The love of my life got married. Tips for moving on and healing appreciated.?

I have been in love with this man for almost 14 years. For one reason or another, we have been unable to stay in touch over the years. We reunited last year and I found out that he was engaged to another woman. We both professed our love for one another but he felt unable to do anything about it because he had already asked this woman to marry him and for the past three years, he was very ill (possible cancer) and she has been by his side the whole time. He told me that though he loves her, he is in love with me. Naturally I told him that the choice was up to him. He could marry a woman because he loves her and feels he owes it to her to marry her or he could be true to everyone involved and be with the woman he is in love with. He chose to marry her and I have since cut all contact with him as it is the right thing to do. Everyday I miss him and I doubt I'll ever stop loving him. How do I move on with such an ache in my heart? I'm crushed. Help!

The love of my life got married. Tips for moving on and healing appreciated.?
Boy that's a tough one. I guess you'll have to just start dating and try to forget. It won't be easy but if you truly want to more on this is what you have to do. It won't do you any good to sit and feel sorry for yourself for the rest of your life. Good luck.
Reply:Sorry to hear that happened to you. But really, a guy who is engaged who is telling another woman that he loves her isn't a guy you want to end up with anyway.





How would you feel if YOU stood by his side, was about to be married to him, and he was off telling girl #2 that he still loves her? Its awful.





The ache will pass - go out into the world, meet new people date other people (don't worry if you're not interseted yet, you will be soon). This guy is sick in more ways than one. Hang with girl friends. Oh yea - never, ever, ever call him again.
Reply:I understand your pain. I thought i had it bad. My ex recentely got married with another gurl but claims he still loves me but it hurts really bad. It was really bad for me because I felt vulnerable to him for many reasons. I hurt for months and months but i finally came to the conclusion of acceptance that he has found another life with some one else and is happy living it. At first it hurt really REALLY BAD but I cired my *** off and that really Helpedand some time passed since then and things have been better.





I think as woman we become dependent on certain men and i beleive now more than ever that its better to accept the truth than to suffer wasting time living a lie.You must accept the truth. Work on your inner issues that have you so stuck to him and free yourself from the chains of being so stuck on him.





Honestly YOU SHOULD NOT LOVE HIM anymore. He's happy in his own life NO MATTER what he tells you otherwise he wouldnt be in that place in LIfe. Realize that men are very sneaky and even tho we care about them, they might not see it the same and it could be a big possibility that he's LEADING YOU ON.





Dont worry one day things will be a lot better than you ever imagined and you'll look back wondering why you wasted so much time when you could have been living the life of your dreams. That goes for me too. E-mail me if you wish and i wil give you more advice. foreverconcrete@yahoo.com





The recently broken hearted one as well who definetely feels your pain.
Reply:well i mean a guy i was once in love with did something like that. but it took a while to get over him. but when you finally do your heart just feels so much better knowing that you can do stuff again. keep your head up and dont let that bring you donw. maybe try dating someone again.