I love him, but im always sad when im with him...?

i love my boyfriend, but im never truly happy when im with him. i love him, but i dont believe that i am IN love with him. sometimes i find myself fighting back tears when im with him... i love him, however i can't deal with certain things about him. he stopped going to school, he smokes weed all the time.. and is basically unmotivated. i know this can't be forever, he's the wrong guy for me, but for some strange reason... i love him, with every ounce of my heart. and i don't want to see him fail. but for some reason, whenever im with him... i just keep thinking "this cant be forever...." im so caught up in the future of things... i don't know what to do. i told him that i loved him... (he didnt say it back , but i think he's too afraid too) and i really really do, but i am not in love with him.. i care about him tremendously, but the mad crazy infatuation part isnt there anymore. i dont know what to do... should i stay? knowing this is going to end, or call it off now w/o much reason

I love him, but im always sad when im with him...?
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Reply:you sound smarter than him and you seem to know whats right for you. the hardest thing is letting go. you will think that a weed head and lazy guy will wanna be all over you knowing his a loser but he doesnt appreciate you be with someone who will and someone who you have a future with. It is your life others can advice you but only you know best. I liked a guy who was a total loser, he was 22 worked as a security guard,high school drop out, had no future plans, had depression and lost most of his hair because of it and was in rehab. I am not married to the most wonderful man and I am so glad I let that loser be a thing of the past.
Reply:definately been there. its not worth it. people like that bring you down. its way harder to bring someone up and help them than for them to bring you down.





maybe you love the idea of him. having a boyfriend and all. but when you have to convince yourself that you love him is a sign to know that its not right.





when you find the right guy you will know and that question of if he is right for you will never even cross your mind.





God has ways of telling you what is wrong and what is right. for me, fighting back tears is a way to see that God is telling me to do something about this beucase its not right.





i know you don't wnat to see him fail and if your like me you think that once you leave he is just going to fall even deeper into that hole, but thats not fair to you.





try being friends. obviously it will take a while to get there again but it is possible. it all works out in the end, and if it doesn't, its not the end.





good luck girl!
Reply:Call it off now! It will be alot easier to do now than later. You need to be in a relationship where you are happy and in love. Put your feelings first.
Reply:You should stay, if he really loves you back, there's no reason for you to leave, sure he might have some bad habbits but if you love him and i mean LOVE him you should stay

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