What do i do,Ok.Heres my story. Um well we were fine at first.We went out for about a month and then we didnt see each other for like 3 weeks. He was a really lovely guy.Omg he did the most sweetest things made me a song and so on. But the point is it got to my birthday and we broke up the next day. I said to him on msn, We had nothing to talk about i thought i didnt love him anymore so i said to him "I think the love we had for each other has gone" And he replied to me saying " Same.Do u want to just end it then" I had no choice but to say Yeah ..If i'd said no that would of been awkward. And then so we broke up.I thought id done the right thing But now its been about too weeks and im lost heart broken, I didnt reliesed i loved him this much,Hes on my mind 24/7. I saw him the other day and he was with all his mates i looked like a prat. But i love him so much i just want him to say that he loves me! :(:( I really do Arhhh i really love him, I want to be in his arms.
Lost love %26lt;3 Help Im Heart Broken :'( :'( Teenage love %26lt;3?
Awww...poor you. I know its awful to be in love with someone and not know how to let them know. You say you dont want to look a fool by telling him, but whats the alternative? Sleepless nights or relentless self torture over what if? I think you need to make a stand and tell him...why not? If he says he doesnt feel the same, you can move on and know that you at least you fought for him. You never know, he may be feeling exactly the same way and he is feeling the same way, that by saying something will make him look like a fool..
If this isnt the answer and there is no way that you are going to tell him how you are feeling then you maybe need to focus on getting over him....or think of some cunning plan to get him back....good luck hun.
Reply:aw, i'm so sorry! sounds like a crappy situation.
Are you wanting to date him again? give him some hints that you still like him...if you don't want to just straight out tell him. Maybe talk to him at a party....then you'll have to really lean into him to have to hear him. Maybe look up at him...stare at his lips...try to give him a sign that you still like him
Reply:Ah teenage love! I don't miss those days at all, honestly! But I really think you should say, Well i think I made a mistake, maybe we should give it another go-round? The worst he can do is say no, and then you can really know its over %26amp; move on. 2 weeks isn't a very long time to heal heartbreak, give it more time.
Reply:Get a mutual fried to subtely ask him how he feels about you ad how he feels about the break up. If he regrets it maybe you could get this fried to persuade him to talk to you. Or you could start talkig to him on msn about random things not the actual break up and then maybe it'll lead to him telling you how he feels. If he doesn't then you'll just have to suck it up and take it after all you can't cange the way efeels. and i'm sure there'll be a guy out there whose just as good.
Reply:first you have to figure out whether you actually still love him or you just miss being with someone
cos quite often its the latter go out and find someone new that should get your mind off him if not then you really need to tell him its not fair on him or you if you dont he needs to know where he stands
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Am in love with my best friend girl.?
Hello everyone, pls kindly help me out with this dire state i got myself into. i have a very good friend who trust and love me so much,and i love and trust him so much also, but my problem started when he reconciled with his ex-girl, this girl prefers my company than is boyfriend, she walked up to me some day and told me she is in love with me. that she can not resist me. at first i was scared and thought it was a setup, later she insisted. cried all night, and even call me on phone in an ungodly hour, I fell for her and make love to her,ever since then we have been together secretly. the truth is that we so much love ourselves,but i cant say if this love is real or not. she loves me more than the way she loves my friend. and am scared because i know some day my good friend will get to find out about this and it will end our long term friendship.
Pls all i need is a candid advice from all walks of life. i dont want to get trapped in this web, do i continue or do i quite?
Am in love with my best friend girl.?
if she reconciled with him, that means that she prefers him - not you. She made her choice - or she is just playing games with you.
Now that she has made her choice, you should leave her alone and find someone else. Don't allow her to seduce you if she wants a secret relationship.
People have been killed by their friend for getting mixed up like you are. Don't let it go further.
Reply:This is a true fix you find yourself in, with no good ending. You have to decide which you value the most: Your long-term friendship with your friend, or your shorter-term and seemingly shallow relationship with his "girl-friend". Please be aware that if you go with your friend you will (and should) tell him about your problem with the girl, without having to go into detail, and that you value his friendship over hers. If, on the other hand, you decide to go with the shallow, back-stabbing, duplicious girl, then expect two things to happen: first you lose your old friend, second the girl finds some one else she likes better and you find yourself out in the cold without your friend.
Reply:hi, I think you may have two good friends, one in a weird romantic situation and one being thankfully unaware. leave it at tat dont escalate. stay cool and ride it out, see what they do first . Be flattered than she is involving you in her love life.
try to be a peicemaker.
Pls all i need is a candid advice from all walks of life. i dont want to get trapped in this web, do i continue or do i quite?
Am in love with my best friend girl.?
if she reconciled with him, that means that she prefers him - not you. She made her choice - or she is just playing games with you.
Now that she has made her choice, you should leave her alone and find someone else. Don't allow her to seduce you if she wants a secret relationship.
People have been killed by their friend for getting mixed up like you are. Don't let it go further.
Reply:This is a true fix you find yourself in, with no good ending. You have to decide which you value the most: Your long-term friendship with your friend, or your shorter-term and seemingly shallow relationship with his "girl-friend". Please be aware that if you go with your friend you will (and should) tell him about your problem with the girl, without having to go into detail, and that you value his friendship over hers. If, on the other hand, you decide to go with the shallow, back-stabbing, duplicious girl, then expect two things to happen: first you lose your old friend, second the girl finds some one else she likes better and you find yourself out in the cold without your friend.
Reply:hi, I think you may have two good friends, one in a weird romantic situation and one being thankfully unaware. leave it at tat dont escalate. stay cool and ride it out, see what they do first . Be flattered than she is involving you in her love life.
try to be a peicemaker.
Love or im in love? come on girls.....?
sometimes i say to my self that guys are all the same, but now im spekaing about the guys that know what they want.... i hope all of you are happy, but my guestion is why some girls they expect from their bf to tell them i love you? why they dont unterstand that love comes with time??you cant play like that with love.... i seem nay girls they say i love my bf but the true is that they just in love with them.... they mix tihngs up i think
Love or im in love? come on girls.....?
I know you're frustrated and your inspiration for this question was the other girl asking how can she make her bf say "I love you" to her.. but at the end of the day there's nothing any of us can do to make these ppl realize. I quite often feel like going up to these girls (and even guys in some cases) and slapping them or shaking them or something.. idk.. just anything to make them wake up and get a grip.
You're right that they mix their feelings up..true love takes time to develop.. it doesn't happen overnight. I guess those girls (and guys) who do ask those kinds of questions.. are still young and immature and obviously they have never experienced real love. If they had.. then they would understand and they wouldn't be asking their silly questions.
Reply:i think you know the answer ........because you say it ...........they don't know what they want
Reply:I think what you're trying to say is that they are in love with the idea of being in love.
I'm in love with my boyfriend. That means I adore him above all others and there isn't anything I wouldn't do for him. His happiness, health and well being is all that matters to me and in turn he is the same way about me. That is being in love,
Most of the time, people use the word love loosely and it has minimal meaning, there's no real emotion there. It just sounds good.
When you truly love someone you feel it in your soul and words can't come close to describing how you feel about them.
Reply:When a woman says'i love you',means she's in love with herself...,,,c'mon....the truth is painful,huh?
Reply:you shouldnt say it if u dont mean it
Reply:Love is something your going to know, like you said, not just a word. I think your so right, its something your going to feel and not something to just rush the i love you word.
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Love or im in love? come on girls.....?
I know you're frustrated and your inspiration for this question was the other girl asking how can she make her bf say "I love you" to her.. but at the end of the day there's nothing any of us can do to make these ppl realize. I quite often feel like going up to these girls (and even guys in some cases) and slapping them or shaking them or something.. idk.. just anything to make them wake up and get a grip.
You're right that they mix their feelings up..true love takes time to develop.. it doesn't happen overnight. I guess those girls (and guys) who do ask those kinds of questions.. are still young and immature and obviously they have never experienced real love. If they had.. then they would understand and they wouldn't be asking their silly questions.
Reply:i think you know the answer ........because you say it ...........they don't know what they want
Reply:I think what you're trying to say is that they are in love with the idea of being in love.
I'm in love with my boyfriend. That means I adore him above all others and there isn't anything I wouldn't do for him. His happiness, health and well being is all that matters to me and in turn he is the same way about me. That is being in love,
Most of the time, people use the word love loosely and it has minimal meaning, there's no real emotion there. It just sounds good.
When you truly love someone you feel it in your soul and words can't come close to describing how you feel about them.
Reply:When a woman says'i love you',means she's in love with herself...,,,c'mon....the truth is painful,huh?
Reply:you shouldnt say it if u dont mean it
Reply:Love is something your going to know, like you said, not just a word. I think your so right, its something your going to feel and not something to just rush the i love you word.
bad breath
True Love?
True Love is you accepting my children as your own
True Love is waking in the middle of the night, to walk our youngest son back to his bed after a nightmare
True Love is you telling our daughter how proud you are of her accomplishment, even though its not the degree we thought she should pursue
True Love is watching you play one on one with our oldest son, making certain he is prepared for the high school team
True Love
As I am guided through another day
I listen to my heart and pray
I pray that you remain strong and glee
Until my love brings you back to me
I pray that you handle my heart with care
For only the insincere have ever dwelled there
I pray that you follow the voice of my heart
Hear the mingling of two souls that will never part
I pray we are together once again
Finally sharing true love...now let us begin
True Love?
Pretty good poem, needs a little work. glee doesn't sound right to me.For only the insincere have ever dwelled there...Take out For and Ever. I hope the top is just your opinion of what true love is because if you try to add that to your poem, it sounds like a statement. The bottom stanza is good except for the couple of changes I made. My next poem will be out (published) in the fall of this year.
Reply:Really liked it, ill have 2 read again after a Cup of T
Reply:all that is nice but, true love is unconditional.
True Love is waking in the middle of the night, to walk our youngest son back to his bed after a nightmare
True Love is you telling our daughter how proud you are of her accomplishment, even though its not the degree we thought she should pursue
True Love is watching you play one on one with our oldest son, making certain he is prepared for the high school team
True Love
As I am guided through another day
I listen to my heart and pray
I pray that you remain strong and glee
Until my love brings you back to me
I pray that you handle my heart with care
For only the insincere have ever dwelled there
I pray that you follow the voice of my heart
Hear the mingling of two souls that will never part
I pray we are together once again
Finally sharing true love...now let us begin
True Love?
Pretty good poem, needs a little work. glee doesn't sound right to me.For only the insincere have ever dwelled there...Take out For and Ever. I hope the top is just your opinion of what true love is because if you try to add that to your poem, it sounds like a statement. The bottom stanza is good except for the couple of changes I made. My next poem will be out (published) in the fall of this year.
Reply:Really liked it, ill have 2 read again after a Cup of T
Reply:all that is nice but, true love is unconditional.
Love = Perfection?
People seem to think love is perfection, but it’s not true. Love is work, dedication, and takes your all at first. You’ve got to solve each other’s problems, work as a team, trust each other, and pick each other up when you fall. And you will fall. Hard. Every true relationship falls down. At the lowest point in the deepest hole you’ve ever fallen in, you know deep down that now, you have no worries— everything will be okay. He will come and pick you up. Love is blind, but it sees in ways we cannot. Love is strong, but at first, it’s fragile; a thin, glistening strand of gossamer moonlight stretched between two people. And if one of them jerks too hard, the gossamer breaks. Love is constant, but it changes people in ways nothing else can. Love is mysterious, working in its strange ways so that we can never follow it until the gossamer strand has become strong, unbreakable. Then, it becomes clear.
Love = Perfection?
WOW !!!
Are you a poet or some kind of writer? That was beautiful and I agree 99%.
The 1% that I don't agree in is your first statement.
Love is perfection when you have the right mate.
If you ain't done it yet you should consider publishing that. I'm gonna remember this question for a long time.
Reply:I agree with the most part you said, except "true love only gives you one chance. "
Love = Perfection?
WOW !!!
Are you a poet or some kind of writer? That was beautiful and I agree 99%.
The 1% that I don't agree in is your first statement.
Love is perfection when you have the right mate.
If you ain't done it yet you should consider publishing that. I'm gonna remember this question for a long time.
Reply:I agree with the most part you said, except "true love only gives you one chance. "
Does love between a man and a woman exist ?
im a 30 something woman, who has been in a marriage that hasn't seen much love , or maybe the love that i saw with previous relationships, i havent even felt a shred of it in this one. I have fallen in love once but it was at 22, and even then it was a short relationship(the love didn't fall out but it was long distance and not realistic). Being young you have hopes and dreams that this kind of mutual feeling exists; but now more than anytime in my life, i realize there is no hope and i doubt there are men who even want to love, or feel loved or know how to love; its all a Jane Austin dream. or is there hope? women are beings who crave this sort of feeling and to realize its just an illusion breaks something in you,that becomes hard to mend.
Does love between a man and a woman exist ?
That's a good question. I wonder myself sometimes. but in reverse of what you are wondering I wonder if woman feel love. But the realistic answere is YES both woman and men want and want to feel loved. I see it all the time, I just get frustrated because I want it for myself. If you look at people and couples around you you'll see a lot of ugly bs but you'll also see people are are clearly in love.
Reply:I have hope,i have been in love before.When it is there it is the greatest feeling in the world,just wish I could find the kind that is meant to last.
Reply:Let your guards down...sometimes women put a wall up to try and protect themselves but end up blocking all the good out.
Reply:Yeah love does exist, it is just rare and hard to make work. People let things like money and low self esteem and no trust get in the way of love. And after years of lies and distrust and hiding, love turns to bitter hate.
Does love between a man and a woman exist ?
That's a good question. I wonder myself sometimes. but in reverse of what you are wondering I wonder if woman feel love. But the realistic answere is YES both woman and men want and want to feel loved. I see it all the time, I just get frustrated because I want it for myself. If you look at people and couples around you you'll see a lot of ugly bs but you'll also see people are are clearly in love.
Reply:I have hope,i have been in love before.When it is there it is the greatest feeling in the world,just wish I could find the kind that is meant to last.
Reply:Let your guards down...sometimes women put a wall up to try and protect themselves but end up blocking all the good out.
Reply:Yeah love does exist, it is just rare and hard to make work. People let things like money and low self esteem and no trust get in the way of love. And after years of lies and distrust and hiding, love turns to bitter hate.
Is the English word "love" the most abused one in the English Language?
Is "love" the most abused word in the English language?
I ask because in the same breath I can say, "I LOVE this can of soda!" and, "I LOVE God!"
It seems like we need something else. Something else to describe how much we care for something...especially when it comes to our spouses and God.
I ask because I'm doing a sermon on this in two weeks...and I like how the Hebrews have many words that describe "love". Especially the "love" that is built on a marriage. THIS love ("Raya", "A'hava", and "Dode") are all built successfully off each other. With "Dode" being the sexual/pleasureable portion that comes WITH marriage ("A'hava" is the love between a husband and wife, and "Raya" is the love between friends).
Maybe I'm rambling here...but I think we abuse our "love" for things. I think the word needs to be broken up into other words.
We can assume our "love" is different...but wouldn't a seperate word be clearer?
Thoughts?
Hope this helps!
Good luck, and may God conti
Is the English word "love" the most abused one in the English Language?
I have to agree. It would make sense to have different words for different kinds of love.
We have some things that are close. For instance Kin is a word that denotes people you love in a certain way. Matrimony denotes marriage and spousal love. Passion works well enough for sexual love. (Sex is a good word for sexual love to.)
We need one for physical objects to...
Adore is a good word for the Christian God.
My Gods are summed up in "Eldest Kin.", but that doesn't work well for Christians.
Frith
Reply:I tend to agree with you.
Reply:I agree with you! I'm struck by the beauty in the concept of agape found only in the NT, and how can strive to become selfless (forever falling short of course but still striving).
Reply:I love your question.
Reply:In general, context is a sufficient modifier.
I think every GI knows the difference between
"I love you"
and
"I love you long time."
Reply:Since we're doing words, I'm not sure "abused" is exactly right.
Because "love" has so many meanings and usages it's open to misinterpretation and confusion on the part of the receiver as well as, yes, mis-use, by the writer or speaker.
C. S. Lewis wrote on "The Four Loves", working from the different Greek terms that could all be rendered "love" in English.
But it's a bit unrealistic to hope that most people will follow your precision in Hebrew or his in Greek.
It may be the term that suffers most from being ill-defined in English, but others have the same problem:
God, faith, good, evil...
Nice broad terms that people can pour their own content into,
and then be surprised when people don't appear to hear what they've said (since the hearer or reader has applied their own content to the term.)
Reply:of course...so just use more words to express the particulars...sometimes more IS better...good luck(just a saying)with the sermon...
Reply:i bet if you add up all of the times they say either of the three words... it'll equal the amount that we say our one word "love".... I think you are confusing it cause yes you hear it (love) more but, more than likely you are hearing it 3 times more.... cause it is all that we have!
Reply:It is the most abused word in the English language. It is so common to use it in everyday occurrences that have nothing to do with "actual love" that it is disturbing. I would rather just forget that the word never existed. It means nothing now anyways.
Reply:I 'hate' that word....
Reply:http://home.att.net/~scorh2/MeaningOfLov...
I rarely say to my husband I love you. It just doesn't cut it. I tell him I adore him. Because I do.
Check out the above link it's love described by 4-5 year olds.
Peace to you.
Reply:Yes one word, that applies to many meanings, can get confusing. Some social scientists suggest that because we see the world through language, that if we don't have a word for something we can't perceive it. ( sapir/wharf hypothesis). One challenge you may be addressing, is related to the fact that because the common use / meanings for 'love' tend for focus on emotions and objects, they may not experience or perceive the deeper values of Love. So to be able to feel the direct love of God for example, is much different than having a person hear the 'word' love told to them in reference to God. To feel Love for a person, like a spouse, is quite different than hearing a robotic expected response of 'I love you'. So in essence, one could say that because language develops as a product of social experience in the culture, the problem of lack of deeper 'love' in this world, shows up it the common meanings/language being used. IN communication theory it is said meanings are in people, not words, so your real concern seems to be the 'meanings people have for love now', not the limitation soley of the world love. Someone wise once said, the thought of an apple is not an apple, the thought of God is not God...... your sermon should be interesting, best wishes.
Reply:I would love to think so
Reply:Yes and no.
The word love means all those things.
Yes it would be better for us to have a specific word for each kind of feeling. I have always known of the three Latin words. Philus, Agape, and Eros but they aren't really addequate. Well Eros isn't, because it mixes lust and love together.
Charity is another good word. And it is an emotion an insufficient amount of people feel.
Reply:Not quite sure of abuse, but I am sure that it ranks up within the top five, simply because there are so many varied definitions of the word, love.
Enjoy.
Reply:I don't know if I would call 'love' the most 'abused' word. It has many meanings, as a lot of words do, but that doesn't mean it's abused.
As far as abused words go, I think I would nominate the word 'evil,' as it's almost exclusively used to incite irrational, blind hatred and fear in people. It's a word that doesn't really mean anything except "you should hate and fear what follows," yet it's surprisingly effective in getting people paranoid and violent.
Reply:You're right.
The Hebrews and the Greeks had superior languages when it came to expressing love.
Greek:
Eros= sensual and sexual love
Phileo= friendship love, "brotherly" love.
Agape= Unconditional love.
The problem is that people cheapen the word love. Someone will say "I *love* chocolate", or "I *love* rollercoasters." Love is substituted for the word like. It cheapens it. Even worse than love is the word awesome. I won't even get into that.
Reply:Who knows what's in your heart God or other people.
Who are you living for God or society. Is the love for this life the same as the love we have for our creator? Of course not.
If I say I love cinnamon and someone hears me will I worry about what they think if they think that I say love to much and say I love God too.
Only worry about what God knows about you cause that is what will count.
So what if it sounds strange or you think that it is abusing the english language I could name a million things that are getting abused that are more important than what other people think.
Maybe you should preach in your sermon about how this life is temporary and how we should all live our lives for God alone and do not set partners with him.
peace
Reply:No.
"I love you!" is.
Reply:probably because alot of people use the word "love" as just an adjective. I believe that the word "love" was intended to be used as a verb.
Reply:I agree with you and your points. When I first read your question I thought no, God is the most abused word in the English language. Because His name should not be used in vain, and it is. People say God! all the time and they are using it as some expression. It's sad.
Reply:Love is just a four letter word.
Reply:You better love God or he will kill you!
GOD THE FATHER PROFILE…
Deuteronomy 21:18-21 (NIV) If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who does not obey his father and mother and will not listen to them when they discipline him, his father and mother shall take hold of him and bring him to the elders at the gate of his town. They shall say to the elders, "This son of ours is stubborn and rebellious. He will not obey us. He is a profligate and a drunkard." THEN ALL THE MEN OF HIS TOWN SHALL STONE HIM TO DEATH* (*the old perverts were just waiting there for the next child to be stoned to death! And only a God fearing Christian would have his/her son stoned to death!). You must purge the evil from among you. ALL ISRAEL WILL HEAR OF IT AND BE AFRAID.* (*It works all the time! Have your unruly child stoned to death in full public view and everybody else will learn to stay in line!)
GOD THE SON JESUS CHRIST PROFILE…
Revelation 2:23 (NIV) (Jesus says) I WILL STRIKE HER CHILDREN DEAD* (*Sweet Jesus Christ himself is the one having the pleasure of doing the killing of children so he can teach everybody a lesson! The Clergy earned millions printing books about Jesus love without telling anybody Jesus’ vicious children killing habit). Then ALL THE CHURCHES WILL KNOW that I am he who searches hearts and minds, and I will repay each of you according to your deeds.* (*Amen! Praise the LORD Sweet Jesus!)
Luke 19:27 (NIV) (Jesus is very excited telling this story… most Christians prefer to ignore!) But those enemies of mine who did not want me to be king over them–bring them here and kill them in front of me.
Control by fear is deeply rooted in God’s “Plan of Salvation”… So if you got saved GOOD FOR YOU!!! Make sure that you pay your FULL tithes and offering on time or God the Holy Ghost will zap you on the spot and the church people will give you a decent Christian burial without telling anybody in your family. This is the New Testament killing of Christians after Jesus did away with the LAW of the Old Testament! You can’t test God the Holy Ghost a.k.a. “The Comforter” he is very touchy… Saint Paul says that many Christians get sick because of it. So if you get sick it may be that you lag behind in paying your dues to the Church!
GOD THE HOLY GHOST PROFILE…
Act 5:9-11 (NIV) Peter said to her, “How could you agree to test the Spirit of the Lord?* (*by not paying the FULL tithe and offering to the Church) Look! The feet of the men who buried your husband are at the door* (*in a Christian burial nobody notifies the death event to any spouse or relative! Have you noticed how bloody cool is Saint Peter about tithing?) and they will carry you out also.” At that moment SHE FELL DOWN AT HIS FEET AND DIED* (Praise the LORD!). Then the young men came in and, finding her dead, carried her out and buried her beside her husband. GREAT FEAR SEIZED THE WHOLE CHURCH AND ALL WHO HEARD ABOUT THESE EVENTS* (*yeah… it works all the time! Just have somebody killed and the rest will learn! It’s the Bible way! Too bad CNN was not there to report!).
Any member of God the Holy Trinity team puts to shame any mobster intimidating and killing anybody without mercy just to get your attention! And lastly, but not the least different…
THE CLERGY PROFILE…
Deuteronomy 17:12-13 (NIV) The man who shows contempt for the judge or for the PRIEST who stands ministering there to the Lord your God MUST BE PUT TO DEATH* (*Amen! Praise the LORD!). You must purge the evil from Israel. ALL THE PEOPLE WILL HEAR AND BE AFRAID, AND WILL NOT BE CONTEMPTUOUS AGAIN.
Luke 16:17 (NIV) (Jesus said) It is easier for heaven and earth to disappear than for the least stroke of a pen to drop out of the Law.
Jesus said that HE DIDN’T COME TO CHANGE THE LAW!!! But the clergy says that “Jesus fulfilled the Law” whatever that means and that the Old Testament is no longer valid!!! SHAME ON JESUS FOR LYING…!!! Christians would much rather listen to the clergy!
Nothing promotes religion better than the story of a few killings and some coercion to keep the Christian population UNDER A SMILEY CLERGY CONTROL! Believe it or not, most Christians honestly believe that because they are still alive God must love them! So that is why they don’t pay much attention to any of the above. Today we have Clergy led Christians promoting the Bible to make it the Law of the Land! Not even the NAZIS were that bad!
Reply:90% of people use that word daily without knowing the real meaning of it
Reply:I know what you mean…
I try to associate the word “awesome” with God. Love is the emotion I think of most when I think of God.
Reply:It certainly is over used.
At least the Greeks had the right idea to make a different word for each level or kind of love.
Reply:Yes; you are rambling.
There is one Love. It comes from God.
Reply:"eros"
"agape"
These were basic concepts that I learned as a child. I'm sure you are familiar with them. (If not, look them up.)
As for "I love a soda!", this is an example of exaggeration. It is a strong indication of affinty for an object. We have plenty of words that we could use, but 'love' is easier to say than 'strong affinity'.
As an example of cultural differences, we might say,"It's snowing" to an Eskimo. The Eskimo has a great many words for 'snow'. They have a different word for wet snow with big flakes than thier word for small, powdery flakes. They might find our term for 'snow' to be a very general term. But, for someone in Florida that never sees snow, the concept doesn't need to be so precise.
In much the same way, our useage of 'love' is defined by our cultural experiance. We understand that if a friend says,'I love my dog.', he doesn't mean romantic love. We understand that when a nine-year old says that he 'loves' a girl in his class, he actually has a crush on her. By picking up on clues in syntax and combining them with the circumstances, we use the word love to mean many different things.
As a clinical, logical person, I would say that your 'love' for God is actually the manifestation of your insecurity with death. You 'love' him because he offers you eternal life. Suppose that the Bible stated that there was no heaven, and that death was final. Furthermore, suppose the Bible said that God's plan for you was all important and that he loved you. Nothing has changed, except for your eternal reward. Would you still 'love' God? Or, are you in it for eternal life? It's something to think about.
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I ask because in the same breath I can say, "I LOVE this can of soda!" and, "I LOVE God!"
It seems like we need something else. Something else to describe how much we care for something...especially when it comes to our spouses and God.
I ask because I'm doing a sermon on this in two weeks...and I like how the Hebrews have many words that describe "love". Especially the "love" that is built on a marriage. THIS love ("Raya", "A'hava", and "Dode") are all built successfully off each other. With "Dode" being the sexual/pleasureable portion that comes WITH marriage ("A'hava" is the love between a husband and wife, and "Raya" is the love between friends).
Maybe I'm rambling here...but I think we abuse our "love" for things. I think the word needs to be broken up into other words.
We can assume our "love" is different...but wouldn't a seperate word be clearer?
Thoughts?
Hope this helps!
Good luck, and may God conti
Is the English word "love" the most abused one in the English Language?
I have to agree. It would make sense to have different words for different kinds of love.
We have some things that are close. For instance Kin is a word that denotes people you love in a certain way. Matrimony denotes marriage and spousal love. Passion works well enough for sexual love. (Sex is a good word for sexual love to.)
We need one for physical objects to...
Adore is a good word for the Christian God.
My Gods are summed up in "Eldest Kin.", but that doesn't work well for Christians.
Frith
Reply:I tend to agree with you.
Reply:I agree with you! I'm struck by the beauty in the concept of agape found only in the NT, and how can strive to become selfless (forever falling short of course but still striving).
Reply:I love your question.
Reply:In general, context is a sufficient modifier.
I think every GI knows the difference between
"I love you"
and
"I love you long time."
Reply:Since we're doing words, I'm not sure "abused" is exactly right.
Because "love" has so many meanings and usages it's open to misinterpretation and confusion on the part of the receiver as well as, yes, mis-use, by the writer or speaker.
C. S. Lewis wrote on "The Four Loves", working from the different Greek terms that could all be rendered "love" in English.
But it's a bit unrealistic to hope that most people will follow your precision in Hebrew or his in Greek.
It may be the term that suffers most from being ill-defined in English, but others have the same problem:
God, faith, good, evil...
Nice broad terms that people can pour their own content into,
and then be surprised when people don't appear to hear what they've said (since the hearer or reader has applied their own content to the term.)
Reply:of course...so just use more words to express the particulars...sometimes more IS better...good luck(just a saying)with the sermon...
Reply:i bet if you add up all of the times they say either of the three words... it'll equal the amount that we say our one word "love".... I think you are confusing it cause yes you hear it (love) more but, more than likely you are hearing it 3 times more.... cause it is all that we have!
Reply:It is the most abused word in the English language. It is so common to use it in everyday occurrences that have nothing to do with "actual love" that it is disturbing. I would rather just forget that the word never existed. It means nothing now anyways.
Reply:I 'hate' that word....
Reply:http://home.att.net/~scorh2/MeaningOfLov...
I rarely say to my husband I love you. It just doesn't cut it. I tell him I adore him. Because I do.
Check out the above link it's love described by 4-5 year olds.
Peace to you.
Reply:Yes one word, that applies to many meanings, can get confusing. Some social scientists suggest that because we see the world through language, that if we don't have a word for something we can't perceive it. ( sapir/wharf hypothesis). One challenge you may be addressing, is related to the fact that because the common use / meanings for 'love' tend for focus on emotions and objects, they may not experience or perceive the deeper values of Love. So to be able to feel the direct love of God for example, is much different than having a person hear the 'word' love told to them in reference to God. To feel Love for a person, like a spouse, is quite different than hearing a robotic expected response of 'I love you'. So in essence, one could say that because language develops as a product of social experience in the culture, the problem of lack of deeper 'love' in this world, shows up it the common meanings/language being used. IN communication theory it is said meanings are in people, not words, so your real concern seems to be the 'meanings people have for love now', not the limitation soley of the world love. Someone wise once said, the thought of an apple is not an apple, the thought of God is not God...... your sermon should be interesting, best wishes.
Reply:I would love to think so
Reply:Yes and no.
The word love means all those things.
Yes it would be better for us to have a specific word for each kind of feeling. I have always known of the three Latin words. Philus, Agape, and Eros but they aren't really addequate. Well Eros isn't, because it mixes lust and love together.
Charity is another good word. And it is an emotion an insufficient amount of people feel.
Reply:Not quite sure of abuse, but I am sure that it ranks up within the top five, simply because there are so many varied definitions of the word, love.
Enjoy.
Reply:I don't know if I would call 'love' the most 'abused' word. It has many meanings, as a lot of words do, but that doesn't mean it's abused.
As far as abused words go, I think I would nominate the word 'evil,' as it's almost exclusively used to incite irrational, blind hatred and fear in people. It's a word that doesn't really mean anything except "you should hate and fear what follows," yet it's surprisingly effective in getting people paranoid and violent.
Reply:You're right.
The Hebrews and the Greeks had superior languages when it came to expressing love.
Greek:
Eros= sensual and sexual love
Phileo= friendship love, "brotherly" love.
Agape= Unconditional love.
The problem is that people cheapen the word love. Someone will say "I *love* chocolate", or "I *love* rollercoasters." Love is substituted for the word like. It cheapens it. Even worse than love is the word awesome. I won't even get into that.
Reply:Who knows what's in your heart God or other people.
Who are you living for God or society. Is the love for this life the same as the love we have for our creator? Of course not.
If I say I love cinnamon and someone hears me will I worry about what they think if they think that I say love to much and say I love God too.
Only worry about what God knows about you cause that is what will count.
So what if it sounds strange or you think that it is abusing the english language I could name a million things that are getting abused that are more important than what other people think.
Maybe you should preach in your sermon about how this life is temporary and how we should all live our lives for God alone and do not set partners with him.
peace
Reply:No.
"I love you!" is.
Reply:probably because alot of people use the word "love" as just an adjective. I believe that the word "love" was intended to be used as a verb.
Reply:I agree with you and your points. When I first read your question I thought no, God is the most abused word in the English language. Because His name should not be used in vain, and it is. People say God! all the time and they are using it as some expression. It's sad.
Reply:Love is just a four letter word.
Reply:You better love God or he will kill you!
GOD THE FATHER PROFILE…
Deuteronomy 21:18-21 (NIV) If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who does not obey his father and mother and will not listen to them when they discipline him, his father and mother shall take hold of him and bring him to the elders at the gate of his town. They shall say to the elders, "This son of ours is stubborn and rebellious. He will not obey us. He is a profligate and a drunkard." THEN ALL THE MEN OF HIS TOWN SHALL STONE HIM TO DEATH* (*the old perverts were just waiting there for the next child to be stoned to death! And only a God fearing Christian would have his/her son stoned to death!). You must purge the evil from among you. ALL ISRAEL WILL HEAR OF IT AND BE AFRAID.* (*It works all the time! Have your unruly child stoned to death in full public view and everybody else will learn to stay in line!)
GOD THE SON JESUS CHRIST PROFILE…
Revelation 2:23 (NIV) (Jesus says) I WILL STRIKE HER CHILDREN DEAD* (*Sweet Jesus Christ himself is the one having the pleasure of doing the killing of children so he can teach everybody a lesson! The Clergy earned millions printing books about Jesus love without telling anybody Jesus’ vicious children killing habit). Then ALL THE CHURCHES WILL KNOW that I am he who searches hearts and minds, and I will repay each of you according to your deeds.* (*Amen! Praise the LORD Sweet Jesus!)
Luke 19:27 (NIV) (Jesus is very excited telling this story… most Christians prefer to ignore!) But those enemies of mine who did not want me to be king over them–bring them here and kill them in front of me.
Control by fear is deeply rooted in God’s “Plan of Salvation”… So if you got saved GOOD FOR YOU!!! Make sure that you pay your FULL tithes and offering on time or God the Holy Ghost will zap you on the spot and the church people will give you a decent Christian burial without telling anybody in your family. This is the New Testament killing of Christians after Jesus did away with the LAW of the Old Testament! You can’t test God the Holy Ghost a.k.a. “The Comforter” he is very touchy… Saint Paul says that many Christians get sick because of it. So if you get sick it may be that you lag behind in paying your dues to the Church!
GOD THE HOLY GHOST PROFILE…
Act 5:9-11 (NIV) Peter said to her, “How could you agree to test the Spirit of the Lord?* (*by not paying the FULL tithe and offering to the Church) Look! The feet of the men who buried your husband are at the door* (*in a Christian burial nobody notifies the death event to any spouse or relative! Have you noticed how bloody cool is Saint Peter about tithing?) and they will carry you out also.” At that moment SHE FELL DOWN AT HIS FEET AND DIED* (Praise the LORD!). Then the young men came in and, finding her dead, carried her out and buried her beside her husband. GREAT FEAR SEIZED THE WHOLE CHURCH AND ALL WHO HEARD ABOUT THESE EVENTS* (*yeah… it works all the time! Just have somebody killed and the rest will learn! It’s the Bible way! Too bad CNN was not there to report!).
Any member of God the Holy Trinity team puts to shame any mobster intimidating and killing anybody without mercy just to get your attention! And lastly, but not the least different…
THE CLERGY PROFILE…
Deuteronomy 17:12-13 (NIV) The man who shows contempt for the judge or for the PRIEST who stands ministering there to the Lord your God MUST BE PUT TO DEATH* (*Amen! Praise the LORD!). You must purge the evil from Israel. ALL THE PEOPLE WILL HEAR AND BE AFRAID, AND WILL NOT BE CONTEMPTUOUS AGAIN.
Luke 16:17 (NIV) (Jesus said) It is easier for heaven and earth to disappear than for the least stroke of a pen to drop out of the Law.
Jesus said that HE DIDN’T COME TO CHANGE THE LAW!!! But the clergy says that “Jesus fulfilled the Law” whatever that means and that the Old Testament is no longer valid!!! SHAME ON JESUS FOR LYING…!!! Christians would much rather listen to the clergy!
Nothing promotes religion better than the story of a few killings and some coercion to keep the Christian population UNDER A SMILEY CLERGY CONTROL! Believe it or not, most Christians honestly believe that because they are still alive God must love them! So that is why they don’t pay much attention to any of the above. Today we have Clergy led Christians promoting the Bible to make it the Law of the Land! Not even the NAZIS were that bad!
Reply:90% of people use that word daily without knowing the real meaning of it
Reply:I know what you mean…
I try to associate the word “awesome” with God. Love is the emotion I think of most when I think of God.
Reply:It certainly is over used.
At least the Greeks had the right idea to make a different word for each level or kind of love.
Reply:Yes; you are rambling.
There is one Love. It comes from God.
Reply:"eros"
"agape"
These were basic concepts that I learned as a child. I'm sure you are familiar with them. (If not, look them up.)
As for "I love a soda!", this is an example of exaggeration. It is a strong indication of affinty for an object. We have plenty of words that we could use, but 'love' is easier to say than 'strong affinity'.
As an example of cultural differences, we might say,"It's snowing" to an Eskimo. The Eskimo has a great many words for 'snow'. They have a different word for wet snow with big flakes than thier word for small, powdery flakes. They might find our term for 'snow' to be a very general term. But, for someone in Florida that never sees snow, the concept doesn't need to be so precise.
In much the same way, our useage of 'love' is defined by our cultural experiance. We understand that if a friend says,'I love my dog.', he doesn't mean romantic love. We understand that when a nine-year old says that he 'loves' a girl in his class, he actually has a crush on her. By picking up on clues in syntax and combining them with the circumstances, we use the word love to mean many different things.
As a clinical, logical person, I would say that your 'love' for God is actually the manifestation of your insecurity with death. You 'love' him because he offers you eternal life. Suppose that the Bible stated that there was no heaven, and that death was final. Furthermore, suppose the Bible said that God's plan for you was all important and that he loved you. Nothing has changed, except for your eternal reward. Would you still 'love' God? Or, are you in it for eternal life? It's something to think about.
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LOVE: .............. An underrated Ardor??????
My friend confessed to me that the only reason she is with her lover is because she craves the feeling of being loved. She NEEDS it. Eventhough i tell her that her family and I love her, she says that is not the kind of love she is looking for. And obviously she has found it in her lover. Because of childhood neglect and having no friends when she was younger, she says that caused to her to view love from others as something she didnt deserve. What advice should i tell her???
Should i tell her to concentrate on loving herself first before she can love somebody else??
LOVE: .............. An underrated Ardor??????
This is totally biological. here is the reason. in our brains there is receptors. when we keep experiencing things our brain learns this behavior via receptors. they are like little keys. abused women seek abuse, sad people seek sadness, angry people seek out angary situations, why? because it is learned. our brian is familliar with this emotion. the way out is a new key. it can be anything.....but it has to be repetitive. things that produce endorhins is the most powerful to overcome a learned behavior
roller coasters, sky diving, etc...try a new sport. learn it. overcome the last addiction.
Reply:Yep you can. there's nothing wrong with that unless her lover is mistreating her or something.
Reply:oh the loving yourself line is always so accepted!
SEriously, she needs more than a one liner in order to overcome childhood neglect and the other problems you say she had.
A good therapist would help, or maybe just a string of good lovers who make her feel valuable for awhile until she believes she is.
Should i tell her to concentrate on loving herself first before she can love somebody else??
LOVE: .............. An underrated Ardor??????
This is totally biological. here is the reason. in our brains there is receptors. when we keep experiencing things our brain learns this behavior via receptors. they are like little keys. abused women seek abuse, sad people seek sadness, angry people seek out angary situations, why? because it is learned. our brian is familliar with this emotion. the way out is a new key. it can be anything.....but it has to be repetitive. things that produce endorhins is the most powerful to overcome a learned behavior
roller coasters, sky diving, etc...try a new sport. learn it. overcome the last addiction.
Reply:Yep you can. there's nothing wrong with that unless her lover is mistreating her or something.
Reply:oh the loving yourself line is always so accepted!
SEriously, she needs more than a one liner in order to overcome childhood neglect and the other problems you say she had.
A good therapist would help, or maybe just a string of good lovers who make her feel valuable for awhile until she believes she is.
Anyone experienced love torture?
You shud do this, coz i love u
Come home early, coz i love u
talk to me all the night, coz i love u
forget your friends, coz i love u
stop chatting with friends, coz i love u
spend more time with me than your parents, coz i love u
etc etc etc
Fed up of this... happy to feel being loved and to love.
But this torture?????????
Anyone experienced love torture?
This is surely not love, in love there is trust, understanding and space, in a relationship of love there is growth. Here it is called control, abuse and violence. Looks like your partner is very posessive and is insecure from within. And seems like there are trust issues any relationship that has no trust does not last long.
there is nothing wrong in having your own circle of friends we are all human being with a definite life style and we are all different. Some space in relationship is actually healthy,
Reply:My boy used to say to me that I do so, this is not love: it's obsession; but I was not torturing like that, not so jealous, I used to leave him room, but he lived it like a torture, may be you feel it like that because you simply want to feel more free... may be you must often talk to her, and explain that she should loosen her requests, and give more... but the wrong is not always from one side, it is from both sides, remember this.
Reply:Sounds more like he is trying to control you. How long untill coz I love you becomes coz I say so.
Reply:sounds to me like they demanding u to do stuff and just using coz i love u so ull do it
Reply:not yet
Reply:Yea i know how you feel.
Reply:I'm not sure if this is a question or a statement.
Reply:I want to f*** you, coz I love you......near by future you may hear this also from this person...
if not.. .man...this is your life....move from there...
Come home early, coz i love u
talk to me all the night, coz i love u
forget your friends, coz i love u
stop chatting with friends, coz i love u
spend more time with me than your parents, coz i love u
etc etc etc
Fed up of this... happy to feel being loved and to love.
But this torture?????????
Anyone experienced love torture?
This is surely not love, in love there is trust, understanding and space, in a relationship of love there is growth. Here it is called control, abuse and violence. Looks like your partner is very posessive and is insecure from within. And seems like there are trust issues any relationship that has no trust does not last long.
there is nothing wrong in having your own circle of friends we are all human being with a definite life style and we are all different. Some space in relationship is actually healthy,
Reply:My boy used to say to me that I do so, this is not love: it's obsession; but I was not torturing like that, not so jealous, I used to leave him room, but he lived it like a torture, may be you feel it like that because you simply want to feel more free... may be you must often talk to her, and explain that she should loosen her requests, and give more... but the wrong is not always from one side, it is from both sides, remember this.
Reply:Sounds more like he is trying to control you. How long untill coz I love you becomes coz I say so.
Reply:sounds to me like they demanding u to do stuff and just using coz i love u so ull do it
Reply:not yet
Reply:Yea i know how you feel.
Reply:I'm not sure if this is a question or a statement.
Reply:I want to f*** you, coz I love you......near by future you may hear this also from this person...
if not.. .man...this is your life....move from there...
Does love exist?
Is love purely love or is there always other factors related with it?
What makes you love a person? beauty, money, fame, personality?
If the person you are in love with right now, when you first met him or her and him/her was a very ugly person would you still have fallen in love with her/him? Could you ever love a homeless person if money truly is not based in love?
Does love exist?
Yes, love exists. In fact there are three types of love. (Agape) unconditional which we have for are children. (Prelio) which is a brotherly type love. (Eros) which is a sexual type love between man/woman. Love is all around, open your eyes.
Reply:Love is a complicated thing and it is detemined by the person doing the "loving" level of maturity. A mature person loves another for them "the person" and not a wallet. I have been in love twice in my life, the first time was because he said he love me so I thought I was supposed to be in love with him. The second time I FELL in love with an out of work, beautiful hearted man - simply due to his heart and the way he lived his life. We have not been together for 17 years. Love is beautiful, but unfortuneately society dictates that financial status makes life/love easier. I will never believe that I wont love my husband as much if we didn't have a flush bank account. I love the man not the wallet.
Reply:Real love, true love, comes when a person least expects it to. I would still love my love no matter what his looks were or are. He has this kindness about him, this side of him that is helpful with a kind reaching hand to help others. His heart is in the right place. He has the intellegence to do whatever he chooses. He is not rich, and has no money, and if he was homeless, I would still love him. I can not say that he would or does feel the same for me. I actually highly doubt it. But love is unrewarding, it is not boastful, or resentful, and love expects nothing, not in love back in return. And because I feel this way for him, I know my love for him is true, reguardless if he returns it or not. Blessed be.....
Reply:love is in the air every where you turn around
Reply:I am in love with my fiancee. I think that every person can love someone differently. I might love someone for a certain reason, but another person can hate that about a person. It really depends on what your looking for. Everbody is attracted to different people for different reasons.
Reply:Love should be able to stand alone and unaffected by "other factors." But sadly for most people, love isn't the first priority. It takes time to fall in love and learn to love--so the problem isn't so much that we couldn't love someone who is poor or poor-looking. The problem is many people are too shallow to give them a chance. Many people do marry for money, lust, or more innocently because it's the "right" time. They may end up loving whoever they marry--if they're really lucky.
I fell in love with my boyfriend because of his personality and the way I feel when I'm around him. He's such an amazing person and I am lucky to have him--nothing else matters. Love, not money, fame, or beauty, is what makes life worth living--I'd love my boyfriend in spite of anything so superficial.
Reply:Yes. Love does exist. I'm a mom and I love my son more than I ever thought I was capable of loving another human. In regards to loving a homeless person... why not? I'm thinking that the only reason I'd find myself in love with a homeless person is if I'm homeless as well, and we've been hanging out together or something... I don't think I've ever seen a homeless person and fallen in love.. no. I think what I'm trying to say here is that usually, you'd have to grow to love someone... regardless of their looks, their status or anything like that...
Reply:LOVE DOES EXIST BUT IT ONLY REALLY THRIVES IN THE MOVIES. WE ALL HAVE PROBLEMS OUT HERE IN THE REAL WORLD BUT THERE ARE A FEW THAT ARE MADLY IN LOVE AND SHOW THE TRUE MEANING OF LOVE. I WISH I COULD FIND THAT
Reply:Love is incredible and when its real it grows in ways unimaginable.
Love is based in chemistry. Then security. So depending on your needs and wants..it will work for you.
Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. Never judge a person by their looks to rule out a mate. Unless you want a child to have certain things, then you must move to a suitable mate.
The young are attracted for breeding/chemistry, the older are attracted by intellect and security, and if you hit it just right you get the whole thing.
Reply:It is all about experience..if it is first love ..well it is proably good sexual chemistry ..if u have been through things hardships difficulties ..and u have had.. the good looking young dude ..the multimillionaire who was a complete a s s ..and the perve..and the poor dude who had a bad exhaust on his car..but was nice..u have had sympathy for the one labeled the geek or the cripple ...and the not so good looking..if you have been through things it is never ever going to be about all the things you have just said ..money buys things...it doesnt buy happiness ..watch House of Carters..good looks are only as nice as the human being is inside..and fame is only brought about by someone who was in the right place the right time who worked hard or their family was already famous..it takes experiences with Love and people and life to know what "Love"..really means to u as an individual...sounds like maybe u havent been through enough yet if u dont know..
What makes you love a person? beauty, money, fame, personality?
If the person you are in love with right now, when you first met him or her and him/her was a very ugly person would you still have fallen in love with her/him? Could you ever love a homeless person if money truly is not based in love?
Does love exist?
Yes, love exists. In fact there are three types of love. (Agape) unconditional which we have for are children. (Prelio) which is a brotherly type love. (Eros) which is a sexual type love between man/woman. Love is all around, open your eyes.
Reply:Love is a complicated thing and it is detemined by the person doing the "loving" level of maturity. A mature person loves another for them "the person" and not a wallet. I have been in love twice in my life, the first time was because he said he love me so I thought I was supposed to be in love with him. The second time I FELL in love with an out of work, beautiful hearted man - simply due to his heart and the way he lived his life. We have not been together for 17 years. Love is beautiful, but unfortuneately society dictates that financial status makes life/love easier. I will never believe that I wont love my husband as much if we didn't have a flush bank account. I love the man not the wallet.
Reply:Real love, true love, comes when a person least expects it to. I would still love my love no matter what his looks were or are. He has this kindness about him, this side of him that is helpful with a kind reaching hand to help others. His heart is in the right place. He has the intellegence to do whatever he chooses. He is not rich, and has no money, and if he was homeless, I would still love him. I can not say that he would or does feel the same for me. I actually highly doubt it. But love is unrewarding, it is not boastful, or resentful, and love expects nothing, not in love back in return. And because I feel this way for him, I know my love for him is true, reguardless if he returns it or not. Blessed be.....
Reply:love is in the air every where you turn around
Reply:I am in love with my fiancee. I think that every person can love someone differently. I might love someone for a certain reason, but another person can hate that about a person. It really depends on what your looking for. Everbody is attracted to different people for different reasons.
Reply:Love should be able to stand alone and unaffected by "other factors." But sadly for most people, love isn't the first priority. It takes time to fall in love and learn to love--so the problem isn't so much that we couldn't love someone who is poor or poor-looking. The problem is many people are too shallow to give them a chance. Many people do marry for money, lust, or more innocently because it's the "right" time. They may end up loving whoever they marry--if they're really lucky.
I fell in love with my boyfriend because of his personality and the way I feel when I'm around him. He's such an amazing person and I am lucky to have him--nothing else matters. Love, not money, fame, or beauty, is what makes life worth living--I'd love my boyfriend in spite of anything so superficial.
Reply:Yes. Love does exist. I'm a mom and I love my son more than I ever thought I was capable of loving another human. In regards to loving a homeless person... why not? I'm thinking that the only reason I'd find myself in love with a homeless person is if I'm homeless as well, and we've been hanging out together or something... I don't think I've ever seen a homeless person and fallen in love.. no. I think what I'm trying to say here is that usually, you'd have to grow to love someone... regardless of their looks, their status or anything like that...
Reply:LOVE DOES EXIST BUT IT ONLY REALLY THRIVES IN THE MOVIES. WE ALL HAVE PROBLEMS OUT HERE IN THE REAL WORLD BUT THERE ARE A FEW THAT ARE MADLY IN LOVE AND SHOW THE TRUE MEANING OF LOVE. I WISH I COULD FIND THAT
Reply:Love is incredible and when its real it grows in ways unimaginable.
Love is based in chemistry. Then security. So depending on your needs and wants..it will work for you.
Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. Never judge a person by their looks to rule out a mate. Unless you want a child to have certain things, then you must move to a suitable mate.
The young are attracted for breeding/chemistry, the older are attracted by intellect and security, and if you hit it just right you get the whole thing.
Reply:It is all about experience..if it is first love ..well it is proably good sexual chemistry ..if u have been through things hardships difficulties ..and u have had.. the good looking young dude ..the multimillionaire who was a complete a s s ..and the perve..and the poor dude who had a bad exhaust on his car..but was nice..u have had sympathy for the one labeled the geek or the cripple ...and the not so good looking..if you have been through things it is never ever going to be about all the things you have just said ..money buys things...it doesnt buy happiness ..watch House of Carters..good looks are only as nice as the human being is inside..and fame is only brought about by someone who was in the right place the right time who worked hard or their family was already famous..it takes experiences with Love and people and life to know what "Love"..really means to u as an individual...sounds like maybe u havent been through enough yet if u dont know..
Isn't "LOVE" in Itself a Selfish Act??
People use "love" as if it were an act of "giving" when really, in its most brute form, is an act of "taking."
People only love people because it makes THEM feel good. They wouldn't love anyone if it didn't make them feel a certain way.
So essentially, people only love others for themselves.
Itsn't it all a phoney, theatrical act??
Even when a mother says she loves her own child, she really only does so because it HER child and she wants to protect HER offspring. Because it is part of her.
A man or a woman who claim they love their spouse only do so because THEY THEMSELVES get something out of it.
It could be company, sex, money, security, helpful hand etc.
Nobody would love anyone if there was nothing in it for themselves.
People who adopt kids and love them only do it so they can feel good about themselves or pat themselves on the back. They think it's good karma or they'll get rewarded for it by God.
It sounds very depressing, but isn't that the cold hard truth??
Isn't "LOVE" in Itself a Selfish Act??
Oh poor guy reading the first line I had known that you are so poor that you even don't know the meaning of love, so understanding love is a far from reach kind of thing for you.
I don't have the courage to read your bogus, immature manuscript.
May God bless you and someday you understand what love really is. That day you will feel that you have breathed for the first time.
i dare to read you bogus manuscript and find out that you are sick. How can you talk so nonsense about the most beautiful feeling of the world. it is OK if you don't understand but it's a crime if you misunderstand.
you are a criminal.
Reply:Read these books by Ayn Rand
The Fountainhead.
Atlas Shrugged.
It would show you why being selfish is good, and how dreadful the act of selflessness can be
Reply:Nah. It's love, love. I would think adopting kids is GIVING them a family. I can GIVE my love to a significant other. It's like saying you admire them, it's a compliment.
Reply:It seems to me that you've never really loved, you've never been a mother and you've never adopted a child. With no first-hand experience in any of these cases I'd rather not generalize the way you do. Love, true love bears no 'if...' or 'because...', it's just love. It may actually make you feel really bad as well as really good or both but this offers no explanation whatsoever as to how and why love does happen. I do wish love happens to you one day and you realize what people like me here can only try to explain to you but most probably won't succeed. I guess it is similar with love of God - I myself am an atheist - I dare say I'm quite tolerant and open to other people's ideas, yet hard as I try, I cannot really understand this. For love is a first-hand experience - no explanations are ever good enough and if you haven't yourself felt it you'll never be really convinced.
As I said - wish you love :)
Reply:yes, love is one word which can be used and is used predominantly the way you put it.
is there a selfless love?
parents torture their children with their love. lovers possess each other in the name of love. people kill others in the name of love. all sorts of violence and rubbish goes on in this world in the name of love. is this the love that we are talking about? or are we going to inquire to see if there is something called selfless love?
Reply:Love is simply a connection with another spiritual entity. It simply exists. It is not selfish nor unselfish. We don't practice it on purpose, it just happens.
Selfishness is misunderstood. We can only live our lives for ourselves and should always love ourselves and take care of ourselves first. That would seem selfish, but it is not because if we love and respect ourselves then when we connect with another one that we love we will treat them with love and integrity and respect.
Reply:Love is not a selfish act now some people do use the word Love to get what they want but that is not love that is an opportunist.
So No Love is not a selfish because to get love you must give love truly and unselfishly.
Reply:No, love isn't a selfish act.
Reply:Yes, I agree...you are absolutely right. If I told you otherwise, I would be bullsh*ting you and myself.
Reply:ABSOLUTELY NOT ! ! I don't say this to be critical but obviously you don't understand the concept. Hopefully someday you will .
Reply:You never saw reflected glory in the smile of someone, more than special, at a shared joke? Never got to delight in seeing your lovers body quake at your touch? Never felt your own eyes sparkle to know that theirs shine for you?
It's not good karma and I am judged by no god.
But I certainly love...
Reply:no love is not selfish. it's just that not many people love.
Reply:Oh, you Sad, Sad, Person you!!!
Reply:I think so. There's action, and a 'loving' action often accompanies love, and that can be unselfish, but I think the whole process of 'being in love' is actually a process of self-realization and self-acceptance, so it is a completely self-centered act.
Reply:Love is a responsibility.
local dentist
People only love people because it makes THEM feel good. They wouldn't love anyone if it didn't make them feel a certain way.
So essentially, people only love others for themselves.
Itsn't it all a phoney, theatrical act??
Even when a mother says she loves her own child, she really only does so because it HER child and she wants to protect HER offspring. Because it is part of her.
A man or a woman who claim they love their spouse only do so because THEY THEMSELVES get something out of it.
It could be company, sex, money, security, helpful hand etc.
Nobody would love anyone if there was nothing in it for themselves.
People who adopt kids and love them only do it so they can feel good about themselves or pat themselves on the back. They think it's good karma or they'll get rewarded for it by God.
It sounds very depressing, but isn't that the cold hard truth??
Isn't "LOVE" in Itself a Selfish Act??
Oh poor guy reading the first line I had known that you are so poor that you even don't know the meaning of love, so understanding love is a far from reach kind of thing for you.
I don't have the courage to read your bogus, immature manuscript.
May God bless you and someday you understand what love really is. That day you will feel that you have breathed for the first time.
i dare to read you bogus manuscript and find out that you are sick. How can you talk so nonsense about the most beautiful feeling of the world. it is OK if you don't understand but it's a crime if you misunderstand.
you are a criminal.
Reply:Read these books by Ayn Rand
The Fountainhead.
Atlas Shrugged.
It would show you why being selfish is good, and how dreadful the act of selflessness can be
Reply:Nah. It's love, love. I would think adopting kids is GIVING them a family. I can GIVE my love to a significant other. It's like saying you admire them, it's a compliment.
Reply:It seems to me that you've never really loved, you've never been a mother and you've never adopted a child. With no first-hand experience in any of these cases I'd rather not generalize the way you do. Love, true love bears no 'if...' or 'because...', it's just love. It may actually make you feel really bad as well as really good or both but this offers no explanation whatsoever as to how and why love does happen. I do wish love happens to you one day and you realize what people like me here can only try to explain to you but most probably won't succeed. I guess it is similar with love of God - I myself am an atheist - I dare say I'm quite tolerant and open to other people's ideas, yet hard as I try, I cannot really understand this. For love is a first-hand experience - no explanations are ever good enough and if you haven't yourself felt it you'll never be really convinced.
As I said - wish you love :)
Reply:yes, love is one word which can be used and is used predominantly the way you put it.
is there a selfless love?
parents torture their children with their love. lovers possess each other in the name of love. people kill others in the name of love. all sorts of violence and rubbish goes on in this world in the name of love. is this the love that we are talking about? or are we going to inquire to see if there is something called selfless love?
Reply:Love is simply a connection with another spiritual entity. It simply exists. It is not selfish nor unselfish. We don't practice it on purpose, it just happens.
Selfishness is misunderstood. We can only live our lives for ourselves and should always love ourselves and take care of ourselves first. That would seem selfish, but it is not because if we love and respect ourselves then when we connect with another one that we love we will treat them with love and integrity and respect.
Reply:Love is not a selfish act now some people do use the word Love to get what they want but that is not love that is an opportunist.
So No Love is not a selfish because to get love you must give love truly and unselfishly.
Reply:No, love isn't a selfish act.
Reply:Yes, I agree...you are absolutely right. If I told you otherwise, I would be bullsh*ting you and myself.
Reply:ABSOLUTELY NOT ! ! I don't say this to be critical but obviously you don't understand the concept. Hopefully someday you will .
Reply:You never saw reflected glory in the smile of someone, more than special, at a shared joke? Never got to delight in seeing your lovers body quake at your touch? Never felt your own eyes sparkle to know that theirs shine for you?
It's not good karma and I am judged by no god.
But I certainly love...
Reply:no love is not selfish. it's just that not many people love.
Reply:Oh, you Sad, Sad, Person you!!!
Reply:I think so. There's action, and a 'loving' action often accompanies love, and that can be unselfish, but I think the whole process of 'being in love' is actually a process of self-realization and self-acceptance, so it is a completely self-centered act.
Reply:Love is a responsibility.
local dentist
Love -OR- Charity? Question Repeated, as no answers were adequate to be called best of good better best.?
Love(Law) often fails. Charity(Grace) "never" fails.
Wrongful conviction -OR- Conviction to flush all law?
Many a divorce began with Love(Law), ended badly.
Many a relationship began with Love, but ended bad.
The end ("you") of the commandment to
"Love one another, as I have loved you"
(God one another, as I have Goded you)
is clarified by Paul: "his witness unto all men", as 3 things:
1. Charity out of a pure heart (one heart, of pure grace)
2. AND [of] a good conscience (purged of law imputed sin)
3. AND [of] faith unfeigned (pst: the law is not of faith: Gal 3)
I ask again: Love(Law) -OR- Charity(Grace) for you ?
"Either make the tree corrupt (law) or good (grace)" !
Love -OR- Charity? Question Repeated, as no answers were adequate to be called best of good better best.?
If you wish to get an adequate answer, cease using your parenthesis keys. There is no way to answer your question because it is only barely intelligible (and I have two master's degrees).
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Reply:Dear DoubleMindead DoubleDore,
Having two masters is like being law law.
Having one master is like being grace us. Report It
Reply:It's never been Law or Grace, it's always Law AND Grace. Without Law, there is no sin; for sin IS the transgression of the Law. Grace is the Divine enabler that gives the sinful nature of man the power to overcome sin... even as Jesus overcame. Rev.3:21.
Jesus is the pattern Son and kept all of God's Laws perfectly because He was full of Grace. We keep the Law imperfectly because we lack the Divine ingredient that Jesus was born with. The Good News is, HIS grace is sufficient for us and He covers our Law breaking (sin) with His grace.
Reply:Greetings Friend,
Just to say upfront, I doubt that this answer will be adequate enough for you either but I will give it a try.
There is at least one thing in your statements that you are assuming: that there is a contradiction between love and charity. In addition, you are using the words love and charity with specialized meanings. Since when does love mean law? Or charity mean grace? In fact, since you say Paul, I'll make an assumption. My assumption is that you are referring to the Apostle Paul in the Bible. If this is true, then you should readily know that the word charity in the KJV (I say KJV because I am not familiar with whether or not charity is in other versions of the Bible, or whether they just translate agape as love) comes from that word agape in the Greek, which means love according to Strong's Exhaustive Concordance. So, the real meaning of charity is love, at least in the Biblical context. The word charity, according to Merriam-Webster's online dictionary, means:
1. benevolent goodwill toward or love of humanity
2 a: generosity and helpfulness especially toward the needy or suffering; also : aid given to those in need b: an institution engaged in relief of the poor c: public provision for the relief of the needy
3 a: a gift for public benevolent purposes b: an institution (as a hospital) founded by such a gift
4: lenient judgment of others
In addition, after looking at the same sources, I did not find the word love to mean law in any way. You may want to look for yourself: http://www.m-w.com/dictionary/love.
However, since we have the interpretation of words some what understood, let's ask your question like this: would we rather have law or love (grace). My simple answer is love of course. When we all love enough, we will not need the law because we will govern our lives by the law of love (yes this is a pun).
sending love,
Reply:Proverbs 3:5 - Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
Reply:Yes. Why would you say love=law?
Have you studied CS Lewis' book "The 5 Loves"?
All loves are necessary, the base love that we should practice is agape. We should also phileo one another, and also eros our spouse, etc...
Wrongful conviction -OR- Conviction to flush all law?
Many a divorce began with Love(Law), ended badly.
Many a relationship began with Love, but ended bad.
The end ("you") of the commandment to
"Love one another, as I have loved you"
(God one another, as I have Goded you)
is clarified by Paul: "his witness unto all men", as 3 things:
1. Charity out of a pure heart (one heart, of pure grace)
2. AND [of] a good conscience (purged of law imputed sin)
3. AND [of] faith unfeigned (pst: the law is not of faith: Gal 3)
I ask again: Love(Law) -OR- Charity(Grace) for you ?
"Either make the tree corrupt (law) or good (grace)" !
Love -OR- Charity? Question Repeated, as no answers were adequate to be called best of good better best.?
If you wish to get an adequate answer, cease using your parenthesis keys. There is no way to answer your question because it is only barely intelligible (and I have two master's degrees).
^v^ ^v^ ^v^ ^v^ ^v^ ^v^ ^v^ ^v^
Reply:Dear DoubleMindead DoubleDore,
Having two masters is like being law law.
Having one master is like being grace us. Report It
Reply:It's never been Law or Grace, it's always Law AND Grace. Without Law, there is no sin; for sin IS the transgression of the Law. Grace is the Divine enabler that gives the sinful nature of man the power to overcome sin... even as Jesus overcame. Rev.3:21.
Jesus is the pattern Son and kept all of God's Laws perfectly because He was full of Grace. We keep the Law imperfectly because we lack the Divine ingredient that Jesus was born with. The Good News is, HIS grace is sufficient for us and He covers our Law breaking (sin) with His grace.
Reply:Greetings Friend,
Just to say upfront, I doubt that this answer will be adequate enough for you either but I will give it a try.
There is at least one thing in your statements that you are assuming: that there is a contradiction between love and charity. In addition, you are using the words love and charity with specialized meanings. Since when does love mean law? Or charity mean grace? In fact, since you say Paul, I'll make an assumption. My assumption is that you are referring to the Apostle Paul in the Bible. If this is true, then you should readily know that the word charity in the KJV (I say KJV because I am not familiar with whether or not charity is in other versions of the Bible, or whether they just translate agape as love) comes from that word agape in the Greek, which means love according to Strong's Exhaustive Concordance. So, the real meaning of charity is love, at least in the Biblical context. The word charity, according to Merriam-Webster's online dictionary, means:
1. benevolent goodwill toward or love of humanity
2 a: generosity and helpfulness especially toward the needy or suffering; also : aid given to those in need b: an institution engaged in relief of the poor c: public provision for the relief of the needy
3 a: a gift for public benevolent purposes b: an institution (as a hospital) founded by such a gift
4: lenient judgment of others
In addition, after looking at the same sources, I did not find the word love to mean law in any way. You may want to look for yourself: http://www.m-w.com/dictionary/love.
However, since we have the interpretation of words some what understood, let's ask your question like this: would we rather have law or love (grace). My simple answer is love of course. When we all love enough, we will not need the law because we will govern our lives by the law of love (yes this is a pun).
sending love,
Reply:Proverbs 3:5 - Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
Reply:Yes. Why would you say love=law?
Have you studied CS Lewis' book "The 5 Loves"?
All loves are necessary, the base love that we should practice is agape. We should also phileo one another, and also eros our spouse, etc...
Till Love Was Found Poem.?
I thought I was doomed to roam around in aimless desolation, till I found you love.
I thought I'd never reach that sweet soft salvation , till I found you love.
I thought I was going to lose myself in The Reaper's blade alone to die , till I found you love.
I now know you also felt lost in life's labyrinthian ways,
till you found me love.
I now know it was just as hard for you to find your treasured paradise, till you found me love.
I now know you were also afraid to enter fate's last gate alone, till you found me love.
Oh but eventhough Love is such a fickle fascination , and a shattering frustration, it will always sometimes find a way to
lift the doomed sensation.
©
9/4/06
Till Love Was Found Poem.?
NICE
I thought I'd never reach that sweet soft salvation , till I found you love.
I thought I was going to lose myself in The Reaper's blade alone to die , till I found you love.
I now know you also felt lost in life's labyrinthian ways,
till you found me love.
I now know it was just as hard for you to find your treasured paradise, till you found me love.
I now know you were also afraid to enter fate's last gate alone, till you found me love.
Oh but eventhough Love is such a fickle fascination , and a shattering frustration, it will always sometimes find a way to
lift the doomed sensation.
©
9/4/06
Till Love Was Found Poem.?
NICE
I love two guys and Have a boyfriend I don't love....? hmmmmm....I think I may need some help!!?
Ok soo here's the deal....I was in this realationship with this one guy and I was/am head over hills in love with him!!! We had an amazing realationship,but than we broke up! Now he has some gurl pregant and soo now I know I can't be with him....but I still love him and he still loves me. and than theres my best friend and I love him to death! I mean I think I could spend the rest of my life with him,but I'm not physically attracted to him....but I love him, should I let the physical stuff get in the way...and than there's my poor boy friend his real cool...but I don't love him,he's just doesn't talk to me...there's not way to make a real deep connection...if any one is still reading this,PLZ help I don't know what to do I'm confused!!!! very confused!!
I love two guys and Have a boyfriend I don't love....? hmmmmm....I think I may need some help!!?
Since your ex-boyfriend did get a girl pregnant, it wouldn't be at all fair, to the girl who is pregnant, for the father to leave her for someone else so I think you should move on from him and let him take care of what is happening in his life, even if you do still love him. I know that it may sound blunt, but a man should never just leave someone that he has even accidently commited to (meaning him impregnating her). To your second problem, if you can't learn to see or feel for what your boyfriend truly is, or you can't accept or deal with his personality, then a long-lasting relationship is pretty much unattainable. Physical attraction should never be above what you see on the inside of a person. If you think you could really grow to love him regardless of his outward appearance, then I think you might discover that you have someone you will never stop loving and if you're lucky, it will be the same for him too.I hope this helped some.
Reply:the first guy u stated seems to love someone else whether he tells u he loves u r not,or maybe he does love u but dont mess up that girl's life that would be really f***ed up if u did, u should leave ur current bf and get with the "best friend" who really isnt ur best friend because ur crushing on him so he's ur crush or the love of ur life watever u rather call him, dont let the physical get in the way girl u never know with him he may love u and yall could have a better relationship than the relationship u had with that other guy
Reply:Guys are physical beings unlike girls who dwell on their emotions. I found some articles for you that might help you understand what's really in your ex BF's mind http://gotblab.com/category/sex-and-dati...
Reply:Get your act togther.The one who you are loving is gone ,stop dreaming.Try to connect with your boyfriend, this is a better investment.
Reply:dont worry.. remember.. the saying.. 'THE MORE THE MARRIER'
Reply:The reason you are confused is that you allow your feelings/emotions to get the better of you. You need to use both your heart and your mind. And you need to decide. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. Only one cake at a time. And some you simply cannot have (because they've been sold or taken already).
How can you say that your ex loves you still when he got another girl pregnant?
Try to sort your mind. Sex and love are never the same. Ditto for physical attraction and love. Ask yourself what you really want from a partner or potential husband/father. Never go deep into physical relationships without the other party's commitment.
Reply:I agree you need some help.
Reply:No you shouldnt let the physical attraction get n the way...if hes sumone you think you can spend the rest of ur life with than u cant let it get n the way...
Reply:Best advice for you, just leave everyone alone and start new, find ONE true person and quit playin games!!
Reply:do not go for the guy who made the other girl pregnant. do not stck wit ur current bf if u have no feelings forhim. i would say go for the friend
Reply:Spend time to talk to that person, ur poor boyfriend...
if you don't talk anymore, how would you know his real feelings right?=) i'm guessing that this poor boyfriend of yours is very good in pleasing women in bed right?? hmmmmm... how do i know?=) i was a poor boyfriend of someone too but nobody could take her to that one place that only i, YES, only i can take her into... u got my WORD OF HONOR honey... promise
Reply:make up your mind, it seems like you need you world rocked ;)
Reply:Pretty sure that you don't understand what love means. Just do whatever you want, because it doesn't matter anyway.
Reply:hey ;) just sounds like my love-confusion and love-trouble... maybe i can help you by describing how it might work otherwise round (if you had this real good friend as boyfriend..) so: that's my little story. and let me tell you, i'm just as confused as you are!!
i have this boyfriend who i love to death also. i met him, he's very charismatic and charming. i immediately thought "this is it" "i'll know this man until i die". BUT.. guess what.. i didn't feel physically attracted to him. more spiritually, or let's say, it was a mind and communication thing. but important: the physical attraction (or no-attraction) actually never changed :( so imagine, i have a boyfriend of 4 years and i do love him and all, BUT it almost kills me not to feel passion with him. believe me, don't go there :( if love-life means not so much to you - go for your friend!! but i recommend not to. for obvious reasons... here again goes my little story. in the middle of my relationship i met.. tata.. an old love of mine that has not worked out in the past. i still loved him very much, and attraction came back and he seduced me and.. well, we had a love-affair. it almost killed me to feel passion again with this guy i loved, but i also realised i don't have the same mind%26amp;spiritual attraction to him. no good communication. sad again!! nor did i like his friends. but it just felt right to be with him. he was the man i really needed. so.. after months, i lost contact to my old love again, because situation was just unsatisfying and so unclear. i broke up with my bf, but after 2-3 weeks i got week (because i still loved him, just different, and i did think he was the love of my life) i stayed with my boyfriend for 3 years. THEN.. tata.. i met man number 3, just like you. this man is very flirty, there are tons of sparks and i completely fell for him but no real good communication again. he does know my situation and this is just ok for him. he loves to play with girls.. plus.. after 3 months i found out he was married. this was unsuspected but made it clear. ever since i met him - and even more since i know the whole truth about him - i try to break free. i would prefer my bf at any time!!! i love my boyfriend even more, since i met the other man. it is like i love two man at the same time: with one it's more the "eternal-thing", like i believe i have to go without the physical satisfaction. the other man makes me addicted to him by giving me what i miss in my boyfriend. so believe me, it's no good, if you love "love", to take your good friend as boyfriend. you can try though ;) who knows..
and to man number 2 (my old love, who i always think about) we took up contact just a couple of weeks ago. he does have a gf. and he's a very faithful guy. i respect him so much. and i can hardly wait to see his face again after 3 years. but i'm so afraid also and want to maybe rather build up a good friendship with him. hoping that maybe it works with him, one day... i don't know! let me tell you - now i have the same kind of trouble like you!! i'm confused so much... love my bf and have pity also and don't want to hurt. but my behaviour is crazy and mindless. if i'm honest to myself, i should rather break up with my love and boyfriend and find someone where i feel sparks, passion, and a best friend also!!! just all in one. is this asked too much?? :) good luck to you... i hope you meet a new man who you will fall in love completely with everything it needs.
Reply:Why did you two break up? Does he love the girl that he got pregnant? Just because he is having a child with someone else, doesn't mean that he has to be with her forever, just as long as he takes care of his child. I would just keep your friend as your friend. If you're not physically attracted to him, then there is no way you two could have a relationship other than friends. I think you should talk to your first boyfriend and see where he stands with his feelings for you, stay friends with your friend and break up with your boyfriend if you're not in love with him or don't think you ever will be. Good luck girl!
I love two guys and Have a boyfriend I don't love....? hmmmmm....I think I may need some help!!?
Since your ex-boyfriend did get a girl pregnant, it wouldn't be at all fair, to the girl who is pregnant, for the father to leave her for someone else so I think you should move on from him and let him take care of what is happening in his life, even if you do still love him. I know that it may sound blunt, but a man should never just leave someone that he has even accidently commited to (meaning him impregnating her). To your second problem, if you can't learn to see or feel for what your boyfriend truly is, or you can't accept or deal with his personality, then a long-lasting relationship is pretty much unattainable. Physical attraction should never be above what you see on the inside of a person. If you think you could really grow to love him regardless of his outward appearance, then I think you might discover that you have someone you will never stop loving and if you're lucky, it will be the same for him too.I hope this helped some.
Reply:the first guy u stated seems to love someone else whether he tells u he loves u r not,or maybe he does love u but dont mess up that girl's life that would be really f***ed up if u did, u should leave ur current bf and get with the "best friend" who really isnt ur best friend because ur crushing on him so he's ur crush or the love of ur life watever u rather call him, dont let the physical get in the way girl u never know with him he may love u and yall could have a better relationship than the relationship u had with that other guy
Reply:Guys are physical beings unlike girls who dwell on their emotions. I found some articles for you that might help you understand what's really in your ex BF's mind http://gotblab.com/category/sex-and-dati...
Reply:Get your act togther.The one who you are loving is gone ,stop dreaming.Try to connect with your boyfriend, this is a better investment.
Reply:dont worry.. remember.. the saying.. 'THE MORE THE MARRIER'
Reply:The reason you are confused is that you allow your feelings/emotions to get the better of you. You need to use both your heart and your mind. And you need to decide. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. Only one cake at a time. And some you simply cannot have (because they've been sold or taken already).
How can you say that your ex loves you still when he got another girl pregnant?
Try to sort your mind. Sex and love are never the same. Ditto for physical attraction and love. Ask yourself what you really want from a partner or potential husband/father. Never go deep into physical relationships without the other party's commitment.
Reply:I agree you need some help.
Reply:No you shouldnt let the physical attraction get n the way...if hes sumone you think you can spend the rest of ur life with than u cant let it get n the way...
Reply:Best advice for you, just leave everyone alone and start new, find ONE true person and quit playin games!!
Reply:do not go for the guy who made the other girl pregnant. do not stck wit ur current bf if u have no feelings forhim. i would say go for the friend
Reply:Spend time to talk to that person, ur poor boyfriend...
if you don't talk anymore, how would you know his real feelings right?=) i'm guessing that this poor boyfriend of yours is very good in pleasing women in bed right?? hmmmmm... how do i know?=) i was a poor boyfriend of someone too but nobody could take her to that one place that only i, YES, only i can take her into... u got my WORD OF HONOR honey... promise
Reply:make up your mind, it seems like you need you world rocked ;)
Reply:Pretty sure that you don't understand what love means. Just do whatever you want, because it doesn't matter anyway.
Reply:hey ;) just sounds like my love-confusion and love-trouble... maybe i can help you by describing how it might work otherwise round (if you had this real good friend as boyfriend..) so: that's my little story. and let me tell you, i'm just as confused as you are!!
i have this boyfriend who i love to death also. i met him, he's very charismatic and charming. i immediately thought "this is it" "i'll know this man until i die". BUT.. guess what.. i didn't feel physically attracted to him. more spiritually, or let's say, it was a mind and communication thing. but important: the physical attraction (or no-attraction) actually never changed :( so imagine, i have a boyfriend of 4 years and i do love him and all, BUT it almost kills me not to feel passion with him. believe me, don't go there :( if love-life means not so much to you - go for your friend!! but i recommend not to. for obvious reasons... here again goes my little story. in the middle of my relationship i met.. tata.. an old love of mine that has not worked out in the past. i still loved him very much, and attraction came back and he seduced me and.. well, we had a love-affair. it almost killed me to feel passion again with this guy i loved, but i also realised i don't have the same mind%26amp;spiritual attraction to him. no good communication. sad again!! nor did i like his friends. but it just felt right to be with him. he was the man i really needed. so.. after months, i lost contact to my old love again, because situation was just unsatisfying and so unclear. i broke up with my bf, but after 2-3 weeks i got week (because i still loved him, just different, and i did think he was the love of my life) i stayed with my boyfriend for 3 years. THEN.. tata.. i met man number 3, just like you. this man is very flirty, there are tons of sparks and i completely fell for him but no real good communication again. he does know my situation and this is just ok for him. he loves to play with girls.. plus.. after 3 months i found out he was married. this was unsuspected but made it clear. ever since i met him - and even more since i know the whole truth about him - i try to break free. i would prefer my bf at any time!!! i love my boyfriend even more, since i met the other man. it is like i love two man at the same time: with one it's more the "eternal-thing", like i believe i have to go without the physical satisfaction. the other man makes me addicted to him by giving me what i miss in my boyfriend. so believe me, it's no good, if you love "love", to take your good friend as boyfriend. you can try though ;) who knows..
and to man number 2 (my old love, who i always think about) we took up contact just a couple of weeks ago. he does have a gf. and he's a very faithful guy. i respect him so much. and i can hardly wait to see his face again after 3 years. but i'm so afraid also and want to maybe rather build up a good friendship with him. hoping that maybe it works with him, one day... i don't know! let me tell you - now i have the same kind of trouble like you!! i'm confused so much... love my bf and have pity also and don't want to hurt. but my behaviour is crazy and mindless. if i'm honest to myself, i should rather break up with my love and boyfriend and find someone where i feel sparks, passion, and a best friend also!!! just all in one. is this asked too much?? :) good luck to you... i hope you meet a new man who you will fall in love completely with everything it needs.
Reply:Why did you two break up? Does he love the girl that he got pregnant? Just because he is having a child with someone else, doesn't mean that he has to be with her forever, just as long as he takes care of his child. I would just keep your friend as your friend. If you're not physically attracted to him, then there is no way you two could have a relationship other than friends. I think you should talk to your first boyfriend and see where he stands with his feelings for you, stay friends with your friend and break up with your boyfriend if you're not in love with him or don't think you ever will be. Good luck girl!
What is love?
What is love? Is love never having to say you're sorry? Is love blind? What is love? I know the official defintion, but I want to know the real definition. Not just sexual love, but love between friends, love of yourself...just love. What is it?
What is love?
what is love..baby dont hurt me...dont hurt me..no..more..nahnahnahnahnah...srry, i just had to sing u alittle song
Reply:What is love? a feeling or that famous song!
Is love never having to say you're sorry? what? Of course you shoul d say you're sorry if you really are.
Is love blind? sometimes, but not really.
What is love? I already answered that.
I know the official defintion, but I want to know the real definition. Not just sexual love, but love between friends, love of yourself...just love. What is it?
Oh I see now, well love is unconditional (a book once told me). Its everything that nice. It's not just sexual, it depends on who you are talking about. If it's love for a guy, it's different than if you were loving your family or friends.
Love is basically an emotion and a commited and they say, "intense" one, because it's a powerful emotion that requires alot of energy from a person, and a lot of dedication and true feelings (alot is a stake when you express this emotion to someone). they might not even feel these same feelings for you as you do with them.
Love is usually unconditional (in short), forgiving, understanding, supporting, etc.
Reply:It is a trick of the mind, a method of the ego who needs to be loved, only by you . Who in turn seeks through others to fill that void.
I AM
Reply:wat is love? figure it out. only you would know and understand it ur self.
gumps
What is love?
what is love..baby dont hurt me...dont hurt me..no..more..nahnahnahnahnah...srry, i just had to sing u alittle song
Reply:What is love? a feeling or that famous song!
Is love never having to say you're sorry? what? Of course you shoul d say you're sorry if you really are.
Is love blind? sometimes, but not really.
What is love? I already answered that.
I know the official defintion, but I want to know the real definition. Not just sexual love, but love between friends, love of yourself...just love. What is it?
Oh I see now, well love is unconditional (a book once told me). Its everything that nice. It's not just sexual, it depends on who you are talking about. If it's love for a guy, it's different than if you were loving your family or friends.
Love is basically an emotion and a commited and they say, "intense" one, because it's a powerful emotion that requires alot of energy from a person, and a lot of dedication and true feelings (alot is a stake when you express this emotion to someone). they might not even feel these same feelings for you as you do with them.
Love is usually unconditional (in short), forgiving, understanding, supporting, etc.
Reply:It is a trick of the mind, a method of the ego who needs to be loved, only by you . Who in turn seeks through others to fill that void.
I AM
Reply:wat is love? figure it out. only you would know and understand it ur self.
gumps
In Love at 13?
well yeah i'm gonna be 14 in september and i fell in love and i love him but my parents don't want me to see him because he is 14 years older than me but yeah i've almost known him for a year and i love him but if my parents find out i still talk to him i'm gonna end up in juvy and he'll end up in jail..this isn't right he hasn't done anything to me isn't not fair and my parents judge him tell me he isn't good enough 4 me but i love him and i really want to spend the rest of my life with him i really can't wait till i'm 18 i'm going to be able to see him i really miss him because he moved 3 hours away from me and i call him when i get the chance but idk what to do..and just yesterday he asked me to be his gurlfriend and i asked him.. will u wait 4 me till i'm 18 and he said yes and i have 4 more years till i see him i really can't wait but idk what to do i really love that he is patient,loving,caring,respectful i love him i'm very happy to have found him
In Love at 13?
You can't really love someone until you love yourself. You are very young and really need to get to know yourself better. 13 or 14 is the age you start to learn about love but it's not healthy or safe to be in love when you're 13 or 14. Try to do well in school and pick up some activities. Go to college in a few years and reach your potential. Good luck sweetie.
Reply:You're almost fourteen and he's 28 - and you think this is "true love"?
Sorry, but that is impossible. Much as I hate to say it, you're being taken advantage of by an adult who knows better. There are many reasons why there are laws to protect young girls, but all of them have to do with you being preyed upon by adults. Those laws call such behavior "statutory rape" because you are not old enough or wise enough to handle these situations on your own.
If he continues to contact you, please let your parents know immediately and ask them to call the police and report him. You are putting yourself in serious danger by continuing any relationship with him.
You matter, so take especial care of yourself!
Reply:Love?
In Love at 13?
You can't really love someone until you love yourself. You are very young and really need to get to know yourself better. 13 or 14 is the age you start to learn about love but it's not healthy or safe to be in love when you're 13 or 14. Try to do well in school and pick up some activities. Go to college in a few years and reach your potential. Good luck sweetie.
Reply:You're almost fourteen and he's 28 - and you think this is "true love"?
Sorry, but that is impossible. Much as I hate to say it, you're being taken advantage of by an adult who knows better. There are many reasons why there are laws to protect young girls, but all of them have to do with you being preyed upon by adults. Those laws call such behavior "statutory rape" because you are not old enough or wise enough to handle these situations on your own.
If he continues to contact you, please let your parents know immediately and ask them to call the police and report him. You are putting yourself in serious danger by continuing any relationship with him.
You matter, so take especial care of yourself!
Reply:Love?
He says he loves me, and i love him, but he keeps disappointing me.....?
im 15, kevin is 16. hes a TOTAL player. hes also amazingly drop dead gorgeous.
he said this:
i love you so much that the word love has become in love with its self. i think you are the most beautifulest girl in the world and if any guy cant except that then they dont no the meaning of love. when i look at you my heart goes crazy and if any other guy does not feel the same then they are real messed up in the head. i will never stop loving what i see in your eyes.
i love you so much that me hearing about other guys makes my heart ake but i no when you want a real man you will come running to me.
were not together, but i love him. i cant get enough of this guy!
everytime i start forgetting him and getting ineterested in some new guy i see him and all my new feelings erase!
after comparing him 2 every guy ive ever met or been with, theres no comparison.
if he loves me sooo much, shouldnt he make an effort 2 contact me? and its NOT because hes busy or cant do it.
He says he loves me, and i love him, but he keeps disappointing me.....?
sweetie, he is 16 - still a kid, at that age all most guys are after is a bit of fun, you can't expect to put all your trust in him and not be disappointed. concentrate on having fun relationships for the time being until you are a little older, you are the same age as my little sister, if she came and told me this i would tell her to go and enjoy being young and worry about love when she is a woman in her 20s (not that love has an age limit, but you get my drift) if he loved you as he says, he would do anything to be with you and make more of an effort to contact you as you said.
Reply:i think U should go after him and he will fall into ur arms
Reply:Move and find another cat worth your time.
Reply:ok well first off, in your first sentence you said hes a total player. so is he sexually active? are u active with him, have u been,,,,do u want to be%26gt; if he is like this you dont want to be with him. it will be better for you to try and forget about him. i know its harder said than done but you have to. can u imagine how many other girls he says this same line to ? they are probably in the same position as you and thats what he wants. he feels like hes in control and thats what he wants. so you need to move on and get him outta your life so he doesnt have that control over u. you are only 15 soooooo young, you have so much life ahead of you and soooo much time to find a great guy who willl sweep you away and give u the times u deserve
Reply:At your age, this is just a passing fling - you shouldn't try and take it seriously. As you say, HE'S A PLAYER!!!! A tiger is a tiger - you can't change a tiger into a lion!
Have fun and take it easy. If you can't, best to let him go, because he's not going to be serious with you!
You are both immature emotionally, and are not ready for real relationships. It's not you, it's not him, it's more your ages, experience and maturity.
Reply:seems like you want to get played...don't be a notch on his belt...i bet he says that to every girl out there and then cross them off his check list that he carries in his back pocket
Reply:r U A blond?? you're 15....JUST THINK HE'S NOT
CONTACTING YOU.....He's 16, PRETTY SHAKY GROUND
if YOU ARE A BLOND, WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE
SMARTER THAN OTHERS, PLEASE FIND A NEW FRIEND.
they MAKE BETTER HUSBANDS FOR THE FUTURE
Reply:I hate to say it but what yu said is true... If he was actually in love with you he would want to talk to you and stay in contact with you. I knew someone like this too, and as soon as I found someone who really did love me and I got married then the guy got really jealous and turned extremely psycho and stalkerish. Just be careful that you don't get hurt, in any way shape or form. Go with what is truly in your heart and think it through before commiting to anything...
Reply:he has eith gotten over you, or he's just scared, y r u not tgether email me at elmospimp28@yahoo.com wit more details !
Reply:sounds like he is feeding you lines to get some from you. I mean, if he said all of that and meant it, he would be contacting you more.
When I first fell in love, I had to talk to my man everyday. I couldn't start my day without talking to him and I couldn't go to bed at night without talking to him.
How do you not contact someone you love so much? Keep him as a friend for now. Actions speak louder than words. Make him prove his love to you.
Reply:He's a player. Run don't walk as far away from this guy as you can. Not to hurt your feelings, but how many other girls do you think he has said this to. No matter how old he gets, he will be a player and be a cheater. Your only 15, so you have the hope of meeting some guy that will blow your socks off, and make this guy look like gumbo.
Reply:look-wise there's no comparison but that's only skin deep, who makes you feel awesome when you're with and not with him? that'd be the guy you should date and soon, about the new feelings erasing, breathe, and reconstitute those feelings with someone else, this guys a bad catch...throw him back! (and have some fun with someone nice, most players don't even begin to grow out of the good-look-player-phase until they are in their late 20s or even later!!!!!)
Reply:first of all the two of you are too young to know anything about love you are just babies when you get older like around 21 and up then you would know a little bit as you get older you will understand what the two of you call yourselves doing is called PUPPY LOVE beginers
Reply:Every 16-year old who's dating is a player, because that's all they have to offer. No full-time job or income to provide for you.
Reply:well, gee! he sounds like a WINNER...
Reply:as you said yourself.. The guy is a PLAYER.
He's PLAYING you.. like a fiddle.
Keep hanging on %26amp; he'll keep you hanging. I'm sure he loves that he does not even have to be with you to keep you interested.
Get over this loser %26amp; get a guy who is REALLY interested.
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS! Or ALL TALK %26amp; NO ACTION. Sounds like your guy. Remember this!
Reply:At 15 %26amp; 16 is is extreamly unlikely to be real love, especially if it's your first relationship.
If he did love you he would want to be with you and not run around doing everything else.
Apart from the odd handful of people in the world, no-one ends with the guy they liked at 15.
Reply:dude, your right about this guy bein a player, and you cant let him know how crazy you are for him. That stuff he tells you sounds like hes just feeding you lines, no matter how romantic it is, if he were so crazy about you then you would know and he wouldnt have to tell you. I ****** up when i was fourteen and had a thing with an eighteen year old, but he never told me this stuff, because he knows im smarter than to belive every word he said. I feel like i know he liked me anyway, when we hooked up (i had a boyfriend so we couldnt be official- i know, ****** right?) he never ever tried to do anything but kiss me(and he had many chances to do much more). A thing that will drive this guy crazy is if you never give him your full attention, cuz hes so used to girls falling over him, its called hard to get. take my advice or not, but it worked 4 me, and make sure you keep telling yourself that you cant trust him, until he proves to you that you can.
Reply:maybe hes shy
Reply:Not sound like a jerk, but don't do anything with him besides being friends, no matter what, you even said he is a total player, that should defentaly make the desicion for you, unless you really trust him, if your not together than he shouldn't make an effort to contact you cause that would be kinda creepy, unless it was on a friend level , but you don't have to listen to me because it is your life and u make your personal desicions
he said this:
i love you so much that the word love has become in love with its self. i think you are the most beautifulest girl in the world and if any guy cant except that then they dont no the meaning of love. when i look at you my heart goes crazy and if any other guy does not feel the same then they are real messed up in the head. i will never stop loving what i see in your eyes.
i love you so much that me hearing about other guys makes my heart ake but i no when you want a real man you will come running to me.
were not together, but i love him. i cant get enough of this guy!
everytime i start forgetting him and getting ineterested in some new guy i see him and all my new feelings erase!
after comparing him 2 every guy ive ever met or been with, theres no comparison.
if he loves me sooo much, shouldnt he make an effort 2 contact me? and its NOT because hes busy or cant do it.
He says he loves me, and i love him, but he keeps disappointing me.....?
sweetie, he is 16 - still a kid, at that age all most guys are after is a bit of fun, you can't expect to put all your trust in him and not be disappointed. concentrate on having fun relationships for the time being until you are a little older, you are the same age as my little sister, if she came and told me this i would tell her to go and enjoy being young and worry about love when she is a woman in her 20s (not that love has an age limit, but you get my drift) if he loved you as he says, he would do anything to be with you and make more of an effort to contact you as you said.
Reply:i think U should go after him and he will fall into ur arms
Reply:Move and find another cat worth your time.
Reply:ok well first off, in your first sentence you said hes a total player. so is he sexually active? are u active with him, have u been,,,,do u want to be%26gt; if he is like this you dont want to be with him. it will be better for you to try and forget about him. i know its harder said than done but you have to. can u imagine how many other girls he says this same line to ? they are probably in the same position as you and thats what he wants. he feels like hes in control and thats what he wants. so you need to move on and get him outta your life so he doesnt have that control over u. you are only 15 soooooo young, you have so much life ahead of you and soooo much time to find a great guy who willl sweep you away and give u the times u deserve
Reply:At your age, this is just a passing fling - you shouldn't try and take it seriously. As you say, HE'S A PLAYER!!!! A tiger is a tiger - you can't change a tiger into a lion!
Have fun and take it easy. If you can't, best to let him go, because he's not going to be serious with you!
You are both immature emotionally, and are not ready for real relationships. It's not you, it's not him, it's more your ages, experience and maturity.
Reply:seems like you want to get played...don't be a notch on his belt...i bet he says that to every girl out there and then cross them off his check list that he carries in his back pocket
Reply:r U A blond?? you're 15....JUST THINK HE'S NOT
CONTACTING YOU.....He's 16, PRETTY SHAKY GROUND
if YOU ARE A BLOND, WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE
SMARTER THAN OTHERS, PLEASE FIND A NEW FRIEND.
they MAKE BETTER HUSBANDS FOR THE FUTURE
Reply:I hate to say it but what yu said is true... If he was actually in love with you he would want to talk to you and stay in contact with you. I knew someone like this too, and as soon as I found someone who really did love me and I got married then the guy got really jealous and turned extremely psycho and stalkerish. Just be careful that you don't get hurt, in any way shape or form. Go with what is truly in your heart and think it through before commiting to anything...
Reply:he has eith gotten over you, or he's just scared, y r u not tgether email me at elmospimp28@yahoo.com wit more details !
Reply:sounds like he is feeding you lines to get some from you. I mean, if he said all of that and meant it, he would be contacting you more.
When I first fell in love, I had to talk to my man everyday. I couldn't start my day without talking to him and I couldn't go to bed at night without talking to him.
How do you not contact someone you love so much? Keep him as a friend for now. Actions speak louder than words. Make him prove his love to you.
Reply:He's a player. Run don't walk as far away from this guy as you can. Not to hurt your feelings, but how many other girls do you think he has said this to. No matter how old he gets, he will be a player and be a cheater. Your only 15, so you have the hope of meeting some guy that will blow your socks off, and make this guy look like gumbo.
Reply:look-wise there's no comparison but that's only skin deep, who makes you feel awesome when you're with and not with him? that'd be the guy you should date and soon, about the new feelings erasing, breathe, and reconstitute those feelings with someone else, this guys a bad catch...throw him back! (and have some fun with someone nice, most players don't even begin to grow out of the good-look-player-phase until they are in their late 20s or even later!!!!!)
Reply:first of all the two of you are too young to know anything about love you are just babies when you get older like around 21 and up then you would know a little bit as you get older you will understand what the two of you call yourselves doing is called PUPPY LOVE beginers
Reply:Every 16-year old who's dating is a player, because that's all they have to offer. No full-time job or income to provide for you.
Reply:well, gee! he sounds like a WINNER...
Reply:as you said yourself.. The guy is a PLAYER.
He's PLAYING you.. like a fiddle.
Keep hanging on %26amp; he'll keep you hanging. I'm sure he loves that he does not even have to be with you to keep you interested.
Get over this loser %26amp; get a guy who is REALLY interested.
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS! Or ALL TALK %26amp; NO ACTION. Sounds like your guy. Remember this!
Reply:At 15 %26amp; 16 is is extreamly unlikely to be real love, especially if it's your first relationship.
If he did love you he would want to be with you and not run around doing everything else.
Apart from the odd handful of people in the world, no-one ends with the guy they liked at 15.
Reply:dude, your right about this guy bein a player, and you cant let him know how crazy you are for him. That stuff he tells you sounds like hes just feeding you lines, no matter how romantic it is, if he were so crazy about you then you would know and he wouldnt have to tell you. I ****** up when i was fourteen and had a thing with an eighteen year old, but he never told me this stuff, because he knows im smarter than to belive every word he said. I feel like i know he liked me anyway, when we hooked up (i had a boyfriend so we couldnt be official- i know, ****** right?) he never ever tried to do anything but kiss me(and he had many chances to do much more). A thing that will drive this guy crazy is if you never give him your full attention, cuz hes so used to girls falling over him, its called hard to get. take my advice or not, but it worked 4 me, and make sure you keep telling yourself that you cant trust him, until he proves to you that you can.
Reply:maybe hes shy
Reply:Not sound like a jerk, but don't do anything with him besides being friends, no matter what, you even said he is a total player, that should defentaly make the desicion for you, unless you really trust him, if your not together than he shouldn't make an effort to contact you cause that would be kinda creepy, unless it was on a friend level , but you don't have to listen to me because it is your life and u make your personal desicions
I love her but she hates love wat do i do?
I love this girl and have been telling her that for the last 8 months, she says she likes me as a friend and as her best friend but she does not love me, not becuz there is something bad about me but becuz she thinks that love is destruction, she feels that everyone who has fallen in love has been destroyed, and therefore she says she never wants to be in a relationship w/ anyone or love anyone ever, i love her truly because no matter what happens i will never leave her, please help me and she hasnt been in any past relationships she has told me that
I love her but she hates love wat do i do?
u know what don't push it if u keep on pushing it u will lose her of becoming Ur girl, even Ur friendship....so give her time u still could be there for her,,,, and concentrate in yourself and she will come around... good luck
I love her but she hates love wat do i do?
u know what don't push it if u keep on pushing it u will lose her of becoming Ur girl, even Ur friendship....so give her time u still could be there for her,,,, and concentrate in yourself and she will come around... good luck
I Love, I Hate, I Love,I Hate: Could you please just Make up your Mind?
First you say, I HATE other people, other nationalities. Then, you say I LOVE all animals, then you say I HATE people who are Anti-American, Then you say Why cant we just have PEACE, then you say I HATE people who complain, Then you say I LOVE my kitty-cat, then you say I HATE my boyfriend, then you say I LOVE my country, then you say I HATE my President, then you say WHAT IS LOVE? then you say Why does everyone HATE me when I LOVE everyone?
If you are going to openly and publically make a statement which represents your person, avoiding the act of contradiction will add value, meaning and worth.
Everyone, Please, for the future distinction of this badly reputed nation, if you choose to Hate, fine-just stick with it. If you choose to Love, also fine, just don't switch over to hate.
Be Real, just don't be a hypocritical!
My question:
Do you know who you are?
Do you understand what I mean?
Can you just make up your mind already?
I Love, I Hate, I Love,I Hate: Could you please just Make up your Mind?
I choose not to use the word hate when expressing feelings of aversion. I for example might say " It frustrates me when people act this way."
I also prefer to emphasize the positive. I'm aware that my feelings of anger and frustration are temporary. People already hear enough expressions of negativity and don't need to be made privy to negative emotions. I would choose to share something positive instead.
Reply:Life's too short to get stuck in a rut. I do not choose to maintain one emotion forever. If someone does me wrong, I will speak out; they have an opportunity to make peace with me, thereby changing my position. Likewise, when I do someone else wrong, it's their responsability to make me understand I've done them harm.
This is simply called COMMUNICATION.
Reply:Mary good answer in politics, ty. As to your question. Hate is a very strong word. I hate no man and hate no group or class.
I do wonder how those that claim to have love in their heart can cut S.S. and Federal school lunch programs for children that are poor. Why would they want to cut food stamps for the poor. This is not the "GODS LOVE" I know. I have many blessings and I want for nothing. Nor do I have needs above what I already have been blessed with by GODS grace alone.
Why do some that claim to have love in their own heart agree with the killing of civilians in Iraq?
Reply:1. Do i know who I am?
Yes, i do know who i am, alot of my self discovery came though my education process and becoming a registered nurse.
2. Do i understand what you mean?
I do, as far as politics i understand completely. As a people one dya we are happy and the next we are sad, we always have excuses to why we feel a certain way but we never stick to it!! Like we don't like abortion but will feel we should have the right as women!! It is like this country was placed on one big oxymoron!!!
3. Can you just make your mind up?
I always have and always do and i very rarely change my mind, because my mom always taught me that when you set your mind to something you can accomplish anything! But this nation contradicts making up your mind because we have the freedom to change it with our freedom of speech. which is great because it is annoying when you just want a straight answer but no one who matters is giving you
one that you really need!!
I feel you completely, MAry!!!
Reply:life is a paradox
Reply:There is no such thing as hate. Hate is like cold. It doesn't exist. When something is cold, it simply has an absence of heat. When someone says they hate, they actually dislike. You have heat and absence of heat, like and absence of like, or dislike.
Reply:I love your question! I hate the conflict it stirs within me.
Well done!
Reply:Can't we just settle this over a pint...er smoke a bowl?..lol
Reply:the line that is in between love and hate is so thin indeed that one can hate a thing as much as they loved it first.i on the other hand admit...i only hate one being,,,my ex-husband.
Reply:This answer doesn't have anything to do with your question, but then again your answer didn't have jack crap to do with my question.
My friend has an income, and a 5 month old, and a car that's been broken into twice in the last year, and a bunch of other bills. Maybe you should just stick to the question at hand instead of trying to get some points.
Please remove your inane answer from my question and I will reciprocate.
Reply:well i love to hate this question !!
Reply:Love and hate are such strong, and very similar, emotions. I'd rather focus my passion on love than hate. I try to feel apathy for anything or anyone I start to feel hate for. Why waste my energy on hate, when I can enjoy the feeling of love for friends?
Reply:what do people know we are allways changing our mind . so just relakes and listen to them
Reply:ok
Reply:huh?
Reply:gOSH YOU KNOW i THINK PEOPLE SHOULD STop and think before they say ANYTHING!
toothache
If you are going to openly and publically make a statement which represents your person, avoiding the act of contradiction will add value, meaning and worth.
Everyone, Please, for the future distinction of this badly reputed nation, if you choose to Hate, fine-just stick with it. If you choose to Love, also fine, just don't switch over to hate.
Be Real, just don't be a hypocritical!
My question:
Do you know who you are?
Do you understand what I mean?
Can you just make up your mind already?
I Love, I Hate, I Love,I Hate: Could you please just Make up your Mind?
I choose not to use the word hate when expressing feelings of aversion. I for example might say " It frustrates me when people act this way."
I also prefer to emphasize the positive. I'm aware that my feelings of anger and frustration are temporary. People already hear enough expressions of negativity and don't need to be made privy to negative emotions. I would choose to share something positive instead.
Reply:Life's too short to get stuck in a rut. I do not choose to maintain one emotion forever. If someone does me wrong, I will speak out; they have an opportunity to make peace with me, thereby changing my position. Likewise, when I do someone else wrong, it's their responsability to make me understand I've done them harm.
This is simply called COMMUNICATION.
Reply:Mary good answer in politics, ty. As to your question. Hate is a very strong word. I hate no man and hate no group or class.
I do wonder how those that claim to have love in their heart can cut S.S. and Federal school lunch programs for children that are poor. Why would they want to cut food stamps for the poor. This is not the "GODS LOVE" I know. I have many blessings and I want for nothing. Nor do I have needs above what I already have been blessed with by GODS grace alone.
Why do some that claim to have love in their own heart agree with the killing of civilians in Iraq?
Reply:1. Do i know who I am?
Yes, i do know who i am, alot of my self discovery came though my education process and becoming a registered nurse.
2. Do i understand what you mean?
I do, as far as politics i understand completely. As a people one dya we are happy and the next we are sad, we always have excuses to why we feel a certain way but we never stick to it!! Like we don't like abortion but will feel we should have the right as women!! It is like this country was placed on one big oxymoron!!!
3. Can you just make your mind up?
I always have and always do and i very rarely change my mind, because my mom always taught me that when you set your mind to something you can accomplish anything! But this nation contradicts making up your mind because we have the freedom to change it with our freedom of speech. which is great because it is annoying when you just want a straight answer but no one who matters is giving you
one that you really need!!
I feel you completely, MAry!!!
Reply:life is a paradox
Reply:There is no such thing as hate. Hate is like cold. It doesn't exist. When something is cold, it simply has an absence of heat. When someone says they hate, they actually dislike. You have heat and absence of heat, like and absence of like, or dislike.
Reply:I love your question! I hate the conflict it stirs within me.
Well done!
Reply:Can't we just settle this over a pint...er smoke a bowl?..lol
Reply:the line that is in between love and hate is so thin indeed that one can hate a thing as much as they loved it first.i on the other hand admit...i only hate one being,,,my ex-husband.
Reply:This answer doesn't have anything to do with your question, but then again your answer didn't have jack crap to do with my question.
My friend has an income, and a 5 month old, and a car that's been broken into twice in the last year, and a bunch of other bills. Maybe you should just stick to the question at hand instead of trying to get some points.
Please remove your inane answer from my question and I will reciprocate.
Reply:well i love to hate this question !!
Reply:Love and hate are such strong, and very similar, emotions. I'd rather focus my passion on love than hate. I try to feel apathy for anything or anyone I start to feel hate for. Why waste my energy on hate, when I can enjoy the feeling of love for friends?
Reply:what do people know we are allways changing our mind . so just relakes and listen to them
Reply:ok
Reply:huh?
Reply:gOSH YOU KNOW i THINK PEOPLE SHOULD STop and think before they say ANYTHING!
toothache
Is "I love you too" and "Love you too" the same thing?
Last night I was talking to my girlfriend and I said "I love you" and she returned with "Love you too" . Now this never really bothered me before until today when my friend was talking about how "I love you too" and "Love you too" are totally different from each other. Whats even more confusing is that she says both "I love you too" and "Love you too" at different times. Is it really different from each other? Or just more of the same just cutting a letter. I mean "Love you too" isnt "Luv ya too" you know.
Is "I love you too" and "Love you too" the same thing?
oh my gosh .. dude --- cowboy up !!!
They are the same thing .... please don't make drama out of it ... that's girls stuff.
Reply:no
Reply:Yeah. Aww she good
Reply:I don't think it should be picked apart that much.... I mean, if you're going to base it on anything, base it on HOW she says it, not her exact words. I can use both and I don't mean anything different. You could be making a big deal out of an insignificant drop of a letter...
Reply:I c u kinda have a n understanding of the true fact. If ur girlfriend uses "I love you" %26amp; "love you too" interchangeably then its obvious that they both mean the same thing. Now if she wanted it 2 have a different meaning then she wld have said "luv yah".
Reply:Ditto.
Reply:No, its just the comfort of the casual conversation, she feels comfortable with you, so she shortens it. The word "love" is the big deal to girls, DO NOT SWEAT THIS ONE.... It would be a great stepping stone for a psycho fight that would end nowhere... DO NOT worry about it... Although, you could try letting her say it first...
Reply:I would say they are the same, "love you too" is just a little more casual.
Reply:hay man thy mean the same thing
Reply:it's the same
Reply:"I love you too" seems stronger because of the "I" word.
Reply:Saying the "I" makes it seem more real. But she is your girlfriend. I am engaged and sometimes when my fiance says "I love you", I don't even think about it and say "Love you too". Maybe she just feels more comfortable with you and doesn't focus on saying the "I"part. I love my fiance more than anything but sometimes I do say "Love you too". Or just "love you". And I agree with you and Luv ya and Love you are 2 very different things!
Reply:dude its the same thing. one might argue that the i love you sayer is putting him/herself out there more than the love you too sayer but in REALITY if it makes a difference (like it means less to the love you too-er) then he/she is lying to you. I know when i say I love you to my mom or brother and they say love you too i don't have to even question it. you figure it out! :)
what does your heart say it means?
Reply:your analizing this too much, if she said the words than she must have meant it. It means the same thing.
Reply:i'm a girl and i both used the same phrase... so i guess there's really no difference... besides action speaks louder than words...
Reply:Of course it is. Why wouldn't they be the same? the word "too" is simply in addition or an add on. However, they are one in the same; just phrased differently.
Reply:It's probably the same thing in your case, since she says both at different occasions. it depends on how formal the actual conversation is....
Reply:Your friend is a moron, it totally means the same thing!
Reply:Think about it, it didn't bother you until your friend said something. Obviously you understood your gf. You and your gf communicate with each other and that doesn't include your friend. Unless your gf was also telling him/her luv u 2, your friend is just stirring things up to give you grief.
Reply:No they are both the same. I think your friend is maybe messing around with you.
Reply:Maybe a little stronger... But not that much.... least she loves you lolz.
Reply:come on dude ur making like a whole storm out of a glass of water... its the same thing only that when they say the 'i' part it kinda emphasizes the individual, like that person really loves you i guess
Reply:You should be saying "I" love you too not love you too as if she were talking to her mom. Talk to her about this.
Reply:different.
i love you : they mean it
love you too: trying to be polite
Reply:Don't trip about it... at least she's not responding with, "...and I love spending time with you." Ha ha... Or just "Thank you." (Wayne's World)
My girlfriend and I generally express "I love you" through our actions toward each other, and reserve the actual phrase for more serious situations or when we're really feeling it.
When she says "Love ya too!" it's probably because the situation is more casual, or she has something else on her mind.
Unless you're getting clues that she's uncomfortable saying it or that she avoids saying it back to you altogether, then don't take her semantic variation personally.
Reply:they're the same thing. no worries, ok? :)
Reply:Like saying please vs may I. Yes they are different. One holds a much stronger message then the other. Please is a request for permission and may I is a question of permission. Same as with "I love you" and "love you too". I is pertaining to the person which is you and love you too is just a answer to your admittence. I would prefer a "I" in front of the statement if it is to mean the very same or at least coming from the same place in my heart as my own.
Reply:They mean the same...yet it seems stronger and better....=)
Reply:dont get all shook up,it means the same thing.
Is "I love you too" and "Love you too" the same thing?
oh my gosh .. dude --- cowboy up !!!
They are the same thing .... please don't make drama out of it ... that's girls stuff.
Reply:no
Reply:Yeah. Aww she good
Reply:I don't think it should be picked apart that much.... I mean, if you're going to base it on anything, base it on HOW she says it, not her exact words. I can use both and I don't mean anything different. You could be making a big deal out of an insignificant drop of a letter...
Reply:I c u kinda have a n understanding of the true fact. If ur girlfriend uses "I love you" %26amp; "love you too" interchangeably then its obvious that they both mean the same thing. Now if she wanted it 2 have a different meaning then she wld have said "luv yah".
Reply:Ditto.
Reply:No, its just the comfort of the casual conversation, she feels comfortable with you, so she shortens it. The word "love" is the big deal to girls, DO NOT SWEAT THIS ONE.... It would be a great stepping stone for a psycho fight that would end nowhere... DO NOT worry about it... Although, you could try letting her say it first...
Reply:I would say they are the same, "love you too" is just a little more casual.
Reply:hay man thy mean the same thing
Reply:it's the same
Reply:"I love you too" seems stronger because of the "I" word.
Reply:Saying the "I" makes it seem more real. But she is your girlfriend. I am engaged and sometimes when my fiance says "I love you", I don't even think about it and say "Love you too". Maybe she just feels more comfortable with you and doesn't focus on saying the "I"part. I love my fiance more than anything but sometimes I do say "Love you too". Or just "love you". And I agree with you and Luv ya and Love you are 2 very different things!
Reply:dude its the same thing. one might argue that the i love you sayer is putting him/herself out there more than the love you too sayer but in REALITY if it makes a difference (like it means less to the love you too-er) then he/she is lying to you. I know when i say I love you to my mom or brother and they say love you too i don't have to even question it. you figure it out! :)
what does your heart say it means?
Reply:your analizing this too much, if she said the words than she must have meant it. It means the same thing.
Reply:i'm a girl and i both used the same phrase... so i guess there's really no difference... besides action speaks louder than words...
Reply:Of course it is. Why wouldn't they be the same? the word "too" is simply in addition or an add on. However, they are one in the same; just phrased differently.
Reply:It's probably the same thing in your case, since she says both at different occasions. it depends on how formal the actual conversation is....
Reply:Your friend is a moron, it totally means the same thing!
Reply:Think about it, it didn't bother you until your friend said something. Obviously you understood your gf. You and your gf communicate with each other and that doesn't include your friend. Unless your gf was also telling him/her luv u 2, your friend is just stirring things up to give you grief.
Reply:No they are both the same. I think your friend is maybe messing around with you.
Reply:Maybe a little stronger... But not that much.... least she loves you lolz.
Reply:come on dude ur making like a whole storm out of a glass of water... its the same thing only that when they say the 'i' part it kinda emphasizes the individual, like that person really loves you i guess
Reply:You should be saying "I" love you too not love you too as if she were talking to her mom. Talk to her about this.
Reply:different.
i love you : they mean it
love you too: trying to be polite
Reply:Don't trip about it... at least she's not responding with, "...and I love spending time with you." Ha ha... Or just "Thank you." (Wayne's World)
My girlfriend and I generally express "I love you" through our actions toward each other, and reserve the actual phrase for more serious situations or when we're really feeling it.
When she says "Love ya too!" it's probably because the situation is more casual, or she has something else on her mind.
Unless you're getting clues that she's uncomfortable saying it or that she avoids saying it back to you altogether, then don't take her semantic variation personally.
Reply:they're the same thing. no worries, ok? :)
Reply:Like saying please vs may I. Yes they are different. One holds a much stronger message then the other. Please is a request for permission and may I is a question of permission. Same as with "I love you" and "love you too". I is pertaining to the person which is you and love you too is just a answer to your admittence. I would prefer a "I" in front of the statement if it is to mean the very same or at least coming from the same place in my heart as my own.
Reply:They mean the same...yet it seems stronger and better....=)
Reply:dont get all shook up,it means the same thing.
Love As Art? Art As Love (It's Valentine's Day)?
Have you ever painted a painting for someone you loved, or thought you loved? Did they love you but not the art? Did they love the painting but not you?
I thought you might like to see this older painting. It's actually titled 'Love - Emergency Exit Only.'
http://pics.livejournal.com/unmired/pic/...
Love As Art? Art As Love (It's Valentine's Day)?
I avoid painting those who are close to me because they may not like my style, or the way I depict them. She'll love me, but she may be disappointed by the way I might do a portrait of her.
But that's a good suggestion. I'll try it soon.
I thought you might like to see this older painting. It's actually titled 'Love - Emergency Exit Only.'
http://pics.livejournal.com/unmired/pic/...
Love As Art? Art As Love (It's Valentine's Day)?
I avoid painting those who are close to me because they may not like my style, or the way I depict them. She'll love me, but she may be disappointed by the way I might do a portrait of her.
But that's a good suggestion. I'll try it soon.
How do you define love?
I am writing a paper on the topic of courtly love and part of my paper will focus on modern perceptions of love. Please answer the above question, and the ones below, honestly.
1. What is true love?
2. What is pure love? Is there a difference between true love and pure love? Why or why not.
3. Can true love exists? Why or why not.
4. What are the "rules of love"?
5. Should someone sacrifice everything for love? (i.e. is love worth it?)
How do you define love?
love is a lovable feeling for lovers......my advice is dont fall in love.......it hurts u a lot........
Reply:true love means that, the love is present in your heart,
if you say to somebody " i love you" if it is not lie ... it is mean that your love is true.
pure love is also a true love... but it is about a level ... I mean highest level of love...if you feel this type of love... everything lost their meaning ... your life, your relatives, your moneys, .....
everything lost their value for you ...even your love become more valuable than yourself...
yes it is exist
for the beginning there is some rules... but when love getting bigger... there could be no rules ...no moral ... no border...
yes...
if lover response that love ... the love worth to sacrifice everything.. other ways ... it is just a waste...
1. What is true love?
2. What is pure love? Is there a difference between true love and pure love? Why or why not.
3. Can true love exists? Why or why not.
4. What are the "rules of love"?
5. Should someone sacrifice everything for love? (i.e. is love worth it?)
How do you define love?
love is a lovable feeling for lovers......my advice is dont fall in love.......it hurts u a lot........
Reply:true love means that, the love is present in your heart,
if you say to somebody " i love you" if it is not lie ... it is mean that your love is true.
pure love is also a true love... but it is about a level ... I mean highest level of love...if you feel this type of love... everything lost their meaning ... your life, your relatives, your moneys, .....
everything lost their value for you ...even your love become more valuable than yourself...
yes it is exist
for the beginning there is some rules... but when love getting bigger... there could be no rules ...no moral ... no border...
yes...
if lover response that love ... the love worth to sacrifice everything.. other ways ... it is just a waste...
I love him more than you, but I still couple with you, because he don't love me? PLS.. SOMEBODY, PLS HELP?
My ex, Yao. And my boyfriend now, Sheng. Yao dumped me last year, but i still love him, i cried so hard and realized that I love him deeply, Then, I met Sheng a month ago, and we became couple, I knew Sheng's serious in this relationship. Recently, I get to know that Yao still have feelings towards me, I'm the same too, I love Yao more than Sheng. I called Yao and talk, I never told him I'm now with Sheng. But Yao refused to come back to my side although. I'm so selfish, I don't even care about Sheng's feeling, but Sheng still don't know what's going on. I love Yao so much even if we won't have chance anymore. But what about Sheng, I'm with him now because he love me more than I love him and I need to repay him with staying with him? Or I want a normal life? Or maybe I'm scare to be alone?! And I can't let Yao know I'm now with Sheng also, 3 of us staying in a small town. What should I do?
I love him more than you, but I still couple with you, because he don't love me? PLS.. SOMEBODY, PLS HELP?
You don't need to repay Sheng. You need to have someone. You don't actually care about his feelings. You don't want a normal life. You want drama. Now you have it. You aren't scared of being alone. You know you can find men to use for company. You should continue doing just what you're doing now. Soon Sheng will dump you just as Yao has and you will love him more when he is gone. Then you will have more drama and more opportunity to use another man........one you haven't even met yet.
Reply:You said it urself, "I love Yao so much even if we won't have chance anymore." ... So as hard as it is, u have to move on from Yao.. Its still early in the relationship w/ Sheng so give him a chance, c how things go
Reply:Break it off with Sheng , you arent being fair to him because your heart still belongs to someone else, Stay single and allow yourself time to heal and get over Yao... When you feel you are over him, then start dating... maybe sheng will still be their maybe he wont but you have to face your fear of being alone and let your heart heal because what you are doing to Sheng isnt fair... i would personally be devastated to find out the man i was with was still in love with his ex girlfriend. Think about it... Its not fair...
Reply:I bet you loved Yao more than he loved you and he broke up with you. your about to do the same to sheng. u should make sure yao loves you too cuz if he doesnt whats the point? i feel bad for sheng but he has to learn to move on.and so do u.
Reply:Listen, just stay with sheng. Yao broke up with u and u still like him. LOL! I'm sorry, but its just isn't going to work out with Yao. Trust me. You can either not listen to me and regret it or you can listen to me and know you did the right thing. Just move on. Leave Yao in the past.
Reply:It doesn't have to be Yao or Sheng. Get rid of both of them. Yao doesn't love you and you don't love Sheng. Find a new boy. Are you in China? There are plenty of single men around I'm sure. Just remember, it doesn't have to be one or the other. Get rid of both of them, and if it's meant to be with Yao, you'll find each other again. Good luck.
Reply:lol i think u should get an image for ur profile like an avatar. this always help and trust me u'll get more answers.
Reply:leave sheng now, u are hurting his feelings.
Reply:well tell Sheng if he loves you that to let you go because you're in love with someone else. and tell him if he loves you he promises to move on, then talk to Yao again and see if things can work out if not then don't worry you'll find someone, but don't be afraid to be alone, there's no such thing as alone, it's only in your head to think you're alone because you have no lover. you still have friends and family they still support you
Reply:didnt yao dump you.sheng loves you and thats what you need except yao dumped you 4 a reason and he still loves you
cavities
I love him more than you, but I still couple with you, because he don't love me? PLS.. SOMEBODY, PLS HELP?
You don't need to repay Sheng. You need to have someone. You don't actually care about his feelings. You don't want a normal life. You want drama. Now you have it. You aren't scared of being alone. You know you can find men to use for company. You should continue doing just what you're doing now. Soon Sheng will dump you just as Yao has and you will love him more when he is gone. Then you will have more drama and more opportunity to use another man........one you haven't even met yet.
Reply:You said it urself, "I love Yao so much even if we won't have chance anymore." ... So as hard as it is, u have to move on from Yao.. Its still early in the relationship w/ Sheng so give him a chance, c how things go
Reply:Break it off with Sheng , you arent being fair to him because your heart still belongs to someone else, Stay single and allow yourself time to heal and get over Yao... When you feel you are over him, then start dating... maybe sheng will still be their maybe he wont but you have to face your fear of being alone and let your heart heal because what you are doing to Sheng isnt fair... i would personally be devastated to find out the man i was with was still in love with his ex girlfriend. Think about it... Its not fair...
Reply:I bet you loved Yao more than he loved you and he broke up with you. your about to do the same to sheng. u should make sure yao loves you too cuz if he doesnt whats the point? i feel bad for sheng but he has to learn to move on.and so do u.
Reply:Listen, just stay with sheng. Yao broke up with u and u still like him. LOL! I'm sorry, but its just isn't going to work out with Yao. Trust me. You can either not listen to me and regret it or you can listen to me and know you did the right thing. Just move on. Leave Yao in the past.
Reply:It doesn't have to be Yao or Sheng. Get rid of both of them. Yao doesn't love you and you don't love Sheng. Find a new boy. Are you in China? There are plenty of single men around I'm sure. Just remember, it doesn't have to be one or the other. Get rid of both of them, and if it's meant to be with Yao, you'll find each other again. Good luck.
Reply:lol i think u should get an image for ur profile like an avatar. this always help and trust me u'll get more answers.
Reply:leave sheng now, u are hurting his feelings.
Reply:well tell Sheng if he loves you that to let you go because you're in love with someone else. and tell him if he loves you he promises to move on, then talk to Yao again and see if things can work out if not then don't worry you'll find someone, but don't be afraid to be alone, there's no such thing as alone, it's only in your head to think you're alone because you have no lover. you still have friends and family they still support you
Reply:didnt yao dump you.sheng loves you and thats what you need except yao dumped you 4 a reason and he still loves you
cavities
I love this guy, and have for 2 or so years, but stopped in the summer... and stopped around Halloween, and?
fell in love w/ another guy (these are both my 2 best guy friends, and I'd trust them with my life... and they've been very very very good friends w/ me for 2 years), and now I love them both... they both knew I loved them when I did... and now the 1st one I mentioned knows... who do I love... I love people for their heart- not appearance or popularity or anything stupid like that... I know I love the 1st one I mentioned the most... but the 2nd one... I know I loved him at least at X-mas (nothing like sleeping 2gether, making out, kissing, or even hugging has been done.. if that helps) and I think I still do... I never got over him.... oh ya, and they both like me along w/ a few other girls... like 3 each... but I am the only one they have a chance w/... and they know that.... I am confused... help me please! AND READ ALL OF THIS!!!!!!
I love this guy, and have for 2 or so years, but stopped in the summer... and stopped around Halloween, and?
Teen-age boys AND girls fall in love "with love," VERY easily, but not with more than one at a time. It's natural for a boy to want to have "bragging rights" over a girl, especially if he wants to show off to his friends what a "stud" he is, (true or not.)
Speak to your parents and lay your cards on the table; chances are, you're far too young to be making a life-time Decision on who you want to live with forever and have children with and Bigamy is definitely NOT an Option here.
You sound like a very nice young lady; STAY that way. Most boys look at girls as "potential conquests." DON'T be one. If either of these boys might be your "final choice," then he'll WAIT for you. If not, nothing lost. Love-making is something that MARRIED couples do. Surely you don't want to just be someone's "free stuff," do you?
Reply:You sound really young....and theres your answer your confused. you can't love two guys at once. LOVE is a big word.
Reply:im me
Reply:just pick one, or you could pretend not to like either of them at all for a while and then slowly begin to build on one of them... hope that helps, i know how you feel
I love this guy, and have for 2 or so years, but stopped in the summer... and stopped around Halloween, and?
Teen-age boys AND girls fall in love "with love," VERY easily, but not with more than one at a time. It's natural for a boy to want to have "bragging rights" over a girl, especially if he wants to show off to his friends what a "stud" he is, (true or not.)
Speak to your parents and lay your cards on the table; chances are, you're far too young to be making a life-time Decision on who you want to live with forever and have children with and Bigamy is definitely NOT an Option here.
You sound like a very nice young lady; STAY that way. Most boys look at girls as "potential conquests." DON'T be one. If either of these boys might be your "final choice," then he'll WAIT for you. If not, nothing lost. Love-making is something that MARRIED couples do. Surely you don't want to just be someone's "free stuff," do you?
Reply:You sound really young....and theres your answer your confused. you can't love two guys at once. LOVE is a big word.
Reply:im me
Reply:just pick one, or you could pretend not to like either of them at all for a while and then slowly begin to build on one of them... hope that helps, i know how you feel
Loving is'nt a fault and it don't happen by seeing any age i love my sir very much and it is not an attraction
loving is'nt a fault and it don't happen by seeing any age i love my sir very much and it is not an attraction
"loving is'nt a fault and it don't happen by seeing any age i love my sir very much and it is not an attraction"
"I love computer sir of our school, he is unmarried and 13-14 years older than me. he don't know my feelings about him.I may leave this school this year.What should i do, will i propose him as it is not just an attraction and i can't live without him,it is impossible for me to forget him." so PLZ take this matter seriously and answer me as i am fully depressed .I am 16 years old girl"
Loving is'nt a fault and it don't happen by seeing any age i love my sir very much and it is not an attraction
Emotions in you are pressurising you for this. Emotions have suppressed logics in it. You, for the timebeing, are not in a position to take realistic view of issue.
Your mad love may mislead you.
Okay you are right - love is not a fault. But love demands that you should see his welfare and happiness. You are 16 years old. Aggresive steps at this age may create nuisance for you and your loved ones.
If you love him sincerely:
(i) pray for his happiness
(ii) pray god for your love
(iii) and defer the matter for at least two years
and be cautious.
In case he loves you, he will definitely encourage you for full concentrastion to studies.
BEST OF LUCK.
"loving is'nt a fault and it don't happen by seeing any age i love my sir very much and it is not an attraction"
"I love computer sir of our school, he is unmarried and 13-14 years older than me. he don't know my feelings about him.I may leave this school this year.What should i do, will i propose him as it is not just an attraction and i can't live without him,it is impossible for me to forget him." so PLZ take this matter seriously and answer me as i am fully depressed .I am 16 years old girl"
Loving is'nt a fault and it don't happen by seeing any age i love my sir very much and it is not an attraction
Emotions in you are pressurising you for this. Emotions have suppressed logics in it. You, for the timebeing, are not in a position to take realistic view of issue.
Your mad love may mislead you.
Okay you are right - love is not a fault. But love demands that you should see his welfare and happiness. You are 16 years old. Aggresive steps at this age may create nuisance for you and your loved ones.
If you love him sincerely:
(i) pray for his happiness
(ii) pray god for your love
(iii) and defer the matter for at least two years
and be cautious.
In case he loves you, he will definitely encourage you for full concentrastion to studies.
BEST OF LUCK.
I love him... Should I be paitient? I love him so much. He still has my heart. He's dating my best friend.HELP
There is this boy... Bry, and I fell in love with him almost instantly. We were together for 2 months and then he confessed to me that he had feelings for me and his best friend Macy. Macy has loved him for awhile, and now those two are together, I'm Macy and Bry's best friend, and I can't stand seeing them together. I feel like I would wait around forever for this boy and I have told him exactly how I felt about him, and he says he still loves me. Did he love me, can you tell from this info? Should I wait for him (he claims that he and Macy won't last past the end of the school year in May.) and take him back when he wants me? He claims he still loves me, and apologizes to me that he hurt me, but I LOVE him sooo incredibly much. I want him, but yet there are other men that like me. Bry told me to date and see where it goes, but I can't move on or date other people with out thinking that the person I am kissing is Bry. Should I wait around forever for my dream man, and take him back???
I love him... Should I be paitient? I love him so much. He still has my heart. He's dating my best friend.HELP
Girl are you serious? For one, if he really cared for you, he would not have started dating someone that you call your best friend. If she was your friend, she would not have started dating someone that you were with and still have feelings for. If I were you, I would take the advice he gave you (which is telling you that he does not want you for a relationship, just something to fall back on) and date other people and just leave him the hell alone and her too. Do not put yourself in the position to be hurt, take control of your feelings, have pride and some respect for yourself. What makes you think a real man would want someone who is going to be their dummy, and wait for them to finish messing around with some other girl? He is making a fool of you, and it is time you get a back bone and swallow that so called love you have for him.
I really do not think what you have is love any ways, I think you are just infatuated with him and its gotten stronger because now he has become a challenge since you can not have him when you want him. Girl it is so many other fine *** men out here and who could be better that what he is, that will love every step you take. Do not wait around for someone to approve you loving them and them loving you. He is not sorry for hurting you, he is just plan sorry!
Reply:sweetie, don't wait around for this guy. if he really loved you, he wouldn't be with the other girl, he would be with you. he also told you to go out and date other guys! if he cared that much, he would freak at just the thought of you being with anohter guy. I'm not trying to make you feel bad, I really do care, that's why I'm telling you this. you should go ahead and make yourself go out with other guys, and I promise you will meet some who will treat you better than this guy has. he basically told you that he's with his best friend now, and thinks it might not last past the end of the school year, you go ahead and date other guys, and when he's through with his best friend, he expects you to be waiting and drop everything and go running to him when he's ready for you. he's basically saying, wait your turn! don't give him the satisfaction! you move on. you'll be glad you did in the long run.
Best Wishes and you do deserve better.
Reply:Honey I know it is hard but you have to realize it doesn't matter how much you love him. You can't make anyone love you. He wants to be with Macy and there is nothing you can do to change it. Don't let him treat you like a silly puppy that runs to him anytime he whistles. Have some class and dignity. I do not mean to hurt you. The sooner you remove yourself from this situation, the sooner you will find somebody who loves you just for you. It will happen, I promise. Find new friends and new things to do so you can meet new people. Your heart will heal soon and couple months from now you will be like "Bry who?"
Reply:you know, i know a person that can help u, the email is gamegod_32@yahoo.com that person can help u with ANY problem!!! try it out!
Reply:wow, just let him sleep with your best freind and then take him back? Dont let him pull that BS. Go find someone else, chances are it wont last that long (sorry) then in time you can see if you are still even the same people.
Reply:Think about it. Are you gonna marry this guy? Are you going to kill a friendship for a one week fling? If he sincerely loves you, then why is he dating your best friend? I know you do't like to be in denial, but think about it. If he truly loved you, he wouldn't be sitting in a corner making out with your BFF. Now, if you were to date other men and see where it went, you would be basically using them to get over Bry. Is leading them on (and in the end hurting them) making you any different than Bry, who is probably just trying to keep his options open? It'll be hard to decide, but it's not something some random stranger on Yahoo!Answers can answer for you. You need to be able to think and decide. You can follow your heart blindly, but thik about where it will lead you.
Reply:You better tell him because you never know how he may react...better to have a chance then not, dreams are merely oppurtunities, cant come true till you take action
I love him... Should I be paitient? I love him so much. He still has my heart. He's dating my best friend.HELP
Girl are you serious? For one, if he really cared for you, he would not have started dating someone that you call your best friend. If she was your friend, she would not have started dating someone that you were with and still have feelings for. If I were you, I would take the advice he gave you (which is telling you that he does not want you for a relationship, just something to fall back on) and date other people and just leave him the hell alone and her too. Do not put yourself in the position to be hurt, take control of your feelings, have pride and some respect for yourself. What makes you think a real man would want someone who is going to be their dummy, and wait for them to finish messing around with some other girl? He is making a fool of you, and it is time you get a back bone and swallow that so called love you have for him.
I really do not think what you have is love any ways, I think you are just infatuated with him and its gotten stronger because now he has become a challenge since you can not have him when you want him. Girl it is so many other fine *** men out here and who could be better that what he is, that will love every step you take. Do not wait around for someone to approve you loving them and them loving you. He is not sorry for hurting you, he is just plan sorry!
Reply:sweetie, don't wait around for this guy. if he really loved you, he wouldn't be with the other girl, he would be with you. he also told you to go out and date other guys! if he cared that much, he would freak at just the thought of you being with anohter guy. I'm not trying to make you feel bad, I really do care, that's why I'm telling you this. you should go ahead and make yourself go out with other guys, and I promise you will meet some who will treat you better than this guy has. he basically told you that he's with his best friend now, and thinks it might not last past the end of the school year, you go ahead and date other guys, and when he's through with his best friend, he expects you to be waiting and drop everything and go running to him when he's ready for you. he's basically saying, wait your turn! don't give him the satisfaction! you move on. you'll be glad you did in the long run.
Best Wishes and you do deserve better.
Reply:Honey I know it is hard but you have to realize it doesn't matter how much you love him. You can't make anyone love you. He wants to be with Macy and there is nothing you can do to change it. Don't let him treat you like a silly puppy that runs to him anytime he whistles. Have some class and dignity. I do not mean to hurt you. The sooner you remove yourself from this situation, the sooner you will find somebody who loves you just for you. It will happen, I promise. Find new friends and new things to do so you can meet new people. Your heart will heal soon and couple months from now you will be like "Bry who?"
Reply:you know, i know a person that can help u, the email is gamegod_32@yahoo.com that person can help u with ANY problem!!! try it out!
Reply:wow, just let him sleep with your best freind and then take him back? Dont let him pull that BS. Go find someone else, chances are it wont last that long (sorry) then in time you can see if you are still even the same people.
Reply:Think about it. Are you gonna marry this guy? Are you going to kill a friendship for a one week fling? If he sincerely loves you, then why is he dating your best friend? I know you do't like to be in denial, but think about it. If he truly loved you, he wouldn't be sitting in a corner making out with your BFF. Now, if you were to date other men and see where it went, you would be basically using them to get over Bry. Is leading them on (and in the end hurting them) making you any different than Bry, who is probably just trying to keep his options open? It'll be hard to decide, but it's not something some random stranger on Yahoo!Answers can answer for you. You need to be able to think and decide. You can follow your heart blindly, but thik about where it will lead you.
Reply:You better tell him because you never know how he may react...better to have a chance then not, dreams are merely oppurtunities, cant come true till you take action
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