Love him but not his weight.?

I broke up with my ex-boyfriend 6 months ago for various reasons. Those reasons have now been resolved. We were together for 2 years. I love this man very much, and he is still madly in love with me. He's a good man.





There's only 1 thing stopping me from getting back together with him. I am no longer attracted to him. He's gained a lot of weight over the last year, and it's killed my desire for him. I feel shallow for saying it, but it's the truth. I love him so much, i love being around him, and talking to him, and cuddling. We talk almost every spare second we have. It would kill me if I couldn't have this man in my life.





I love everything about him except his weight. And yet I doubt myself because if I truly loved him, wouldn't his weight not matter? What should I do? And how can I be fair to him? I don't want to hurt him.

Love him but not his weight.?
There could be underlying reasons why his weight is a problem. It may be that you have a fear of losing him due to health reasons. Talk to him. Explain to him that you are afraid of losing him. Work out an exercise program that you can do with him. Watch your weight and exercise together. This will not only bring you closer together, the two of you will be getting healthy and loving every bit of the time you spend together.





There is no reason you could give up on a good man because of something you can help him with and it will make your relationship better. He'll love you even more for showing him how much you really do care
Reply:Well, you can always ask him to go with you to a gym or ask him if he wants to join you on a walk. I wish you luck with that, but don't let the weight get in the way. Love is love and you both deserve each other. Once again, I wish the best for you and him.
Reply:Ok first of all get off your high horse either you love him or you dont. When you get married what does the priest say do you so and so take this man to be your husband in good or bad, in sickness or health till death do you part. You know its girls like you that kill it for the nice guys. They say nice guys dont finish last but they do. Look at you this guys is mad for you and you have feelings for him to but becuase hes fat you wont date him,. What is the tables were turned and you were fat do you think hed take you back.
Reply:man..well at least u dnt have to worry bout his jr. down stairs being as small..but you kno wat i love my boyfriend and everythng bout him including jr.jr.jr!!sireously i've had bigger but like i said if its really love then it shouldnt matter at ALL!!
Reply:SHALLOW!!!! Very much so..... If you loved the man as much as you 'claim' to love him; Then itz not whats on the outside that disgusts you, itz your preferences that stops you from seeing the inner beauty...
Reply:sorry but i think thats kinda shallow.





if you truly love someone you should love everything about that person.





i guess its not gonna work...
Reply:Sounds like to me that you have some unresolved issues. If you truly love somebody then it doesn't matter what they look like to you. True love knows no bounds, and weight is not immune to this.
Reply:You love him and you love being with him. Just tell him (as tactfully as possible) that his gaining weight bothers you and maybe he and you could start working out at a gym or learn to dance or something else physical?


If that's the only thing keeping both of you apart, and he started to make effort to change it, then you got an ideal situation! Best of luck with this. And btw he probably will be a bit hurt from hearing that but sometimes being honest does hurt. And if he ends up losing weight, it'll be good for both of you! (He;ll be healthier and you'll be happier).
Reply:If you truely love this man as you say you do than whats holdin you back. Dont let something like his weight get in the way of your feelings. You two can go out for walks and such to help him with that issue and in the long run you will be with the one you love.
Reply:Thats so low. you dont actually love him if his weight is a huge problem. either get over it and get back together with him and love him and his weight. or get over him because he derves better and someone who loves everything about him. get real.

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