YOURS. Francine.
Reply:Hi Sara H,


What you're telling us prove two things. That you're human and that you're a very, very honest girl. Thinking about someone when you are with your gf/bf is a most natural thing. But some of them are simply in denial of it and some simply flat out lied about it. Believe me Sara, Im 41, happily married with 4 kids but there are many times that I still think about some wonderful women who in some way or another, had circumstances been different, could very have been my wife. There is always this question of "had it been us, what would my life have been now??". It sounds disloyal, but tell me of someone who doesn't dwell on the past relationships and I'll tell you how a big a liar they are. Of course, there are dangerous consequences here. But if you really love your present boyfriend, then that "love" itself should prevail in the end. Don't worry about it too much, you're just like the rest of us. Human and nostalgic. Just continue loving your bf and if once in a while you want to visit dreamland (about your 1st love), feel free to do so. But remember to come back to reality.
Reply:That's ok; it just means you have a reallly big heart. You're gonna need a really special man who be so attractive to you that you won't have the space in your heart to love your past loves.
Reply:yea first loves are hard girl just me!cuz u`ll always feel that bond u made with him but if u really love him or ur questioning the guy ur with now just slow things down and see what happens like i have been with my bf for 6yrs on and off and im only 20 i always think about the flash backs with all my friends and ex`s since he tries to keep me on lock down(bad i kno)but its just that "what if" saying u kno?it drives everyone one crazy!!!!but feel free to email me %26lt;3hope this helps u a little%26lt;3
Reply:so like wtf is the question.
Reply:If you're still in contact with the first guy, tell him.


Get your feelings out so you can get closure.


If he doesn't like you and has moved on, then ok! You have a boyfriend to focus on..


If he does then get your priorities straight..


who do you love more?
Reply:thats hot
Reply:sure, yea i guess,


but lemme kno this, how'd you love that other guy and you guys were only friends, as im readin you loved him as more then a friend.


i dont think you should persue with some else if you have feelings for that guy, so my advice to you is to tlk it out with that other guy and see wat happenss.


good luck
Reply:You have to ask yourself truthfully whether you love him or its just because you felt safe with him. Love between friends is different than love in a relationship with your partner. All of us at some point in our lives think back to different things or relationships we've had and there is nothing wrong with this but dont cofuse it for love. Good luck in whatever you do but please think hard and dont let your head rule your heart babe!
Reply:you will always love your first love.


that's how it is.
Reply:a wise girl once told me; you will always love your first love.


so it's not big deal


don't worry about it!