Is love just lust in disguise? whats the difference? what attracts us is infatuation and lust,?

There is no love, isnt it just infatuation and lust that attracts people together and than its chemistry that allows us to think we can stay together. After awhile doest lust fade and then all we are left with is history and being scared of being alone and maybe kids to keep people together? Am i wrong? Isnt our thought of love or what we think is love just some image we conditioned ourself to represent love. We have no idea what it is, its not a basic instict. Instead its just a byproduct of us just trying to fullfill our basic instincts which is to find a mate and companionship. Basically what im saying is love is nothing more than a made up image formed in our heads, through what we observed love to be which we learned from family, friends, School, tv and movies, and whatever else we learned. And basically we use this made up image to put a framework around our relationship? Am I wrong about Love??

Is love just lust in disguise? whats the difference? what attracts us is infatuation and lust,?
As a mental health practitioner with 20+ years experience, may I recommend a book written by a psychiatrist in 1978, I believe, entitled "The Road Less Taken" by M. Scott Peck, M.D.. I think you'll find every one of your answers in the first two sections of the book. That book was on the ny bestseller list longer than any other book, fiction or nonfiction, at its time, for several years straight. Dr. Peck went on to write several more books, all of which spent time on the ny best seller list, if that is any kind of measure worth mentioning. It would take too long for me to give his answer here, but I can assure you that I have never, and I do mean never, heard of a better definition of love, and a differentiation between falling in love and loving someone. I think you'll find it rewarding to read. God Bless you.
Reply:If your question is serious, I think you'll greatly appreciate the book. It used to be on every bookstore's front shelves for years, but now, maybe since time has passed, it may not be, but I'm sure you can find it somewhere. You'll be glad you did. Report It

Reply:I believe there's one very important distinction between love and lust - and that is friendship. I personally don't see how you can love someone without being friends. It may come before or after the "lust" - but if it's not there, it's not love.
Reply:Mmm, the definition of love? tough question. But the answer is pretty simple. I'll answer with a question. Do you love your mother, grandmother, and sisters? Is that lust in disguise? Anyways, your probably specifically talking about Eros, erotic love, not philia or agape, the love shared sexually and initmately. Eros, the love between a man and a woman (or a man and a man, or a woman and a woman) has nothing to do wit our sense of companionship, lust, or infatuation. Mature love is escapes the sense of touch, comfort, and need. Mature love is the understanding of another to the point where your lives are considerably interwined, where your death is meaningless compared to your partners, and you wish to give them your most precious possession, your future past and present; your existence, and your lineage.
Reply:Love can be between friends and family. Love is also with the opposite gender. Love isn't lust. When someone feels lust, then it's not love. Love is pure. Lust isn't. Infatuation is attracted by our physical desires and can also be hormonal activity.
Reply:Love comes in many forms..Lust only comes in one. Love can be between friends...just caring for one another...or in a committed relationship....devoting one anothers lives to the one they love...or the simple love one can have for fellow human beings on a daily basis. Lust and infatuation are sexually motivated desires founded on physical principles..bypassing the whole ideology of love.