Love is overrated. . . thoughts?

Here's my thought. . . NO! Love isn't overrated. It just doesn't happen as much as people would like to think. I'm a firm believer that 97% of people who think they found love, didn't have it. I think saying


"I love you" is like saying "please and thank." Your brought up to say it, to be nice. You know?





I think the biggest problem is people these day live TOO wreckless and sloppy. When it comes relationships,marriage, divorce, SEX. We're just all over the place! I think standards are low. I don't think we have higher expectation now then in the past.





I think "love" just get's LOST in all the chaos and distractions in this world.





What are your thought on Love? is it overrated?





Is modern society today showing that love is dying?

Love is overrated. . . thoughts?
Love itself is not over-rated. When you find/build it, it is the greatest thing on earth.





I agree with you that too many people confuse the feeling of "being in love" with actively "loving". Love is a verb, an action, not a feeling. Love isn't dying - the societal support mechanisms to promote active loving are deteriorating.
Reply:I have found true love. Married 8 years to my best friend. Met him when I was 12 and got married at 24. We spent 11 years being best friends so it only made sense. I couldn't imagine myself with another person. I look forward to every thing we do together even if it is helping him work on the vehicles. lol


Love simply is what it is and you either have it or you don't. It's not overrated. It will come to you eventually.
Reply:love is NOT overrated. I found the one person that I have been searching for my entire adult life. doesn't mean the journey was a complete joy trip. But I learned a lot about myself and love. Love is more than just a feeling. It's something that emits itself from within. The emission can be in a lot of different ways. It might be a touch, a sentence, a smile, a handshake, an ear, any number of things. I know I don't take it for granted. Love is special. Some people might say it and have no clue what they are talking about. But when you feel it, and know it, it's one the greatest feelings in the world. But then you have to remember, that love is work. Love is a work in progress, always shaping and molding.
Reply:Its like chocolate, have too many candy bars and its not special anymore.
Reply:No! love is not overrated. People being inlove is overated. I think people confuse Love with lust and infatuation,


The product of Lust and infatuation is unexpected pregnancies, which leads to pre mature marriages, that causes the chaos and distractions, which leads to divorces.


Love is very much alive today as it was in the past, but todays society, needs to take it (Love) more seriously.
Reply:I have told 2 people that I loved them...I refuse to drop my guard w/ someone again, that just gives them power over me...When I am in love I become to weak and vulnerable to that person which gives them control.





I don't toss them words around, if I say it I mean it. It will be a long time b4 I say them words again even if I do feel it!
Reply:know what? LOVE is an verb. as in TO LOVE. In order to love someone you have to actively serve them, care about them, go out of your way to make them feel special.....this is a normal part of courtship so most people feel "loved" then they marry or shack up and quite trying. They loose the love they felt and they dont feel loved because no one is trying anymore. They decide they've "lost" love and go looking for it somewhere else and start the courtship over which makes them feel in love and loved....its a vicious circle. Until you realise that you have the control and can love one person deeply and completely for your whole life and feel loved in return. Just remember to serve, show kindness, care, and never ever ever use sex as a tool to get what you want or punish your partner. You will then have a very happy successful relationship. OH, and no its not alwasy easy and it sometimes takes ALOT of work but it is definelty worth it.
Reply:I think that people mistake many things for love.





Love is not what the media - movies, commercials, magazines - portray. That is lust but it is NOT love. No wonder standards are so low...





Love is what I feel for my children even when they misbehave and disappoint me...what I feel for my parents even though they abused me as a child...what I feel for my husband even when he fails to meet my needs and hurts me...what I feel for my friends even though I don't always agree with their choices...what I feel for mankind even though not all people are good.





Love is not an emotion, it is a way of being. It is not about the person we declare love to - it is about expressing who we are and what we are. Love is so misunderstood!





But NEVER over-rated. If you truly know what love is, you would know that along with the sunshine, there comes a little rain sometime...and it doesn't change a thing.
Reply:that may be true for some peeps and not for all, some people say love when they don't mean it to reach a goal they might want out of the person like sex or comfort maybe money what ever the need they have...its part of surviving ...for some





peeps fall in love then get married a few years down the line they are bored they feel suffocated, they brake their partners heart and move on to the next love, thinking is going to be different . they get tired of looking for love and stay in a loveless relationship.





when you been married 30, 40 , 50 years then you can say you found love..





not to love is to feel protected a shield that tells you wont hurt ...your heart becomes a rock
Reply:I think that in the grand world of instant gratification, many don't have the patience for the dedication true love takes.
Reply:I'm in my 30's, got married for the first time in my early 30's and I really believe I got it right. I love my husband, we are friends, he's the person I can not wait to see when we are apart. But I had to kiss a lot of frogs to get here. In hindsight I can say that some of the relationships that I had in my past which were the center of my world at the time, were lacking real love. I think alot of people fall in love with the idea of love, and spend alot of time trying to turn a relationship into something it is not. I don't think love is overrated, it's wonderful and special when you find it!
Reply:I don't disagree.. Yes, we throw the words "I love you" around like it doesn't really mean anything. But it does exist and one can love someone in a very special way. To be "in love" is overrated. Everyone is always looking for that spark.. the little butterflies in the tummy thing, etc. That type of love is just a phase that comes and goes instantly. Some people think that it should last forever.. when it really doesn't. Then they leave their spouses hoping to find it.. I'd like to call "in love" nothing more than "initial excitement".. it's there.. and then it's gone.
Reply:what you said is very true,but I think it's underrated myself.maybe thats part of the problem nowadays