I dont love my boyfriend should I dump him??

Ok I dont think I love my boyfriend, and Ive told him this and he doesnt seem to mind so much as he says he loves me. The thing is I'm not even sure I believe in love. I can see how people love their family's , and even pets but I dont really believe in the whole couple love.


Im not sure why I dont believe in it but I think its just because Iv'e never felt this supposedly powerful feeling for another.


My problem is that I dont think I love my boyfriend but does that really matter?





Ive been with him for 2 years and we live together. When we first got together it was all exciting and new but now its just dull. We dont ever talk and hes very affectionate but thats about it. As I dont believe in love I'm unsure what to do, as I wont fall in love with anyone else. But theres just no spark. I dont feel attracted to him at all anymore.





However I dont want to hurt him, and I don't want to dump him then regret it. I also wonder if its because Im stressed at work.


Help!

I dont love my boyfriend should I dump him??
yes give him the boot, b4 he makes you hoot,!
Reply:If you dont know if you love him or not try picture your life without him would you miss him or would you be ok without him...try telling him how you feel ..Try doing things you haven't done in a long time things you did when you first got together and don't do anymore go and do something that would bring you closer ...if any of that does rekindle was a long time ago then maybe you just have to let go try to be just friendss ..You have to belive in love for love to belive in you ...but you have to open to it if you close to it your never going to find it ..there are many ways to love someone ..but to be in love you would just beable say i am theres and they are mine ...You can't make something happen thats not ment to be time tells all but you have to be happy you can't just sit there and do nothing and expect happyniess to come to your relionship again ...you have to do you first..i wish you the best and i hopr you find your answer ...
Reply:Wow that sucks. I have been with my boyfriend and we still look at each other with such love and we are still very into each other, just like it was in the beginning but it is stronger. If I felt like you do, I would try to change some of the things that you do, not just get rid of him because you have invested alot of time already. If you don't think you are capable of falling back in love with him then dump him and don't waste any more of your time., However, if there is a chance you both can plan romantic nights, change your dull routine to get that spark back, or even try new things together to get past this hump, then you won't regret trying to get that feeling back and it might be worth holding on to. good luck sweetie, no matter what-trust your instinct. There is nothing stronger than a woman's gut feeling.
Reply:talk to him more.. do stuff with together.. and just go out together and hold his hand...but remember you can't just anticipate love, if you do that it will never happen..just go with the flow
Reply:you seem to have issues. You probably should wait it out because like you said you have stress at work. Lots of times work stress can seep into the relationship. If the guys crazy in love with you you should really give it a shot, maybe see a councelor for your -love- issues and if you still feel the same way, then break up with him
Reply:Just say "Sweetie, I know this may break your heart, but I really would rather just stay friends." And then apologize and either move out or tell him to move out.
Reply:Don't stress. All you have to do is follow your heart. It will help you understand if he's the right man for you.
Reply:Do it nicely
Reply:I can fell for you. WHen I was married for the first time I used to listen to other wives at my MOthers of twins club talk about how much they loved their husbands and how much they loved being married and I just sat there and told myself that they were full of it.......that there was no such thing and that they were trying to convince themselves that they were really happy. I also believed that there was no such thing as good sex......


Then I divorced him and years later married a guy that I have known since college. Now I know that it wasn't that love didn't exist - I just didn't love my ex............


Get rid of him and find yourself someone that makes you happy. You might be like me and change your mind.
Reply:I think sometimes, you have to let something go, to realize how much it means to you. You may love him and not really realize it yet...and space for a little while may help you to realize it. Also, you may find with some space that you really don't love him, and are happier without him (and if you really don't love him, as you think you don't, then he'll eventually be happier without you too!)





I'd say give the relationship a break, and see what happens
Reply:Everyone gets hurt in life. If you don't want to be with him anymore dump him! Life is too freakin short...
Reply:dump him for me
Reply:if u do not love him then u should dump him.
Reply:just tell him you need time out of time to think !!
Reply:dump him i guess
Reply:sounds like your not happy. Love comes naturally when you are with someone you wnjoy spending time with.
Reply:Well isn't it pointless to ate someone you don't care about?
Reply:Maybe its time to seddle down and have kids
Reply:well you can and find somebody else that you are interested in or maybe you guys can get closer to each other and talk more and then you can realize how good of a person he really is.
Reply:If you have something good keep it.
Reply:Yes love matters. And living with a guy only makes you hate them. The longer it gets drawn out, the worst it will become. Leave before you cheat and destroy your character.
Reply:Taken from a woman who had dated her husband for three years and has been married for another 14, I can tell you that will have times when you feel dull with the relationship.





You are comfortable together and that's not a bad thing. Relationships are like that. When they are established, they aren't always aflame.





Maybe what you need is a separation to determine how you really feel. That way you can decide if you really do love him. Because you may love him and not realize it, because you have an ideal that makes you think you should always be on fire with passion.





It doesn't work that way.





I see you say you don't ever talk. That is a relationship warning sign. If you can't talk to him about the way you feel or you don't communicate with him, then, you are on the road to disaster.





Maybe you both have become to complacent.





My suggestion is to talk with him first, see how he feels with things. Maybe he's not feeling any spark, either. Let him know how you feel and then, take a break from each other and see if a spark returns.





I don't think you know what love is supposed to be because you have some crazy idea of how you think it should be. [I am saying this kindly, not nastily.]
Reply:Finish it.





He's either hoping that you'll change your mind, or he'd rather have anyone than no-one.





This might seem harsh, but find yourself somewhere else to live first though. I can tell you from bitter personal experience how difficult it can be to live with someone you're no longer in a relationship with.
Reply:I guess I say you should talk it over with him and see if he understands. If you regret dumping him its not worth getting back together cause there's probably a great chance your problem will repeat it's self.


GOOD LUCK!
Reply:hello , i think the right question is should be am i reciprocating his love. one sided love is very unfair to any party but yet the mere fact you are still staying with him is because there is something holding you back pity maybe of your worry not to hurt his feeling that my friend is care and it means you still love. if the spark you are worried try to be the one to rekindle it sometimes it is nice to try to start things from you before expecting others to do it. i hope you can work out the relationship of two years . but if you are really done and over then go leave your own life you can live with him beside you right.





good luck
Reply:you'll hurt him more if you stay with him in a love-less relationship. break it to him nicely. explain to him how you feel and that you need your space to find the right guy, to sweep you off your feet.
Reply:First of all, you don't say how old you are. Are you a teen, in your 20's, etc. It makes a difference.





LOVE EXISTS, unfortunatly not as much as it did in my day, you just have to find it. Don't go by these Hollywood stars that are married one month, then divorced the next.





It sounds to me that here wasn't much love in your family, (your parents, siblings, etc.) and it rubbed off on you.





First, Don't have sex until you're sure you want to stay with him.





Do some crazy things together, go to the park and watch the other lovers. Go to an amusement park, If you've got a lake or pond nearby, go wading, you don't have to go in deep, just up to your knees, just drive around to see the sights (take a camera), walk through the woods, I once took my future wife for a hand in hand walk through the woods; there wasn't anyone else around, and I was felling "horny" . I stopped her and told her that I wanted us to go back deeper in the woods and have sex. She said no, and that I was crazy. I tried to talk her into in, but she refused -- so, we didn't. But I thought that was a great idea. On the drive home she put her hand in just the right spot -- if you know what I mean!!!





You could also be extravagant -- if you have children ship them out to Gramma's for the day, then pull all the blinds down in your home, you both take all your clothes off, and play tag with each other; the loser has to ......! (fill in the blank yourself).
Reply:Its only fair not to string him along anymore.
Reply:Dump him.
Reply:I was in you shoes about 7 months ago. i was with a girl but i did not love her. also like you it was fun at the start but got real dull at the end. we broke it off, it was hard at first but as time went on is was the best thing that happend to me in the past 2 years. i was free. so i think you should let him know it is not personal but you would like to move on. it might take two or 3 times breaking up with him to make it final but it is well worth it. Life is to short to share it with someone you dont love!!!
Reply:You should give the relationship a break. Try living with a friend or family member for a few weeks and see if you still feel the same way. Sometimes when you're always with someone you forget how much they mean to you and you don't realize how much you'd miss them if they were gone.





You probably don't talk much because there's nothing left to say. If you're with each other all the time then the other person would know any stories you'd tell them. You both should probably go out more that way when you're with each other there's somthing to talk about and it's not so boring since you're not together all the time.





And stress could definitely have something to do with it. Try taking a day or two off so you can catch up on missed work or even just to pamper yourself and destress.