The mean people you love.......?

I have seen a lot of questions circulating here that read-


"he/she loves sum1 else but i love him and i want him"-Would you love someone bcoz they love you rather then the one you truely love???i dont think so


"he/she is mean to me but i still love them"-You love someone who doesnt like you and treats you like filth??Y do yo love them then??


"he/she is out of my life forever but i still love em"-They are not coming back and usually long distance secrets relationships dont work.....you might as well forget it......will take time but you have to ....


Even i am a sentimental types but i am practical too......if a certain someone doesn't love me then i cant help it and i have to let go......Frankly i think people need to be a bit more practical.....


what say??comments appreciated....

The mean people you love.......?
people are well aware these days how things work and there is plenty of help available for people that are struggling. i think they convince themselves right to a point where they eventually believe it to be that way, denying the truth and making it an old memory.





i tried to help my ex's sister out of an abusive relationship. he finally got locked up, she felt alone and bailed him out!! i was appauled, i stopped helping her cos i realised it was pointless, nobody could help her.





i figure sometimes those questions are posted for attention, and some ARE genuine cries for help, and sometimes that is a hard fact to determine. sometimes i answer, sometimes not.





i guess it all boils down to one point: "if they wont help themselves first, then no one else will be able to do anything better for them"... however if it were someone seeking guidance and theyve already taken the first step this is different. no i agree to most of it, sometimes circumstances tho are seriously misunderstood also.
Reply:It's always better to be loved than to love..that's what most people would tell me. Sometimes if your BF/GF is mean to you yet you still love him/her, it could still mean he or she still have a place in your heart. But sometimes if you think it hard enough, it may not be love but just an infactuation whereby you are attracted to him/her physically %26amp; emotionally that you find it hard to let go completely.





My BF treats me not very good, especially at times when he gets mad, he would hurl abusive words and on a few occasion even laid hands on me. We have broken up a month ago %26amp; because Im no longer staying with him, there is less chance of me getting hit altho many times he assured me he wouldn't, but still, he tends to not control himself whenever he gets mad. Yet, the stupid thing is i still love him %26amp; hoping he would change for the better etc , and that's one reason why I havent really let go, because , point here is, if you are unable to convince yourself, it would be hard for you to ever move on, even with someone as mean as my BF.





Im extremely sentimental too and I would get hurt most when BF broke up with me. Im also a very forgiving person which is why I tend to focus more on the good things hes done for me than the bad.





Again, it varies for different people. Sure you would have to let go if that someone doesn't love you, that is unless you have tried means to get close to him/her, letting him/her know your feelings towards he/her and if their response is no good, then its best to let go. You wouldn't want a unrequited love....





Lastly, love never hurts. Love is kind %26amp; patient.
Reply:Bravo!! I concur...........
Reply:well that bascially answers all the questions in this section.
Reply:totally mate. usually it is a sign of inner insecurities and problems. fear of singledom, being alone.


e.g.


he beats me and cheats on me but i love him.


yeah right.


you wil just end up with a welcoje sign onb your forehead and every ****** will wipe there feet on you on the way in.





being practical is good if you have the strength. but some peeps dont realise that there are 6 billion pepole in the world and there isnt onkly one of them for you.
Reply:People don't know truly know how to respond to love.


Many people would rather stay in a relationship that is painful because they have never experienced anything different in their live.


It like the saying if the shoe fits wear it!


People need to get outside the box and try for pure happiness within themselves!


Hope this is helpful!