Isn't "LOVE" in Itself a Selfish Act??

People use "love" as if it were an act of "giving" when really, in its most brute form, is an act of "taking."





People only love people because it makes THEM feel good. They wouldn't love anyone if it didn't make them feel a certain way.





So essentially, people only love others for themselves.





Itsn't it all a phoney, theatrical act??





Even when a mother says she loves her own child, she really only does so because it HER child and she wants to protect HER offspring. Because it is part of her.





A man or a woman who claim they love their spouse only do so because THEY THEMSELVES get something out of it.





It could be company, sex, money, security, helpful hand etc.





Nobody would love anyone if there was nothing in it for themselves.





People who adopt kids and love them only do it so they can feel good about themselves or pat themselves on the back. They think it's good karma or they'll get rewarded for it by God.





It sounds very depressing, but isn't that the cold hard truth??

Isn't "LOVE" in Itself a Selfish Act??
Oh poor guy reading the first line I had known that you are so poor that you even don't know the meaning of love, so understanding love is a far from reach kind of thing for you.


I don't have the courage to read your bogus, immature manuscript.


May God bless you and someday you understand what love really is. That day you will feel that you have breathed for the first time.





i dare to read you bogus manuscript and find out that you are sick. How can you talk so nonsense about the most beautiful feeling of the world. it is OK if you don't understand but it's a crime if you misunderstand.


you are a criminal.
Reply:Read these books by Ayn Rand





The Fountainhead.


Atlas Shrugged.





It would show you why being selfish is good, and how dreadful the act of selflessness can be
Reply:Nah. It's love, love. I would think adopting kids is GIVING them a family. I can GIVE my love to a significant other. It's like saying you admire them, it's a compliment.
Reply:It seems to me that you've never really loved, you've never been a mother and you've never adopted a child. With no first-hand experience in any of these cases I'd rather not generalize the way you do. Love, true love bears no 'if...' or 'because...', it's just love. It may actually make you feel really bad as well as really good or both but this offers no explanation whatsoever as to how and why love does happen. I do wish love happens to you one day and you realize what people like me here can only try to explain to you but most probably won't succeed. I guess it is similar with love of God - I myself am an atheist - I dare say I'm quite tolerant and open to other people's ideas, yet hard as I try, I cannot really understand this. For love is a first-hand experience - no explanations are ever good enough and if you haven't yourself felt it you'll never be really convinced.


As I said - wish you love :)
Reply:yes, love is one word which can be used and is used predominantly the way you put it.


is there a selfless love?


parents torture their children with their love. lovers possess each other in the name of love. people kill others in the name of love. all sorts of violence and rubbish goes on in this world in the name of love. is this the love that we are talking about? or are we going to inquire to see if there is something called selfless love?
Reply:Love is simply a connection with another spiritual entity. It simply exists. It is not selfish nor unselfish. We don't practice it on purpose, it just happens.


Selfishness is misunderstood. We can only live our lives for ourselves and should always love ourselves and take care of ourselves first. That would seem selfish, but it is not because if we love and respect ourselves then when we connect with another one that we love we will treat them with love and integrity and respect.
Reply:Love is not a selfish act now some people do use the word Love to get what they want but that is not love that is an opportunist.


So No Love is not a selfish because to get love you must give love truly and unselfishly.
Reply:No, love isn't a selfish act.
Reply:Yes, I agree...you are absolutely right. If I told you otherwise, I would be bullsh*ting you and myself.
Reply:ABSOLUTELY NOT ! ! I don't say this to be critical but obviously you don't understand the concept. Hopefully someday you will .
Reply:You never saw reflected glory in the smile of someone, more than special, at a shared joke? Never got to delight in seeing your lovers body quake at your touch? Never felt your own eyes sparkle to know that theirs shine for you?





It's not good karma and I am judged by no god.





But I certainly love...
Reply:no love is not selfish. it's just that not many people love.
Reply:Oh, you Sad, Sad, Person you!!!
Reply:I think so. There's action, and a 'loving' action often accompanies love, and that can be unselfish, but I think the whole process of 'being in love' is actually a process of self-realization and self-acceptance, so it is a completely self-centered act.
Reply:Love is a responsibility.

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