What is really love?

True love is not only hard to find, it’s also hard to tolerate. Such an idea may seem counterintuitive, but if you ponder it long enough to really get it, it could change the way you think about love.


All of us have been wounded in some way, either by early love relationships or later ones. Naturally, we create defenses to avoid getting hurt again - but we also maintain defenses against love itself. Why? Because loving responses from others cause us anxiety and sadness. Love hurts, as the song goes. So unconsciously we do a little dance to avoid being truly loved. It tilts our world and creates anxiety. Sometimes it’s easier to settle for the illusion. We create fantasy relationships that my have the outward signs of commitment, but which lack the joys and tensions of real love. We don’t have to worry about losing something if we don’t actually have it to begin with.





so what is love? why do we all feel like if we are missing somrthing that we can't ever find?


you tell me!!!?

What is really love?
When you first find yourself attractive to someone...it's either the physical or the intellectual portion.


Normal behavior consumes us in that matter and the first instinct is a sexual behavior that brings on fantasy ands that is what you have to be careful about because once that fantasy is full filled then you have nothing left to desire.





So lets say she sleeps in bed with him and then all of a sudden he's not interested anymore and makes her feel violated, but if you seek out the relationship first and leave sex out of it then you will have started the best step in finding true love. It will either glow or not. If the candle burns then pursue it with kindness and learn to be Friends...good friends and what prevails after that will either lock you in or cast you out and if your casted out at least you didn't have to be violated in the process.
Reply:Love is an emotion. An emotion is, an activety in 'the Human Nerve System'. In conjunction with, seperate parts of the Brain.


Therefor the emotion of LOVE can be completely controlled, just like Anger, Fear, Hate, Disgust, Jealousy, Happiness and Sadness. When That Happens, I Doubt I'll Still Be Alive ! !





"why do we all feel like if we are missing somrthing that we can't ever find?"


You have just described, the emotion felt by everyone. Who has ever felt anything, for anything and about anything.





You aren't, 'Love Lost'. You have been given 'No Thanks, don't come knocking' and you don't know what to do about it.


Well, don't worry about it. Things will either improve, get worse or stay the same and only by changing your 'Persona'.


Can you make any difference, %26amp; I say 'I am what I am, like it or leave cause I'm not changing'
Reply:Love is overrated. . .





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Reply:Love is Commitment...committed to another person so much so that you would give up your own life for them, along with all your possessions....and it is a life-long commitment....something most today seem to know nothing about. The media and the press and peers all have much to do with our conception that love has to be like a fairy tale...leading to this feeling that we might be missing out on something better....hope this answers both of your questions.
Reply:the simplest way to answer that is supose you were apeace of a puzzle an supose all the people in the world was peaces of a puzzle an after having relationships with lots of other


puzzles one day you found nice puzzle that you an him fit


perfectly an then you have found love at last.So be patiance


an you will find that hansome charming puzzle soon
Reply:WOW no doubt you've hit the most it -- what is it?? if you find the person that can answer that question I'll tell he's a liar- LOVE is many things to many different people.. there are risk that we should be willing to take, hrtsand pains that we should be willing to experience. But true love will give you some one who's there to share those times with. the one person you can feel comfortable with
Reply:you know I would like to know the same thing!!! I dont think I have ever none what love is!
Reply:I know where you are at ... leave it at that...soon...........
Reply:Love starts as a perception outside of realistic context, where it goes after that depends on too many circumstances beyond our control.
Reply:"love is when you cant fall asleep at night bc u finnaly realized reality is better than your dreams" also on my side of the story with love comes hate bc without one the other couldnt exist the trojan war supposedly happened over a girl. also if you love someone youll soon be scared and wonder if they continue to love you back even though if some things they say dont make u feel that way....
Reply:look its sex, were on;y on earth for what 80 years don't wast you live with one person get out there
Reply:Well I know I'm a boy girls never listen to boys! Love, to me means finding that you truly have the same feelings and thoughts as another person. Because the people who have the most in common with us may be jerks, that is why we are always missing something.
Reply:i think love about being hurt and being heartbroken....


love is unfamiliar territory to some people and i think that


as you live you'll keep learning what love really is...everyone has their own definition of love...
Reply:onestly, love is nothing but trouble some people feel its not but in truth it is. Once you find it the person u love turns out notr to love u and you fall apart. Its better to ignore that stuff.