If love is real...then why...?

If love is real....if true love is real....then why...how does it make sense that one person can love another person fully and completely with all their hearts but the other will feel nothing in return or just not the same kind of deep feelings.....if THAT feels like real love...why isnt it mutual?





And if it just feels like real love but it isnt...well then, how is one supposed to know when its real love and when its just something like it?





And why is does the "just something like real love" feeling even exist...whats its relavence? It only hurts hearts in the cruelest way...

If love is real...then why...?
Darling I know this feeling all to well. In fact it wasn't untill 9months ago that that feeling began to fade away. True love is a theory. Love however is not. Love is a release of chemicals in the brain, true love is something in stories. Nothing is ever really true, but nothing is ever really false, nothing is completly real but nothing is completly fake. Love is about finding compatiblity and desire. Love is also very general. You can love anything. Love can be found in so many different ways. For example : love for your best friend, love for your parents/sibblings, as well as love for a boyfriend or girlfriend.You can fall in love with a person and have them return the feeling, living a good life, but nothing is ever perfect. There will be days which you can't stand each other, days when you want to kill each other, but then days when you can't bare to be apart. Also love is deep feelings, it's feeling happy and complete but it's a feeling of pain and fear at the same time.





I know your feelings and your questions all too well. Open your mind to love, your heart has nothing to do with it. If you open your mind to it you will see life in a new way, and love will find you. I speak from experience. About nine months ago I finaly opened up my mind to the idea of love, and found it almost immediatly. I don't know weather it will last a lifetime or not but I'm finaly willing to let myself get hurt by another, rather than just myself. This experience has made life worth living. He's changed my life so much, and it's because of his love that I'm alive today.





Best of wishes.
Reply:Just because the love is not returned does not mean that your love is not true. I agree with you completely real love does sometimes hurt and is cruel but the only other way to live is not to love anyone ever and be lonely.
Reply:Love is real! These are good questions.
Reply:love is gone
Reply:that's true and unfortunately i don't have the answer to that either.......
Reply:my sister doesnt kno wat love is.. whenever she tells her bf 'i love you' ..i ask her if she ment it then she said yes...but when he broke up with her i ask her again and she said 'no' pfft...


bet u shell say i love you to her next bf
Reply:Here is a test is Seventeen magazine about true love it might help : )
Reply:Unfortunately we confuse love with feelings because our emotions are involved. Feelings change daily. Love requires committment and it's unconditional. That's why relationships don't work nowadays, because we get involved with the idea that "if it doesn't work out", we can walk away. There's no committment so the first bad storm, we bail. When one person has that deep committment and the other doesn't it won't last.
Reply:whoever said love had to be reciprocated?
Reply:only real... 'real' love is felt by both parties...





it isn't very nice... life is hard.. but when you find it.. it's worth the waiting.





believe me... it's well worth the wait!
Reply:It's only because people are immature to what love realy is untill it actually happens. Now i'm not saying your immature i am just simply sayin that people all people are when it comes to love. me my sister my parents..so on and so fowrth...and most of the time when you think you are in love it is really just lust...very big difference..and yet extremely hard to tell....and trust me when you do finnally fall in love with that one special person you will know.
Reply:Love is very real.
Reply:you will know when it's right true love will be felt by both and if you love someone and they feel nothing for you then there not ment for you....... as cruel as it sounds ..........
Reply:if i knew the answer to that, i myself wouldn't be heartbroken
Reply:I have often wondered these things myself, all the love that I have ever known has ended up hurting me in the cruelest of ways, I avoid being trapped by it now to extremes!!
Reply:There's no answer for that. How the person's, like feelings work, it's unexplainable. Maybe the eprson once did love you.. but it's like, drawing away.. Idk
Reply:True love is when you will still keep loving the person no matter what happens. For ex. The Nymph and Narcicuss. He is so vain and even tough he rejects her, she still loves and after he dies, i think she commits suicide.
Reply:Sometimes, love is not returned. It doesn't mean your love wasn't real, it just means that person is not the one for you and you need to wait for the right one.


When you find someone who is just as much in love with you, that is the person to give your love to.


You are trying to find answers where there sometimes just aren't any. We all go through a learning process and sometimes get hurt. That doesn't mean we shouldn't try again or believe there is no love.


Just follow your heart, but make sure you get as much back as you give.
Reply:grow up
Reply:you can love all u want, there is nothing saying that the other person has to or will love you back. Free will, if it was like that then I'd walk up to any random person and fall in love and they would love me and la di da happily ever after, there would be no wars or anything, FREE WILL
Reply:Whoa man, you just like, totally blew my mind. Rad!
Reply:Well, you're first example explains parental love. MOST parents love their children expecting love back; but with what's going on in the news, it's hard to tell who loves who anymore.





I'm not really sure.
Reply:This is cause True Love does


not excist, the only real true love


that can ever excist is between your


family, like lets say your mom, dad, sister,


or brother for example, no matter what


thing you do i am sure they will still love


you for ever!!! and a partner will not, they will always


find something wrong in you, and the feeling that


we get when we think we are in love is that.............. just a feeling


the feeling of wanted to be loved by some one, to feel the hugs, and kisses by some one, the wanting some one to love us for who we are. But in the long run ........... rather it be 5 or 50 years ........ things will never last for ever............. only your family will always be there. .............. this is just my thought.





thanks .....................
Reply:There is no such thing as true love. All you can hope for is that you can find someone who will feel something for you that you feel for them, and hope it lasts. You can fall in love with just about anyone if even for only a few days. It's finding someone that will feel that way forever.
Reply:Love isn't always mutual; When love is mutual, it is probably caused by an "admiration from afar".
Reply:i know how you feel... you will experience so many feelings that at a certain time you will think that it is love but its not... you may have strong feelings for the person but i think you will know when it is love... In time you will look back and say that it was not real love....and it is not a mutual thing if the other person does not feel the same way... then it is not meant to be. I have asked myself..." What does he not feel the same way?" you cant make someone love you... if they dont feel the same way... then they dont.. you cant help who you fall for... Good Luck
Reply:Because that isn't real love... In true love both hearts feel the same passion and same admiration for one another.
Reply:Everyone has an individual definition of what love really is. Through all of our life experiences we build and rebuild and rebuild again and hope when all is said and done that we will come to realize what a truer love is. Throughout all of this rebuilding, unfortunately, hearts get hurt along the way, but the good news is we are all adaptable and capable of learning life's lessons. Good luck in your journey!
Reply:i believe in such thing called reall love but i cant imagin that there is in these days..
Reply:you cant control who you love its just something that happens, it may be somebody that you dont want to love but it happens, they might not love you in return you cant help how another person feels, and you will know the difference between lust and real love. i cant tell you how but you how but you will know
Reply:love is real...really a release of chemicals in the brain