Love hurts?

i was seeing this guy for about a year. he was totaly leading me on and sending mixed signals. he would spend all his free time with me and stuff but at the same time would tell everyone he was single and he would message other girls telling them they are hot.





in this year, despite what he has done (i found out he was married for convenience, a pedophile, liar, cheater) i have fallen in love with him.





i know i deserve someone that loves me as much as i love them but i just dont know what to do. i tried to stop talking to him but i cant. i want him so bad even if he is messed up.





no matter what he does i will always love him. i dont think ill ever love anyone as much as i love him. i am very picky about people i date and am atracked to and he is the only one all my life ive felt this way about and im in my 20s. and no im not ugly or anything, im very nice and good looking (sorry if that sounds stuck up)





what should i do?

Love hurts?
Sounds like you need to cowboy up, get a little self repect and use that head for something other than a hat rack. A cheater, a PEDOPHILE, come on girl, think. What happes when you have a beautiful little girl or boy, sure you are going to be really happy about leaving your flesh and blood alone with her/his father.
Reply:No offense but you need some counseling you seem to be only part of a person you need to become whole person and find another whole person if you find a psychologist he'll know what I'm talking about
Reply:you should tell him what u think
Reply:Whew!!!! Girl what is the problem? You have all the answers and you don't even realize it. Just take every thing that you say you can't do or don't want to do and do it! Love hurts? No love is not suppose to hurt! It only hurts when you are in a relastionship that you are not suppose to be in. That is God's way of letting us know we are not where we are suppose to be, with whom we are suppose to be with. So take a big girl pill and let go of this bad relastionship. And if you don't take my advice and drop this loser he is going to continue to treat you like doo doo because you are asking for it by allowing him to treat you any old kind of way. Grow up! Stop acting like a loser! Life is much to short to waste on people and things that don't bring us up! Pray about this and God will give you the strength to move on. Then God will send you someone who will love you the way you deserve to be loved. Good Luck!
Reply:"pedophile" was your term.....I can't even respond to your question after reading that. Look up "pedophile". Know what you are talking about.
Reply:Why do so many girls have such low self esteem? Do you deserve to be unhappy for the rest of your life? Do you really want to be with this piece of s#it that will spend most of his life in jail? If you were picky about who you date you wouldn't even talk to this pervert. If you are really in your 20s then you must be seriously retarded.
Reply:You need therapy. Get help.
Reply:You could not be very picky or you would not have ended up with a lying, cheating, pedophile. You don't stay with someone like this for any reason...RUN...or live a life of misery. Good Luck!!
Reply:talk to someone you trust...and just give it time. trust me, youll find someone who will treat you well. good luck.
Reply:Why do you put yourself thru so much pain? Don't you want to be happy with someone who respects and loves you?
Reply:You're not clear here: he's a pedophile?! Even if not, what on earth do you see in him? What to do? Run like hell.
Reply:find someone who's the opposite of your father.
Reply:Sweetie, don't compromise your standards, morals, or common sense for a guy who does not deserve it. You mentioned that you are very selective about who you date, but yet you are willing to see a married pedophile. That is indeed a contradiction. You are not in love with him, you have gotten used to the attention he was giving you. Move on. If you are nice and good looking, that should not be a problem.
Reply:well i was in the same situation once well he wasnt married or a pedophile but he did lie to me about a lot of things he was my best friend and i was so in love with him and i thought that he liked me the same but i was so wrong and it ended up biting me in the *** but it turns out life does go on and now i met someone else who is way better for me and now were engaged and very happy and if hes all these things that you say i would so not keep trying for this guy find someone else because he sounds like a person that would hurt you badly
Reply:Ok if you love some-one ,you try other-wise love maybe one sided.
Reply:Im really sorry about what he's has done to you.The only thing I could tell you is to follow your heart.If you don't want the agony of a heart-aches and pains.Then it'd be best to leave him alone.This guy of yours doesn't sound very trustworty...AND If you want TRUE LOVE ,you and your partner should be able to be honest and open with one another.And honesty is not what he seems to be giving you.I understand that it's not that easy to swallow,but if you want to save yourself from insanity,MOVE ON!And Trust me honey there are plenty others out here.You feel like he's the only one because you're in love,but once you get over him,you'll see that he's not the only guy for you.Theres plenty more...and you deserve the BEST!God bless.
Reply:WOW. Um i can really feel your heart %26amp; your pain so-to-speak. U are young and me too, im in my 20's. Anywho there is room for someone else who will treat u the way u deserve, not 50% but 100%...YES these men are hard as hell to find but i gotta believe that they're out there. Hun i truely think u should move on. Closing one chapter and starting a new one could be a better and fresh start. U wont know this until u try, and dont give up. U have become comfortable with him and thats your main problem. It's like loving someone who cheated on u with your best friend; U hate what they did but yes u will always love that person. Yet what he did wouldnt ever go away. Whats done is done. People will never learn from their wrongs unless they are taught %26amp; if they want to. He's a user. People can only do what u tolerate. We all wanna be happy but u cannot sit there and look yourself in the face and say "IM HAPPY"...the only thing u are doing is trying to overlook the monster in him because u are happy when u block out those bad things. Thats not real hun. Face those things. Truely go throug them %26amp; then leave his ***. Have u even mended? Please look to your future and yourself. Do good things for u. Put you first for once. Hun u have to mend before u begin again.





If you do decide to stay with im (I HOPE U DONT), ask him how does he feel about u. And if it sounds like BS then it is. We have feelings to feel things. We usually know when we've been had. Dont be a desperate lonely fool. U will get through. And i say all of this with experience %26amp; luv ok.


He's not the one for u. Infact he shouldnt be with anyone until he's gotten himself together. Time is what ALL of u need.
Reply:move on
Reply:you made up your mind. that's clear. i usually only answer posts from people who want help. however this one just hit me so hard i had to say something. you already said you know you deserve better. so my question is, why are you settling for less? you dont' love him. check out God's definition of what love really is in the bible. 1 Corinthians 13. love is NOTHING of what he does/is. you do not love him. you are in a mad and crazy lust for him. you have to pull yourself together and face reality or it will kick you in the butt. trust me. i was there and i came back stronger. it's your call, hon. stay on your knees crying or get up and be the strong woman you can be. btw...i'm in my 20's too and i did it.
Reply:love him
Reply:screw him. hes no the one for you. im sure that there are plenty of guys out there for u and the perfect one might just be waiting for u. move on!
Reply:almost the same thing that happen to me i was deeply in love with this boy and we went out for 6 months but then he dumped me 4 some1 else and i still loved sooo much and i told him how i felt about him and then he asked nme back out a week after and now we have been going out 4 2years!!!!


just tell him how u feel about him and he mightask u back out
Reply:For one, he is a jerk, and you dont deserve someone like him. Move one and find someone who actually is telling you the truth.
Reply:umm i just want to tell you that not all people are liar and cheater maybe he feels some other thing like being your bestfriend or your boyfriend...But if I'm the one who is in your condition or situation I would rather not to be his friend forever make anew life and you wil find other I just wish you wil not be angry on my answer