He doesn't love me back, should I stay around?

Hi -- so I told this guy I've been dating a while, that I love him, or that I'm falling in love with him. He said he's only got love for two people, his ex and his kids. He says he's got love for her because he has kids with her, it will always be that way. In other words, has he not moved on from her? He says he sees me in his future, but how can he see me in his future and not love me or be able to say that he'll love me later? He also says he has no emotions (don't we all have emotions?). He says he doesn't feel, but yet he has love for his ex and his kids, that's a feeling.





I'm confused and irritated, should I stick around, or should I move on from this guy? Am I wasting my time waiting around for him to love me back the same? He says he cares about me and he really likes me, but he doesn't love me.

He doesn't love me back, should I stay around?
Sweetie, do yourself a favor and take a walk away from this relationship. You have nothing to lose because on one hand he's telling you he doesn't love you, and on the other hand he's also telling you the only one's he loves are his ex and the kids. Where does that leave you?? It leaves you out in the cold, so put your coat on and walk away. You deserve to find someone who will treat you with respect and love you. Don't fall for someone just coming out of a broken relationship, you're only going to be a rebound girlfriend. They won't be over their former relationship, and they won't be able to give all of themselves to you including their heart and love.
Reply:I'm not sure how long a while is to but you have been only dating for a couple of months he may not be able to say that he loves you yet. See, sometimes its harder for guys to admit they love so early in the relationship... but if you have been with this guy for say like 6 months or longer and he still cant say that he loves you that you should call it splitsville. Sometimes its really hard to date someone with kids but they will always have a special bond with the mother of their kids. And if his ex broke things off with him maybe he isnt completly over her. You are right though we all do have emotions, but maybe he is afraid of getting hurt so he doesnt quite want to say that he loves you yet. I'm really not sure though because I'm not actually there observing the relationship for myself... but I would suggest calling it splits. If he is in-love with another girl then just let him know that you cant be with him until he puts this girl past him emotionally
Reply:Well, I don't think I would stick around if it was me. If you been dating a while and he says he loves his ex, that's probably a sign that he hasn't worked his issues with her, and he hasn't moved on. If it was me, I would tell him to get things worked out and that I wasn't going to stick around. Just remember that a person who loves you absolutely no matter what is the best thing, and if he can't say that he'll ever love you, then you shouldn't probably continue seeing him.
Reply:You should move on. Sorry.
Reply:No, guys can suck. Even if it is cliche, guys want one thing and it all they care about. Trust me.
Reply:First of all it's good that you took the watch back but if your dating he should have some type of feelings for you but maybe he can grow to love you but it seems as if he's not over his ex... b/c if he was he would feeling something for you... it's understandable that he has love for her b/c they share a common bond but it doesn't seem like he can let go... so I would move on but let him know why your moving on
Reply:He doesn't sound like he's going to give you what you need in a relationship. Time to move on.
Reply:Forget that asshole
Reply:Why be with someone who dosn't love you? You are just asking him to hurt you. I know it is hard but he is telling you. If you stay you can't blame him.


Just go!! Find someone who will love you!!
Reply:His not having emotions are why his ex is just that, an ex-girlfriend. He likely couldn't keep her around for the same reasons. He is telling you that he's got love for his ex and kids, not you. Move on, girl, and find someone who can give you love here and now, not when he feels it's time for him to do so.
Reply:Yah you deserve a guy who will be sweeter than this. Youll have him too!
Reply:you should move on why be with some one that dos not love you.
Reply:Oh my God!





You know what the problem is and you are still there with him. Why do girls fall for men with kids?





Ok do this......





Call him and tell him in firm voice


"I don't see any point with staying with you. It's better that we both move on. "





He will try to get you by telling you things. You are a free warm body for him. Why would he let you go so easily. Don't you see, he is giving you hard time because he doens't want any attachments, I bet you guys are sexually active. He wants you in his bed, but when it comes to relationship, he is telling you to be on the side. Many men do it because they think girls like that. When you ignore them and tell the they are not wnated, girls fall for those men more. Your ego is on the stake. You are like ," why doens't he wnat me?" I am so good to him, he should be wanting me?"





Get out before it's too late!





If you are confused, just close your eyes and imagine 5 years later with him. Even if he marries you...you have to for the rest of your life share him with his ex and his children. You will also share his money with his ex and children.





My friend is marrie dto this guy with 3 children. They have been unble to afford a house becaus eher husband gives half of his income to his ex and children.





Plus when they had their first child, he had no emotions because for him it was his 4th child.





Think.,...be smart and have some dignity.
Reply:As much as you are not going to like what I have to say I think you know in your head that he is not the one for you. What kind of jerk tells a woman he is involved with that he only has love for his ex and kids. If he had a half a brain he would have left the ex out of it. Sounds as if your in his life for the lack of something better. If his ex wants him back then where do you stand? Not saying she wants him but, I would not look to be with someone who is so blah about me and the relationship.





Glad to hear you took the watch back I think you should spend that money on a day at the spa for yourself.





If I was you I would distance myself and start looking for someone new. He is not worth your time.
Reply:I would move on from this guy. You deserve a guy who will love you in return. nobody deserves to give and give and not be loved back. You are better than that.