Stories portray beautiful love tales. Movies create fairytales. Even real life advice columns say a person wouldn't have doubts about love if it was with the One. But how much of all this is real? I'm almost 25 and still very confused about love. It took me quite a while to tell my boyfriend that I love him - much to his dismay. We have different perspectives on love and sometimes I even question if he's the one for me and as doubt overtakes me, I act cold towards him. Some other times I feel I'd be very sad without him. Are love matters supposed to be so complicated or am I not with the right person?
Love - Simple vs Complicated...?
Love is always complicated if it lasts. Love seems very easy and really is at first, but always gets more complicated the more and more we get to know the true person on the other side. You always have to work at love as the relationship develops. When people stop doing this, that's when the fights happens or the interest seems to fade. It's not like the movies always show. Not fair that they make it out to be so simple. Never really is that simple and gushing like they make it seem (at least not long term). It's got to be complicated, all good things are never simple.
Reply:I think relationships are complicated. Love has been defined so many ways, and yet people still struggle to understand it. There's no way for us to tell. If he were mistreating you, it'd be an easy call, but you make no mention of that. I think it's human nature to question things, even love. We always want to make the best decision. How can we know there isn't someone out there better? My question is whether or not I can be happy with a person. I'm a person of my word, so once I say "i do" I plan to stay with that person, come what may. So I guess I'd ask you the same: can you imagine being with him every day for the rest of your life?
Reply:LOVE is very complicated. This is why it can be so disasterous! ANY doubts whatsoever,about ones partner is natural,though not a good sign.When you TRULY love someone,the most important thing for you is to make them HAPPY! Though this has to be a two sided arrangement.It may be that you have got used to each other,therefore you can not imagine a life without him. At 25,sweetheart, you should be enjoying every minute of your life,not fretting about relationships.The only advice i can offer is that you have a break from each other,say a month.AND stick to it. Of course you will miss him,but that is no basis for TRUE love. Remember life is a long long time and if you are having doubts now, it is highly unlikely you will last together,through all the ups and downs of a lifetime commitment.
Reply:love is grand complicated or just can be so easy you could just be end go with the flow
Reply:that's what i wanna know...
Reply:I'm 50 and I'm still not sure about that. Seems complicated to me. Maybe I haven't met the right person yet. I sure have given it a few tries.
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