Is love controlled by "free will" just like any other actions? Are we predestined to love a specific person?

If a higher power has given us "free will" to make our own desicions and learn from our mistakes as well as take responsibility for what we do. Does that apply to love as well? Do we only love the ones we WANT to love?


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Are we predestined to love a person since our birth or even before (even a past life, if they exist)? Is the 'love of our life' a preset person? Does fate/destiny control all our actions in relation to love??

Is love controlled by "free will" just like any other actions? Are we predestined to love a specific person?
I don't know if I really believe destiny determines who you love, but I do know there are people out there that are going to seem as if it's so, because they will just naturally be so compatible. When you find someone like that, you will "want" to love them, but again, there is really no way for us to know if that was planned, or if it simply IS.





FALLING in love is easy. STAYING in love, no matter with whom, is work. It takes caring, committment, compromise and communication. And, as you say, it takes being willing to take responsibility for what you do.
Reply:Controversy exists on the theory our true loves today were our true loves in another lifetime. No solid proof on that one.





I don't belive there's just ONE true love out there for us; I think many exist. However, it is our own fate to find them, get to know them...and choose to share our lives with them (both past and present).





I suspect God knew this and it's the reason He laid down the rules and vows of marriage; we as "civilized" man laid down the rules of courtship to co-exist w/ marriage.
Reply:i dont really believe in a predestined love or soul mate those kind of things


i believe that if you love a person and that person loves you back, two of you need to work it out to make the "love" happens





wait... i think i'm not answering your Q


sorry... just wanna share what i think =)
Reply:If we are I wish mine would hurry up and get here I am so tired of waiting. But I think thats probably true because I do believe... (remember this is only my belief) that the higher power who is god actually did plan for us to do his will whether we did it or not. I believe there was a plan. I may have missed the boat with my guy but hopefully god will forgive me and give me somebody else.
Reply:who really knows it might be that each and every person makes that decision for themselves. i beleive there is someone out there for everyone, but, most people mess it up by becomeing to involved with waiting for that right person that they push them away. or there in such a herry to find them that everyone is there right person and they will never know. i beleive just take it how it is enjoy it and live it to the best you can.