Is love real?

I'm kind of young, but not dumb.





I have been wondering if its really possible to love someone like you see in books and movies or if its just a fake.





I have never been on a date or anything (I have no interest for the time being. My primary concern right now is to finish school, get money, a house, and a nice car)





So I'm wondering if all that romantic stuff is really really really really really real or if its just something everybody makes a big deal of, but in reality is just chemical reaction between a man and a woman to keep the species alive.





I don't know. I'm kind of confused. Before people could say "I'm in love" but now you can't help but wonder are they really in love or is it just all about sex.





So does love really exist or does it all come down to sex?


Can a man and a woman really love each other so much they would be willing to kill themselves if necessary to keep the other one safe?





Do we really fall in love or with the idea of being in love?

Is love real?
I'm not that old either (15), although i have been on dates. I think your doing a smart thing getting your life together be for you start to date.





I was recently thinking about the same thing. I think back in the day it was more believe able that they found love. Now when people say "i love you", does it just mean for that time remaining that you guys will be together? People jump to the word love. I think alot of people think they know what it is, or guess the way your supposed to feel. But, i agree with you completely, i think alot of it is about sex. or just having some one there because everyone is so scared to be independent.





I hear people all the time saying "I need a girl friend/boyfriend" why do you NEED one? It's just cause people are in a rush to find something they have no knowledge of.





But yes, there is such a thing as love that you read about, or see in movies. Yeah you gunna have your up's and down's. But if you truely love that person, your fight all day and all night to keep them with you. Im telling you right now, its not gunna be easy to find it, but it is out there. You just have to be patient.





well that's my theory.. if it made any sense at all. =] well.. hope that help you a little bit.


-Tabby
Reply:Its real, but not for most people. I think that real love is something that most people never understand, because there too caught up in who looks hottest, how to have better sex, and all that stuff.





Most people are also in too much of a hurry to find love, so they settle for something less than "the one" (I think that person does exist for everyone).





Thats why it makes the movie so good though, I mean, its about what we all wish we could have, yet Id say les than 1% of us will ever understand and experience those feelings we see on tv, because our humanity gets in the way.





So do we fall in love with the idea of being in love? Yeah, most of us do, and its that constant want to fall in love that stops us from finding the perfect person. Now Im not saying you shouldnt be looking for love, but Im saying that if you try to hard you'll begin to get frustrated and settle for the next thing you see. Thats whats wrong with our world if you ask me.
Reply:Love can only exist if you're open to it.
Reply:WOW!


That's the first thing that comes to my mind after reading your question, and to be very true to you you are right to some extent, but not completely.





Love is not just the attraction between persons of opposite sex, we love our parents our family even our DOG so do we end up having sex with any one of them????





Love and sex are two different things but it's true that the love you are taking about starts as just a chemical reaction between a man and a woman (which is naturally to keep the species alive and all the animals cats dogs lions..... have that,) but they are not bound by any ristrictions and can have sex with anyone they feel is strong enough to reproduce.


BUT in humans as we have emotions and are far ahead of ANIMALS we call it love after we meet and talk and spend some time even without any physical contact with th eperson we feel attracted to and then we start to feel comfortable in their company and the bond gets stronger and then we feel like having sex and we enjoy it.


Trust me you will not even get aroused if you start having sex with someone you don't like and are doing it just to keep the species alive. This makes humans (although we also are animals) different from other animals.
Reply:it depends on the peron if you both love each other then yes
Reply:Meh, 'love' is just a matter of being very compatible with someone else's personality. Sex is the part about continuing the species whereas 'love' is about keeping the female alive to have more babies. That's the chemical, sciencey side of things. I'm sure you'll get plenty of people here who will tell you all kinds of things about soul-mates and true love though.





Knowing the chemicals behind it though doesn't make it any less enjoyable.
Reply:Love is real just like we feel Air but cannot see. Take it easy for now and in everyone life Special one does come and your Heart will tell you so take some more time and use your Brain if it is giving you positive message then that is right person.
Reply:love is not real...my experiance says that love is not real...


even if u love a person wholeheartly just check whether he loves u as u love him


the answer in THE BIG NNNNOOOOOOOOO...........
Reply:hi according to me love is great . but love is an extra affection which is not for long run
Reply:YES love is real.


It depends on the person, but for me its ALL real.


I hate the idea of love. I seriously do. But I am madly in love with someone right now.


Its not all fake.


I had a boyfriend and we were each others world.


It was real.


Love is hard to explain.
Reply:" Jenny, why won't you marry me? I am not a smart man but I do know what love is." -Forest Gump


The answer to your last question is we do both, fall in love and fall in lust. The difference is you never fall out of love.


Lust is like a wound in the heart. Once it heals its finished and nothing is left.


Watch the movie and see if you can understand it.
Reply:Wow, you sound like Carrie Bradshaw in Sex and the City. I've been in love so I guess that I would have to say that of course love is real. And just for the record I loved this person %26amp; the sex wasn't that great so it definitely wasn't all about sex. I think that if you're not sure that you're in love or you "think" that you're in love then NO you're not in love. Love definitely doesn't happen like it does in the movies or in fairy tales but it does happen.
Reply:There is real love. I've found it with my fiance. We care deeply about each other and respect each other. We are able to sit down and discuss the important issues.





And believe me, its not about the sex. Anyone can have sex. It can be completely meaningless.





And the movies are crap. They don't show the reality of real life with all the ups and downs that come.
Reply:%26lt;%26lt;Do we really fall in love or with the idea of being in love?%26gt;%26gt;





You are clearly talking about the difference between REALism and IDEALism. IDEALISTIC love can not exist -- it is an ideal! The closest thing to "real love" is a relationship with a person who wants similar things in life and with whom you can be yourself (they accept you as you are and vice versa). Conflicts may arise, but in a productive, fulfilling relationship they are resolved without pain. Spending too much energy adjusting to another person leaves you little energy with which to pursue your individual interests. You don't need to be consumed by a relationship in order for it to be healthy.
Reply:Like in a book or movie......Im not sure about that, but you can really fall in love
Reply:See love dosnt mean that ur going to love any girl.See u can love any thing which u love and the day will come u will think of even girl.