Love my wife with all my heart but she is not in love with me?

I love her with all my heart but she tells me she loves me but is not in love with me. I don't understand this, how can you love someone and but have any feeling in your heart for them. We have 2 kids together so i guess there must have been some love at some time. She is a stay at home mother and maybe that is part of the problem she/us don't have a social life at all. Go home have dinner watch tv go to sleep. We sleep in the same bed but no sex.


I don't know what to do. We are going to try consuling and see how that goes. I hurt her in the past emotional is all but she says that she can forgive that but she does not forget. She is a very stubern person and does not forgive that easy.


Some advice would be nice on what to do.

Love my wife with all my heart but she is not in love with me?
Well maybe you need to try and "date" her again. You are in a rut and I can bet you money that she is ready to walk out the door. It is very easy to love someone and NOT be in love with them. Totally different things. Good luck with the counseling.
Reply:I totally understand your point, but I also understand hers. I have been married for 15 yrs, I got married when I was 16 with my first and only boyfriend. I loved my husband from the moment our eyes connected. The only problem in our marriage is that he never grew up, I had a problem with his friends( not just any friends, but gang bangers) I have stayed by his side through the good and the very bad. When I told him he needed to stop, he didn't care, I also believe he cheated on me with one of those girls who hung around all those guys. My heart is very heavy, because in those 15 yrs my life has been nothing but trying to do everything possible to make him see what he was missing out of. Now our 14 yr old son has allot of animosity towards him. He has hurt my children and myself ( not physically) but emotionally. And to tell the truth I wish that if it was physically, I would not be here, I would of left him. you see just because someone says that they forgive you, it doesn't mean that they will forget. I love my husband but I am not in love with him anymore.


If you really love her the way you say you do, talk to her and tell her that even though she can't forget all those hurtful things you will try to make her the happiest wife alive. And mean it.! you have your work cut out for you. I hope she can one day forget! GOOD LUCK.
Reply:Since you say you hurt her emotionally in the past, she has probably put up "walls" to protect herself from any future hurts.


Counseling will probably help. BE HONEST to the counselor, with your wife, and about yourself.


Then DO the things the counselor suggests. It may take time, but eventually, you may get her trust back and her love.
Reply:Good luck to you and I hope everything works out ok for you two. However if she continues to love but not be in love with you then you need to make a decision. Are you going to stay in that kind of relationship or are you going to end it and find someone else who will be in love with you and interested in you.
Reply:Very simply, married life can get boring!! UNLESS, you nurture it...regularly...it can't always be about the kids...take her out for a surprise dinner,just the 2 of you and DON'T talk about the kids...try to remember what it was like before you got married...if the spark is still there you CAN ignite it...trust me, we've been down that rocky road and have never looked back...married 13 years with 4 kiddies...it's rough, but you have the love still there and if you make her feel special again,your one and only,it's all downhill from there.Make time for vacations(not Disneyland!)for just the 2 of you...this will help you connect again.


Good luck to you both!
Reply:Your wife is pulling out the sorry-***, lazy "I love you but am not in love with you" excuse for not wanting to put work into her marriage anymore. Counseling is a step in the right direction. Maybe it would be a good idea for you guys to start courting again. Start getting a babysitter friday or saturday nights and take her out. Get to know her again and have a good time together. Sometimes couples get stuck in a routine and life gets dull. They think they're not in love when really they're just bored. Maybe there is a play group in your area, where she can take the kids to play and socialize with other moms as well. Good luck.
Reply:It's not about forgivenes. It's about her not being interested in your marriage anymore.





Do you think this lady astronaut (who didn't care for her marriage) was interested in the guy that was blowing her off?





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ORLANDO, Fla. - Florida prosecutors charged an astronaut Friday with trying to kidnap a romantic rival, but they declined to file an attempted murder charge recommended by police.





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Lisa Nowak, 43, was formally charged almost a month after she was arrested at an Orlando airport parking lot.





Police have said the Houston mother of three had raced 900 miles in her car from Texas to Orlando on Feb. 5 to confront a woman she saw as a rival for another astronaut's affections. She donned a wig and trench coat, then sprayed a chemical into the woman's car when she wouldn't let Nowak in, police said.





In addition to attempted kidnapping to intent to inflict bodily harm, state prosecutors charged Nowak on Friday with burglary with a weapon and battery.





A spokesman for Nowak's attorney declined to comment because he hadn't seen the charges. Nowak is free on bond with an ankle tracking device.





Nowak believed Colleen Shipman was romantically involved with Navy Cmdr. William Oefelein, a pilot during space shuttle Discovery's trip to the space station last December, according to police. After the confrontation, Shipman drove to a parking lot booth for help.





Nowak had been a top astronaut who flew on Discovery last summer and won praise for operating the shuttle's robotic arm. NASA relieved her of all mission duties after her arrest.
Reply:say goodbye to her mate life is too short for that !


move on keep in touch with kids and find someone who loves you...
Reply:Dude,





You Need to Date Your Wife......She is Bored Stiff.

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